Anxiety and depression for days after binge drinking

Maybe we should keep on contact and e mail each step we are going to take to avoid this disastrous mess !

Exactlybhow I am feeling today after binging last night. So much shame and guilt. My inner voice keeps screaming at me, stuff like you are a stupid weirdo freak, I hate you! I feel absolutely sick and cant focus on anything. Somehow just searching for some empathy online is making me feel better. I signed up for MM today. Moderation Management. Ive been to this site before and liked what I read but didnt get involved. Now I am involved. If I never overdrink again I might not say so much weirdass obnoxious shit. Just makes me cringe to think about it. If I never have another day like today then I might be able to forgive myself for being a weirdo, in time.

I get this feeling of panic also and feel like killing myself. I am male 47 and have part custody of three kids. I think I have ocd also.

I have the exact same thing. The week after binge drinking i get extremely anxious and also unable to sleep. The weird thing is, that i do not experience these symptoms the day or two days after drinking, but rather the days after those days. Anyone experiences this as well?

This is literally my life

I appreciate this post , however I disagree . I have and have always got horrible, gripping , anxiety after drinking binge. I'm 30. But I disagree with your assumption everyone here's an alcoholic. Ive tried AA and it actually made my drinking worse....I was told I was such a " alcoholic" I started to really believe that so I drank more. Anyways, I know it's border line impossible to rid your anxiety, but if your reading this coming of you're binge ( like I am) try to just not give a **** at least for a few days, we're all just human, we all have problems

Are you better now? I know the feeling man all to common to me. It's sad but it will pass soon. I try to put on some soothing music or play a video game. Hope all is well. I'm done drinking!!

Hello everyone. I'm a 33 y/o male and can relate to every single one of your posts. I'm very blessed with my family, career, and life. I had an awesome childhood and have really nothing or no one to blame for my binge drinking. Excessive drinking does not run in my family however I always had light depression even as a kid. Never once was I suicidal in my life but the depression has always been there. During my drinking I always thought I'm young, single, and successful so I deserve to dress up and go out with my friends once every couple of weeks and get wasted. When I was younger in my mid 20"s it was 3-4 times a week. I was always a good kid and never got into drugs or trouble. I never drank in the morning, never drank alone, never had the shakes from not drinking, and never thought about alcohol 24/7 so I assumed I didn't have a problem right? WRONG! I tried everything. Therapy, cutting down, the phone app to count drinks, etc. I tried sticking to only beer or drinking the finest whiskey with a glass of water after each drink. I tried chugging a Gatorade with 3 advils before passing out after a night out in hopes of different results. Excuse my French but same shit new day. Extreme depression and anxiety for 3-6 days after a binge. Listen I really don't want to be "that guy" and break the news but we are alcoholics. I really dislike that word bc there is a stigma attached to it and society has taught us that an alcoholic is a person who drinks every day and all day, lost his home, his family, and lives under a bridge. That theory is far from the truth. I even quit a few times with pure will power. Anyone can for a week, a month, even a year but this is what happens: You start feeling better and forget why you stopped in the first place. It's natural to forget. Your mind begins to play tricks on you and you think it really wasn't that bad and only a phase which I have now outgrown and can now control myself and not get the emotional hangovers. Guess what happens? You drink again and the same vicious cycle repeats itself. Your back to square one. EVERYTIME. The only thing that REALLY worked for me to quit long term and to this day is AA meetings. Before I attended my first meeting in my mind I thought I would be stuck in a room with a bunch of homeless and toothless degenerates that I could not relate to. I was amazed to find young, intelligent, attractive, and successful people just like myself who share the same problem I do. People that have quit for 1,10,20 years. People who if you had met let's say in a business meeting you would NEVER in your wildest dreams thought they had a problem with alcohol. Now don't get me wrong. Not everyone is a saint in there and also there are people who did loose everything, stole, spent time in prison, etc who I can't relate to. The only thing I can relate to is that we all continued doing the same thing (drinking) over and over again expecting different results. I go to meetings every night for 1 hour and what it does is constantly remind me that I do have a problem with alcohol and the reason why I stopped: To never EVER have to feel that disgusting depression and anxiety after binging. That's truly what made me stop. Don't get me wrong I had some awesome times during drinking more when I was younger but was it worth it? Sometimes I think what would have happened if I continued drinking and never quit? Would I eventually years down the line lost my business, family, etc OR would I just had stayed a 2x a month drinker as I was before I quit for good. I will never know. I have met people in the meetings who were casual drinkers for years until a dramatic life event occurred and they fell hard. Its scary. It's like playing with fire or gambling but it's with your life. Either way from my experience AA is the only thing that worked for me long term. If you really are ready to stop and never ever want to feel that dread again I suggest you go to a few meetings and check it out. It will definetley be weird the first few times and may seem like it's a cult but I promise you it's not. It's just normal people just like us who share the same problem. Try to find cool people that you can relate to. You will definetley run into some people that are super natzi about the program and basically traded their addiction to alcohol with the program. I stay away from them. Bottom line and from what I read from everyone's posts is that we are young, intelligent, and good people who share the same problem. Stop trying to overanalyze everything and figure out why you get the dreaded emotional hangovers but your friends don't even though some maybe drink more than you. I did that for years and it held me back. Here's the deal with no sugar coating: we have a drinking problem and the only way to never have to feel the misery after drinking is to quit completely. The madness can be stopped you just have to put a little work into it just like all things in life. Good luck to all and I hope my post can help someone one day.

