Addicted To Marijuana

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im in high school and just recently as in 30 minutes ago, i started to slowly really crave weed, normaly i just smoke weed every other weekend with my friends, but then soon i started to smoke most weekdays and i am fully aware that i have a problem and am starting to become addicted. if anyone has any tips to help fight this, please let me know.

Hello, there are programs for people with weed addictions. Join one of them. I have a 17 yr. old son who will eventually be kicked out of our house if he doesn't give it up. He is a monster to deal with and we have been through the court system with him. The irony is, we haven't been able to get him help, even at the age of 13 years because the laws in Canada determine that you can't 'force' even a 13 year old into treatment. These children do not know what is best for them and shouldn't be able to make the decision for themselves. Now it is too late, and he is going down the wrong path. We've charged him ourselves when he was selling marijuana. Now, he has a part-time job, but it takes a full hour of yelling, arguing and fighting with him every morning to get him to school. We're not even sure he will finish high school. For those of you who have identified yourselves as having a huge problem with weed are obviously not enjoying your lives. If you want help, it is there. Ask your doctor, ask your family to help you get through this, if my son asked me for help, I'd drop everything in a heartbeat to help him. Detoxing and programs can be costly, but they may be worth it to get your life back. The THC in marijuana bye the way is certainly not harmless. I love my son, but for nearly 5 years now, my family is going through a living hell. I've cried so many tears for him, I didn't think I had any tears left to shed. I'm now just bitter and angry. He has become someone that I do not even like. My husband and I both went through our own teen years not trying drugs, neither of us has smoked pot, nor do we wish to. We barely drink. Our daughter tried pot once and did not like it. When we found out, she was upset and asked if we were disappointed in her. I knew she was going to be OK, because she cared. My son is selfish and miserable. I think I'm going to have to let go, and although there will be no relief for my misery in that, at least things will not be broken, and I will not have to endure verbal abuse every day. He is just not normal any more.

Listen, you may learn something. Cannabis is NOT addictive, physically anyway. Its a mental thing, if anything at all. I KNOW the difference between a physical addiction and mental addiction. I grew cannabis for 20 years, PROUDLY! I smoked it daily, and enjoyed every minute doing it. Unfortunately I had various major surgeries during those 20 years and in the last 5 years became addicted to opiates to control the pain from them. Opiates ARE a physical addiction, just try quitting them after daily use for some period of time, you WILL get very, very, ill. Now I'm on methadone, a methadone maintenace program. Well, unfortunately the fuzz busted me for cultivation, put me on probation, and while I was on probabtion I had to give clean UA's, no cannabis but methadone was OK. Well, after 20 continuous years of cannabis use, I had NO problems, issues, whatsoever when I quit using the cannabis. And let me say while I was on the "evil weed", hehehe, I went to college, got a Bachelor of Science degree and followed it up with a Master's degree, in Chemistry. So its an individual thing. If you can't deal with life's problems and issues while your on cannabis, you won't be able to do so when your off it either. Matter of fact we all find something, whether it be sex, drugs, rock n roll, or religion, that makes us feel better, admit it. Quit blaming a simple plant for your significant others lame characteristics.

