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I found a really nice doctor and have some suggestions for you who have appointments coming up!! Please read on!

I posted earlier about being prescribed premarin and it not working at all. I get extremely frustrated going to the doctor because it's annoying having to explain my story all over again to someone new. And I hate it when they tell me to "use more lube" or "change laundry detergent." This has been going on for a year and you're the third doctor I've seen, don't you think I've thought of that?!

Anyway, I went ahead and made an appointment at the Women's Specialist Hospital in my city. Before I went, I typed up notes with dates as precise as I could get. I wrote down when the pain started, everything other doctors have tried, everything I've tried, the exact brands of all products I use (laundry, panties, soaps, and soaps my husband uses). I included exactly what kind of burning it was and how it has progresses. I included that it burns when I urinate after sex. I had two pages worth of notes. When the nurse came in to take my blood pressure, I gave her the notes and she gave them to the doctor. This way, the doctor read over everything before even coming in. By the time she came in, she knew exactly what to expect, didn't ask me any dumb questions like "how long do you do foreplay?" etc.. She was very sympathetic and really wanted to help. She admitted this is a really hard thing to diagnose and said there wasn't anything in particular she could say would cure me, but had a couple ideas.

Basically, she didn't why or how this kind of pain starts, but she does know it's a cycle. For some reason the pain started. Maybe I did have BV like my original doctor diagnosed me with, or maybe it was something else, but it was something. Because of this pain, I get nervous before we have sex which causes me to not get as lubricated, and even worse..causes my vaginal muscles to spasm. These spasms cause pain. So as you can see, this is a vicious cycle. Pain leads to spasms which leads to pain.

What she has tried in the past to help women like me is inject Litacane (an antisthetic) in the spot that has pain. This numbs the nerves in the area for a few hours which she said could possibly stop the cycle. It calms the muscles I guess. Even though she said the injection would be extremely painful, I did it. It's worth a try right? I'm pretty desperate at this point. If you are as desperate as me, I would suggest you do this too. I haven't had sex yet, so I can't tell you if it has worked, but we'll see.

She also gave me a couple of samples of the Nuva Ring to use instead of the pill. She didn't thing this was the problem, but thought it was worth a try. I had been asking doctors to change my birth control and none of them thought it was the problem and made me feel stupid for even bringing it up. This doctor said she would change it, and she gave me samples for free!

If you are in my desperate situation where you feel no one is listening to you...keep trying! I am going to keep trying! If this doctor can't figure it out, I'm going to a different doctor. Just keep making appointments and find a good doctor. Also, suggest the Litacane injection to your doctor and see what they say.

I hope this helps! And I'll keep you all updated!

I am 18, have been with my boyfriend a year and a half, have had sex with only him, and what do ya know? I have the same symptoms as all of these women! One problem: I've never been on birth control. But, when my boyfriend attempts to enter me it feels as though I'm trying to shove sandpaper up my vagina; not to mention the slight blood on my toilet paper after sex that seems to come from cuts around my vaginal hole. Not even does his penis (ALWAYS with a condom) cause pain, but even his finger (with washed and cut nails) hurts me. Something as small as a finger, and I don't have a latex allergy! As appealing as this all sounds, I did try to go to my gyno to find out what the problem was.

Similar to all the women on this blog, she claimed I had a YEAST infection... several times. I know I'm not as experienced as all the women on this site, but I know that I did not have a yeast infection 4 times in the past 8 months, especially when the doctor was not able to find any yeast, only inflammation, and the medication only eased the pain for a week. I do not doubt that I had one, maybe even 2, yeast infections this year because I remember the constant pain I was feeling all day during those weeks. But, my problem now is that I only have pain during and directly after sex. It's unbearable. Not to mention, I have done everything the gyno told me: cotton underwear, changed my soap, detergent, stopped shaving! (she claimed shaving was the cause...well, SUPRISE, it isn't). Also, astroglide (LOTS of it) didn't change a thing; I still had a lot of pain.

I have been feeling so depressed because I have given up and I have cried during sex because I feel so horrible for my boyfriend and me! He tells me it doesn't matter and we don't need to do anything sexual (we have gone weeks without doing anything), but it doesn't take away the emotional pain this has caused me, especially when I consider that this may never go away.

I need help, and all of these women have given me confidence to stand up to my gynocologist at my next appointment. Something is wrong, though, and it needs to be fixed. Please tell me there are girls my age with this problem that are NOT on birth control! I know I have this same problem, I know I'm not imagining this pain, and I know it's not just another yeast infection or UTI. All I can say is, this sucks. Period.