I hear you loud and clear. It's definitely a struggle. But it has to stop!! Or else it will kill us. I got so drunk the other day that I really thought i lost my wallet.. That thing has everything near and dear to me in it. I had a female in my house at the time and I swore up and down she stole it.. I was going to confront her but the embarrassment of how I was halted me from making that move. And when I sobered up I found it. I knew this alchohlism was a problem but didn't see the depth of it until recently. When the world as you have kwn it is flashing right before you're eyes and you can't do anything about it. Well actually you can, but the people you've hurt in the process of your binges are fed up. A scary feeling.. Just know it can be done.. A day at a time

I have the same story as many of you. Though ive battled with anxiety most of my life I've found this current bout is still going because I'm still drinking on the weekend. It seems like I feel like hell until about Tuesday from drinking Saturday. Its clear what I have to do and I'm just gonna do it. I actually feel blessed that I realized this before I became full on addicted. It will be hard on my nerves and ego to not drink around friends but the alternative is so much worse. I cant spend 3 or 4 days a week in sheer terror just for a fun weekend. It's simply not worth it.

My turn.... my family doesnt know i drink. So when im able to, i binge. I started sunday night... was supposed to go home monday night but had to come up with an excuse that work is keeping me away because i binged too much. My wife..kids... home alone while i binge and do embarrassing things. I almost fucked up my employment by not being available like i should have been. As always... im completely stressed and worried ...full of anxiety and shame. Do they already know??? Will they find out??? I hate this so much. I hate this feeling. Maybe like others posting here... it helps me to know there are others out there struggling as i am. And hopefully by writing this for all to see will help me take it seriously and change my life. I cant handle this stress and anxiety anymore. Its horibble what ive continued to do to my family through my lying and drinking. I want and need to be better. There it is.

This is exclactly how I feel, do you still feel like this? Has anything helped you?

I ended up binge drinking and eventually even ended up doing some lines of cocaine. This is now 2 days ago. Yesterday I felt so bad I considered jumping out of the window. Today I feel somewhat better but I still feel like absolute shit. Nothing could possibly be worth it. When I think back of the being drunk itself, it wasn't even fun. I 3 days ago I was on top of the world having just landed a new job. Now Monday I have to start my second week on my new job and I feel like absolute shit. I hope I'll shake this feeling by going to bed early. I feel twice as shitty for the fact that I have a family and I only ended up coming home saturday morning after a super rough Friday night of partying. My wife was super pissed off I almost couldn't face her. Things are starting to blow over now but I know for a fact I'm never doing this again. Problem with alcohol in my case is that I drink 3 beers and I'm gone completely out of control and then that shit happens. Screw alcohol and screw drugs and screw smoking even. Life is 100x better if those things wouldn't exist.

You honestly should probably just not drink. I had the same thing always happen to me. If I would get too drunk the night before, I would wake up with SEVERE anxiety (i.e heart palpitations, weird breathing, dizziness from anxiety, etc.). I ended up drinking the next day to avoid it because alcohol helped with my anxiety. Then, I unfortunately became an alcoholic. I don't even drink anymore. Your friends aren't going to understand because they're not suffering from it. You should seriously consider just not drinking and if you do limit yourself to only one beer.

You are the first person to have the same pattern as I did. I never felt too badly the first day or so after a long night drinking. Anywhere from fine to normal hangover symptoms... headache, hungry, etc. But then after a day or so, the depressing feelings and anxiousness would come. And the urge to take a deep breath would be nearly constant. I'm male, almost 44 now, and never had any issues through college or beyond up until age 41. I had a panic attack, I think fueled from excess Halloween candy and alcohol and stress. First time that had ever happened. Never had a problem drinking or recovering or anxiety or panic. Didn't even know what they were. After that I decided to quit drinking for the month of December. Did fine with being quit, and after that is when the after effects of alcohol started. Only after I didn't have a drink for 30 days and went back to it, did I have this shortness of breath and anxious feeling days after drinking. It's very strange. Anyway, if anyone has figured out the connection between getting "the fear" days after drinking, but not the first day after, I would love to find out. I'm all but given up alcohol completely at this point. If I have anything more than two beers in one sitting weekly, I'll have some trouble. That's what brought me here today. I had probably the equivalent of 5 standard vodka drinks and two small glasses of wine over the course of a charity gala on Saturday night. It's now Tuesday and I'm feeling the feeling again.