Firstly, If some of you parents think your kids are being evil monsters while on weed, I challenge you to imagine your children without the influence of marijuana (post insinuated detox), or worse yet, addicted to alcohol. Marijuana= mellow. Right now at worst, a lack of motivation and responsibility may be attributed to smoking weed, however, these are problems that all kids exhibit, and I can PROMISE you that getting rid of marijuana use is not going to be the magical single tiered solution to these issues. I'm not promoting childhood drug use-- I think it complicates problems, and I would much rather see people grow up learning how to cope without dependence on chemical substances. However, I challenge you parents to sincerely examine the SOURCE of your children's problems, to avoid missing additional opportunities to engage in assisting your kids instead of blaming everything on an outside source. Open conversations and serious discussions of issues done out of love with dominance sincerely left out of the picture are more powerful than you might think. Your kids are people too, as much as you would like to think they are incapable of making their own decisions. The fact is they can and they will with or without your consent or input, so helping them develop the critical thinking skills to make the best decisions is in both of your best interests, and it creates a sense of trust between you. Mind you trust of this nature needs to be compartmentalized to the issues until the relationship works itself onto a higher level. My point is, being dictatorial with the people you care about--kids, husbands, etc.-- does not work, nor will it inspire them to stop smoking weed. It will make them feel judged and belittled and will inspire them to heal their emotional wounds with their habits. Throw an ultimatum into the mix, and you get feelings of being unloved, unconsidered, and the sense that you're being thrown into a position of uncontrollable subordination. How would you feel? What if you were a strongly habitual eater of chocolate or drinker of coffee and someone blamed all your issues on these habits, then made you feel this way? It no longer becomes a renunciation of drug use, it becomes a rejection of the person. At least thats how its perceived most often.

Secondly, I've known many highly successful people who use marijuana on a consistent basis, doctors, lawyers, house wives, mothers, grandparents, politicians, artists, businessmen, teachers, including myself. I smoked every day while pursuing my masters at an Ivy League school. I do it to shut my brain off so I can sleep. It is VERY possible to use it without being a neurotic mess. I would argue that at least 30-40% of the total people I know are very responsible consistent users. And most of the people I encounter who are neurotic and confused about life are non users who could use a hit from the bong. If you encounter a pot smoker with issues, I can promise you that there is a 99% chance that these problems would exist without weed, and that the situation is circumstantial. Please note, I did not state 100%. Stopping the use of marijuana could very well be a necessary step for some people to get where they want to go, but that is a highly person decision IMO.

Thirdly, if your husband has been smoking for 10 years without you divorcing him and all the sudden you come at him with an ultimatum, I'd characterize that as wildly inconsistent. You either accept the use or you don't, and if you're waiting for the experience within the relationship to define how you feel about it, you most definitely do not wait 10 years to all the sudden use weed to create an either/or choose-weed-or-your-family type of situation. I think thats really bitchy. Be honest about your issues. I'm not saying you're unjustified in wanting a divorce, but don't underestimate the value of having a solid, well thought out, fair and dignified way of justifying your argument. By blaming weed, you also provide him with an excuse, something for him to blame his behavior on that diminishes the responsibility you allow him to carry for his actions, same with your kids who use. Make them own their lives and their decisions. We're not talking about crack, meth or heroin here.

Thanks, love and learning,

A Concerned Reader

I have been an addict for a great number of years. And, of this time, I have used my drug of choice, marijuana, for more than 26 years. I am successful and well educated. I have an average family life and good health. The truth is this: while marijuana has little negative effect on the body, aside from the obvious smoking risks, it is still an object of addiction. Yes, marijuana is incredibly safer than alcohol; but, that is not the point. Addiction is not about what is safer or what is legal. Addiction is about the way in which a particular object fits into your life and the negative effects thereon. Addiction is never a good thing.

my husband's been an active marijuana smoker for the past 7 years, and so are his friends. Non of his friends and him are ever addicted. My husband could stop smoking if he wants to and wouldn't be feel the addiction. (He stopped recently for 6 months, because we had to do an important medical exam) Maybe marijuana just have different addiction affects on different people. I think marijuana smokers are the most intelligent and successful drug users compared to any other drugs. i do agree addiction is never a good thing. good luck with everything!

DUDES....

Marijuana IS NOT physically addictive, like heroin or cocaine. Your body will NOT go into withdrawal if you stop smoking. It is really pretty much harmless - unless you get baked every day for a long period of time. Obviously, that isn't a smart thing to do to your lungs or brain.

However, pot can become emotionally addictive. Especially for people who are apt to try and avoid responsibilities, or are just plain bored and have nothing to do. Besides, it feels good, and makes music/tv a little more interesting. Who wouldn't want that? So, given a choice between smoking your weed and not smoking your weed, you usually will smoke your weed.