Hello all you people out there like me! It is good to know that some other women have this problem. It seems as though I have 2 problems in one: It feels like I have interstitial cystitis (which is an INCURABLE constant pressure on the bladder and makes you have to pee all the time) AND vaginismus (which is a sudden tightening of the vaginal opening when something tries to enter it resulting in pain) when we are not having sex (which is unfortunately most of the time) I am having this constant pressure on my bladder, and when we are having sex, it feels like this horrible pain in the opening of my vagina and even my clitoris. I have been tested millions of times for all of the STI's, and Ive had many UTI's, yeast infections, and BV, but ive been to the doctor several times for this problem and it seems to be none of those this time. I am currently seeing a urologist that says i have urethritis (which is just inflammation of the urethra), but it just seems like only a small part of my issue!
Does anyone else have these same issues combined and what have you tried!?!? HELP PLEASE this is getting so depressing for me!

I've been having this "burning sensation" for a few months now. At first it was a yeast infection b/c I was swimming every other day in a public pool, but now I'm still experiencing the pain and after reading this post I think you may have a point about the soaps/bodywash your partner uses. My bf has bad acne on his back and he has been using different acne washes and such to try and get rid of it. He uses it as his regular body wash too. I will have to talk with him about it and see if it helps at all... I understand everyone's frustration in this situation!! %-)

I've also been having extreme stinging every time I start to have sex with my fiance. Otherwise, I have NO OTHER SYMPTOMS. This started a few months ago.

I first tried an antiobiotic for a yeast infection which did nothing. Then I went to my gyno and a vaginal inflammation specialist. Both have just told me that I don't have any infections and to try changing my soap, wearing cotton underwear etc... That hasn't helped.

I am on birth control but have been on the same kind (Nuvaring) for over a year now so I don't see why that would suddenly cause this problem.

The stinging is so bad that I can't have intercourse at all. I'm very much in love and find this horribly upsetting!

Does anyone have any ideas that would apply to my case? Recommendations to Manhattan or Brooklyn doctors? I'd be very appreciative!!!!

Check this out...
I got to thinking about my problem and it seems like a skin problem like exema or something like that so I took a bath in baking soda and it's helping. If you look on the internet the effects of baking soda are amazing! It cures exema, is good for your hair, softens your skin and so many things.
It seems to really be helping me so you might give it a try. What can it hurt if you know what I mean. I take 1/2 cup baking soda to my bath and sit in it for 30 minutes. It also says this directly on the box of baking soda.
Try it and let me know.

Thank you everyone, for your shared pain! I really thought I was completely alone in this problem. My fiance and I have been dealing with this problem for almost three years! I'm almost twenty four now. I know I'm STD free. I don't remember ever having this problem with my other lovers, but until my fiance, I really didn't care about how I felt either. It's been nearly the same symptoms with me: burning shortly after beginning sex, and for hours or days afterward, mostly originating from the labia. It doesn't matter how much lube we use, it just seems to vanish with a few thrusts. I do get a yeast infection at least once a year, however I haven't gotten a UTI in a very long time, since I was 15. I am on Lo-ovral, a progestin and estrogen combination, however. I'm at my wit's end! I miss having normal passionate sex, and it's ruining my drive. I love this man with all my heart, and I know it hurts him as much as this problem does me! My problem is, I'm a college student. I can't find a job where I live, and my 'healthcare' is a doctor provided by the college. I'm sure he'll just give me the same excuses so many of you women have gotten. I DO see one thing I haven't tried. For the first couple months of our relationship, I never washed with body wash, and we never had a problem. Could it really be that my favorite bodywash could be causing such a thing? I use Suave Sweet Pea bodywash, and have been for about 3 years. It would kill me if so, I love that wash!

Amber

I also have this problem. I thought it was due to my hymen not being completely broken.

I do not burn during sex until 15-20 min in and I apply more lubricant (we use astroglide).
I think my pain may originate from dry latex rubbing the sensitive entrance area as I'm always bleeding after sex. (just a drop on the toilet paper after painful peeing after sex)

I'm std free, my boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other but I do get frequent yeast infections despite taking acidophilus daily.

I'm on yaz and have never had sex without BC. My bf has never ejaculated in me w/o a condom.

