constant vaginal burning during intercourse. whats wrong wit

I have been sexually active now for almost four years. Never once in these years have I experienced this. However, in the past 6-12 months (too hard to remember) i have been experiencing this constant burning around the opening of my vagina, not quite inside, more like the tissue on the very opening of the hole. My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 years and like I said, this hadn't ocurred until halfway through our relationship. When we began having sex, we would do it every day, maybe twice or even three times a day. it was perfectly fine then. Then the mood died and it wasn't as frequent, but about almost a year into that I began experiencing this burning sensation. Every time I have this burn, whether it be the first 10 minutes or a half hour later, guranteed. I've been told it was because it was too frequent why i was experiencing this, but I've waited weeks, even months at a time to try again, and still the same result. I feel as if this is ruining my life because it esses m

I am so sorry that you are in pain.

Pain (and burning sensations) during intercourse are common among women whose male partners are circumcised. The anatomy of the problem is explained in Kirsten O'Hara's excellent and detailed book "Sex as Nature Intended It." She notes that, as you describe, young women may not notice the pain at first, but it may become increasingly irritating over time.

If it is indeed the case that your boyfriend is circumcised, he may want to consider foreskin restoration, which is a non-surgical procedure that undoes most of the negative sexual effects. It takes time, but, according to many restored men, the rewards are great. For more information, visit the National Organization of Restoring Men. A device that many restoring men seem to find works well is the TLC Tugger.

Best wishes to both of you.

i get the same thing, im 19 years old and been with my bf for over 2 years and i get the exact same thing but it never used to be like this, it gets so painful i sometimes can't sit down properly for a couple of hours afterwards and have to put off sex for like 3 days afterwards because it's still hurting from the last time. I would really like help on this because i like sex and my bf got a high libido and it depresses me that i can't give it to him when he would like it because it hurts too much. We've tried lubrication, condoms, no condoms and getting aroused before sex, orgasming before sex, but nothing seems to work, help me!! :-(

I'm just about crying right now...I had no idea this was so common! I started having sex with my boyfriend 3 and a half years ago. I had a healthy sex drive and loved sex. About a year and a half later, we got together with another girl. We were with her for several months, and he never had sex with her without a condom. He went away for several weeks, and when he got back, I started getting yeast infection after yeast infection, with several uti's thrown in there as well. Several times I had yeast, staph, and strep all at once. It wasn't good for our sex life, and our relationship took a hit, but we survived. This went on for a year, at which point he went on vacation once again. When he came back, we tried to have sex, but I had a lot of pain. We stopped, and tried again a month or so later--still pain. Turned out I had HPV. I took Aldara for 2 months, went back to find out I had to take it for another month. Still had pain, so I was prescribed a lidocane (numbing) cream. That didn't help much...stung when I put it on, and didn't take the pain away. I was on vacation for 3 months, but a month or so ago, I went back and was diagnosed with vaginismus. My doctor told me it was the healthiest I had been physically in a long time...no yeast, no inflammation that he could see. He recommended I visit this website and order the dilators. I did, and felt the first hope I'd had in months...it sounded exactly like the problem i had been having.
Now, however, i'm back where I started. I got the kit of 4 dilators, and while I can use the smallest one with a lot of lube and usually have no pain, i consistently have pain with the second size, regardless of how much lube I use--and it's not nearly as big as my boyfriend.
I still try to have sex with him when I can...It always hurts, to varying degrees. Usually if I put him in all at once and then take a moment to consciously relax my muscles, it's bearable. I still experience some pleasure, and can often orgasm, though it's much more from mental stimulation than physical.
I've had problems with dryness for 2 and a half years now, but this is something else...I always need lube and can't even get him in me without it. By my doctor's recommendation I've changed a lot of things--cotton underwear only; no soap at all in that area; dye-and-fragrance-free detergent; I wear jeans very rarely, having mostly switched to skirts; I've stopped wearing thongs almost completely, only putting them on for a few minutes at a time to show my boyfriend; I make sure he washes well and brushes he teeth before we do anything; for a while we completely stopped having anal sex, but it didn't seem to change anything, so we do it on occasion now...once every couple months, so not frequently enough to be causing this. Let's see, what else have people talked about...I haven't used dryer sheets in over a year, since they get caught in the lint trap of our dryer and cause it to overheat. I was using them when this started, but considering I also used them before it started and have since stopped, I doubt that's it. I haven't checked what my boyfriend uses to wash down there, I'll get some plain dove soap and have him use that. I do shave, but I don't use shaving cream, and I was shaving before all of this started. My boyfriend is not circumsized. I don't douche.
I don't have pain always, just as a response to touch. Sometimes my boyfriend can get his finger in without pain, but sometimes he can't. I don't have itching, but sometimes the area between the clitoris and the vaginal opening is overly sensitive, and I also find that sometimes I don't get as much pleasure from my clitoris as I used to...it seems sore.
I also have another issue, I don't know if it's related. I have issues getting wet even when I'm aroused and want to have sex. But at random times during the day, when I'm not thinking about sex at all, i just have this flood of wetness. My doctor said it's normal but it's really quite uncomfortable...I don't like wearing wet sticky panties, but if I wear pantiliners all the time, I'll get a yeast infection, since I'm very prone to them.
I'm going to try the baking soda bath thing, switching my boyfriend's soap, and talking to my doctor once again. i'll keep you guys posted.
Oh, and seeing a specialist would be VERY difficult for me as i live on an island and there aren't any here.