The best thing to do to stop is this: Just smoke it all, and don't buy more. If you have it, you'll smoke it. If you don't, then eventually you ween yourself off the craving to fire up.

Also, you will find that once you stop smoking, you stop snacking. So that's a good benefit too.

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I was an IV meth user from the age of 16. I have since recoverd got married and had 3 wonderful children. (acctualy expecting the 3rd). My husband is addicted to pot! I DID NOT REALIZE YOU COULD EVER GET ADDICTED TO SMOKING POT! I had heard stories in recovery and NA but i smoked it for years without a problem. He Lies constantly. He has a Job in which he gets drug tested. And my oldest who is not his child and i are in a custody battle with his real (Drug addict father). He could be asked for a hair folicle test at any time and i could lose my son and yet he keeps smoking. I have kicked him out and he cries and swears he will stop and still he keeps smoking. As a recovering addict i have no pitty for him honestly just disgust. I hate this. I love him and dont want to leave him but i will because me and my children are better than that. And if it was something like meth or the H i would probly feel more for him but as of right now. HE IS CHOOSING THIS DRUG OVER ME AND OUR CHILDREN! I we are better and deserve more than that. IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME PLEASE LEAVE ME A MESSAGE! We dont have a "bad" relationship! This isnt like him!

i think that it is all in ur head and that it is a horabel thing my freind is addicted to it and all he does is pase back and forth but it is possibel to become non addicted to it my boy friend was addicted for about 8 years and now he couldent care less for it we do every thing to gether it made him a beter person if u can quit do it it will be the best thing you could ever do it helped him and it will help you i promes >:( :-P

Your son does pot, you're "washing your hands of him." AND you think HE'S messed up?! I do not do any sort of drugs but you people talking about "de-familizing" your own children, you are horrible people and parents. And we all wonder why the world is so s****d now-a-days.

my best friend is addicted to weed but she doesnt want to admit it. i want to get her help because I was once addicted to this drug and I dont want to loose her to it. I luckily got a second chance in life by going to rehab. I dont know if she will get that second chance. I need advice badly

Why are you all so ignorant and simple minded? Personally, I don't smoke pot, but I don't judge, unlike you assholes.

Weed is not addictive psychically (there ARE NO withdrawals and if you believe otherwise you're over thinking it/tricking yourself) You wanna see what a real addiction is like? Try tobacco or alcohol. Wanna get even more hardcore? Heroin or Coke. Then you'll realize "Wow, I'm a dumb ass."

This may seem like backwards logic but LET YOUR KIDS SMOKE. This way you'll build trust with them and have a better relationship (I bet you all that "think" your sons addicted to weed and by them going to rehab really isn't doing anything, have they really changed? No)

They will not be in trouble with the law and won't be as compelled to try "harder" drugs. I mean honestly, think rationally, do you really think a cop is gonna bust in your house out of nowhere for no apparent reason? Anyways, you do realize that you don't have to open the door for them?

Every kid I know that has a mom that lets them smoke pot has a VERY good relationship with their mom (even though their moms don't smoke, except for one).

I mean give it a chance, can't hurt anymore than them already doing it without their consent. Stop being so ignorant

Guest wrote: IAM IN THE SAME EXACT PLACE RIGHT NOW !! I FEEL I KNOW YOU !!! MY HUSNAND HAS BEEN SMOKING DOPE SINCE HE WAS 19 YEARS OLD !!! HE IS NOW 47, AND A HUGE MESS !! I DONT WANT TO BE MARRIED ANYMORE TO THIS GUY , BECAUSE WEED IS HIS ONLY LIFE !!!  I DONT SMOKE OR DRINK AT ALL AND IAM A REALLY NICE LADY, HE IS SOOO NASTY TO ME , PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE TYPE.  JUST FELT LIKE POSTING THIS, I CRY A LOT, HE IGNORES ME AND OUR 5-YEAR OLD SON DAILY. HE IS A FAMILY MAN TO HIS PIPE ONLY!!!

amen. im filling for divorce tomorrow:)