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 I've  been married for 12 years  and my husband is amazing in pleasing me. But I can't stop thinking about sex. I find myself wanting more sex now in my mid 30's. Is this normal?  It excites me to see pictures of sexy women but i can honsestly say that I am not into women.  The Idea of touching another women grosses me out . I wake up thinking about sex go to sleep thinking about it. I have considered buying sex toys and I have started to masterbate in the shower for a week now.  Oh and i forgot to mention  my husband has turned me down about 5 times in the last 3 months. Does this happen to anyone else? What is going on with me? I would appreciate any advise, comments, or just what you think.

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The reason you get turned on when you see naked women isn't because you're attracted to women. It has to do with you being able to relate to the woman. For instance, you're watching a movie and there's a sex scene and you get turned on by the naked woman because you can relate to the feelings, sensations, etc... that she's going through.

Many reasons why you're husband turned it down. He could be tired or just not in the mood... he's human, it happens. 

 

As for thinking about sex all the time, it will pass if you start focusing less on sex and MORE on other stuff. That's all there is to it. Put your passion in something you really enjoy other than sex.

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Hi, I can relate to this. I think about sex all the time. My partner is an incredible lover and our sex life is wonderful so it is not like I'm dissatisfied. I think its just how I'm wired. But society expects men to be the ones with tbd high sex drive, not women. It could be rated to hormonal changes, and if it is a real problem you might want to see your doctor. As for your husband not wanting sex occasionally, that's most likely just him being human. Sometimes men don't feel like sex and it often has nothing to do with how they feel about their partner. Relax about it. Don't create problems where they don't exist. Better still, talk to him about it and really listen to how he feels. But make sure you don't make him feel pressured or inadequate. that will kill his desire. And distraction could be the answer, and realising that masturbation is normal and healthy, even if you are married. Enjoy your sexuality. Sexuality does change over time. Some women find their sex drive increases as they age. Then they hit menopause and things change again. Keep it in perspective. Sex is important but so is everything else. Enjoy your husband and relax if he's not interested in sex occasionally. He's not a machine. His sex drive and sexual function will change over time too. Enjoy the kissing and affection without sex. All the best
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