What worries me is today my boyfriend had burning after dry humping and ejaculating on me. I am on the tail end of my period and we were not using condoms, but once I applied lube and put a condom on him, he experienced burning and it made me very concerned.

Is this yeast related? Or maybe just because we didn't use enough lube when he was grinding on my body? We're concerned, I more than him as since he showered after sex, the burning stopped.
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Please Listen!!!!

I have had probems for 2 years and I found my problem

DRYER SHEETS!!!

They cause tons of problems. Stop using them immediately!

Look online but all dermatologists say they are horrible on your skin and when you use them and have problems down there basically you are baking the perfums into the underware and it causes poblems.

Please listen. This has stopped my problems and I had been to tons of doctors who found nothing wrong.

it's heart breaking to know that a lot of women suffer from the same pain i'm going through. hi my name is Ashley, i'm 21 years old and my problem started a little over a year ago. i've only had two partners in my life and that is my ex-boyfriend and my current fiance. me and my fiance are a year and a half into our relationship. in june of 2008 all of a sudden i started having a burning aound the enterance of my vagina and an itching sensation. i let it slide for a couple months until it gradually got worse. i went to a regular doctor and they came back with the conclusion of a bacterial infection. He gave me metronidazole vaginal gel so i used it but i wasn't getting relief. i went back only to find out that i still had bacterial infection but i also had a yeast infection. he just gave me more of the gel and told me to insert it twice daily. after that the itching was gone but i was still experiencing burning during and after sex. after i would have sex i had to put a wet wash cloth to ease the pain. my pain lasts around a day. it almost feels like it's swollen. i then went back to the same doctor for the third time. the results came back negative for a bacterial and yeast infection. He told me that alot of women experience dryness and that they're bodies can't produce enough lubricant so he told me to try foreplay and buy some lubricant. i knew that wasn't true because my gives off plenty of that but we tried the doctor's suggestion anyways. nothing worked and then i started to bleed a tiny bit after sex. So i gave up for a long time until my fiance got on me about going to the doctor. so i went to Planned Parenthood. this time when they took a swab the pain was unbareable and it hurt all on the inside my vagina. sure enough they said i had a bacterial infection too, but this time i got pills and suppositories. It still had no affect on my pain and i am so scared to go through the pain once again. my fiance and i have not had sex for 8 months now and it's causing minor problems. i'm going to make an appointment with a gno since they specailize in this sort of thing and i would suggest anyone else who has this problem to go to one too.

You ladies are my angels!! I am dealing with the exact same problem that has been going on for about a year (i think). Its the opening for me initially, then the inside feels like little tears or something. After like 2 minutes of sex, I have to hold myself back from crying in pain. I have tried the same things that most of you ladies have... an abstinence period, condoms, TONS of lube, soft sex, lots of foreplay...EVERYTHING that a gynecologist can dream up as a solution. Nothing seems to help. I have only been with a few people that were very far between, so i am pretty sure that it is not an std (although, at least there would be an explanation).
I have been to several different gyno's hoping that ANYONE will help me. This problem is DESTROYING my sex life, and my relationship which is very dear to me. I am only 24 years old and already have no sex drive because of this. Plus, with the anticipation of the pain, just the idea of sex is enough to turn me off to it :(
It feels sooooooo amazing to my self esteem and hope in the matter that I am not the only one with this problem. I truly thought that I was making it up in my head or something. :?

my boyfriend does not do any sort of "manly work", and doesn't even do the dishes without gloves. He doesn't ever finger me either, yet still in pain :(

i just remembered a test that i had done. I told a friend about my problem and she told me to go to a urologist. I mentioned this to my gynocologist and she had me take a pee test to check for something called keyolites or something similar sounding. She explained that it might be my diet, that when you urinate some things you pee out might get caught in your vaginal wall making sex feel like glass in your vagina. It didn't help me at all, but thought maybe this would help at least one of you ladies out there.

Here's the deal.... Long story, but please I need help!!

My partner and I have been together for almost 4½ years. The first year sex was wonderful. Then we went awhile without it. Then we started back and I had horrible pain. Come to find out, I have endometriosis. At the beginning of July of this year I had a few places taken off. In August, we tried to have sex and my muscles were so tight that we decided to hold off. Now we are able to but there is a extreme burning sensation inside my vagina, around the walls. Someone mentioned dryer sheets being the cause. Has anyone else experienced the burning after laproscopic surgery for endometriosis?

yes, mine started right after I got on birth control too, but I wasnt on the patch. Im taking Loestrin