i have been with my husband for 7yrs had our first kid with in the first year started to notice slight pain in my uturis in a few position's after the second kid the pain got slightly worse and after the third even worse i just had my fourth kid eight months ago and i got my tubes tied but know the pain is so bad that i cant ignor it and my husband is scarded to do any positions cause he thanks im lying to him about not hurting which i am but when i say dosent hurt it the bearable pain!!! im just tired of lying and ready for answers
Hello,
i don't know if anyone can give me some advice Or educate me a little. I've been with my partner now for 4 years and everything has been good sexual wise, but this last month is killing me. It hurts really bad when we are having sex, sometimes I even have to push him away, for him to back up enough for him to get the picture that it hurts , because he gets really into it, an I feel horrible , because I feel it's another level of connection Besides having a feel good time. The feeling after is like getting your period but a little worse. I just want to cry, it hurts to walk,my stomach hurts an I feel sick an it hurts to go to the bathroom.. and the pain last for about 3 hours sometimes more sometimes less. I just don't understand because this is very new for me. An it only hurts when I'm either in doggy or on my back...it's only certain positions ..if I'm on top it doesn't hurt... I really don't feel like going to the doctor because my doctor knows my family somewhat well, so it's just awkward.. Any advice would help
thanks
what kind of positions?
It takes women 15 to 20 minutes to be fully aroused. FYI. How lubricated you are, is not an indication of arousal. Your vaginal canal also gets lubricated and if you don't give yourself at least 15-20 minutes, you will likely continue to feel the pain. Not many people have 20 mins of foreplay before sex and if you are.. lucky you!
I have been going through the same thing for 5 years. My boyfriend has a 11 inch penis. I have sex about 2 times a month if that since my pain can last up to a few weeks at a time. I asked my mid wife about the pain especially it turned into bleeding and she said that our anatomy are just on the oposite side of the chart. So instead of 5 mins of foreplay make it 15 mins. As well as being well liberated and start slow. by doing that it relaxes the muscles enough for me to take most (not all) of it. So it's more pleasurable for the both of us and not just him.