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i have the same problems. for the past few months i haven't been able to have sex with my husband at all. it always burns really badly and is difficult to get in. i've tried switching up the lube i use. but every kind i use makes it burn worse. it feels like there are cuts or sores on the inside of my vagina and when i have sex it feels like putting salt on those wounds. a month or so ago i went to the doctor and he told me i have a cervical infection. i thought it could be a yeast infection but all my test results came back normal. and wouldn't there be some kind of abnormality in my tests if i did have a cervical infection? after trying 2 different antibiotics (including clindamycin which is apparently a really hardcore antibiotic) nothing has changed. i'm currently uninsured and can't afford to get a 2nd opinion. i read some stuff about vaginismus and it sounds a lot like what i have. except my discharge can sometimes be really thick and white. and the outside burns when my discharge gets on it. i've used all different kinds of soaps and nothing seems to help. and i douche occasionally, but i didn't start until after i'd been having problems. so that's not it. also. my vagina has always been really tight. even after being married for 2 years and having sex w/ my husband all the time it is still super tight. sometimes it is hard to get him in all the way. feels like i'm a virgin all over again. good for him. not good for me. if it is vaginismus and not some kind of infection how do i find out? do i need to consult a doctor and ask if it could be vaginismus? is there anything i can do to make it better if i find out it is vaginismus?

One thing that has somewhat improved my problem, which is as every other woman here has described... was to get rid of latex. We experimented with a whole week of careful no condoms involved sex. We haven't tried to use other types of condoms yet, however, I've find a bit of improvement with my burning with the latex isn't involved. If anyone checks, please note whether you use condoms or not? I've also discovered that "doggie" position causes DRASTICALLY less pain than other positions. I switched to a hypoallergenic soap and nonscented hypo allergenic clothes detergent. All these don't cure the problem, but it seems to have helped slightly.

i have the same problems apart from the pain is at the all through intercourse especialli at the beginning of intercourse iv been sexualli active for almost 3 years now iv onli ever been with my bf but the pain started onli 2 years ago iv been tryin 2 handle the pain but its got 2 a point where i cant. iv lost my sex drive now my bf says its ok but i feel so bad that i cant give him the pleasure that he needs we're gettin engaged on my 18th birthday but i realli need help iv read that doctors cant discover wat the pain is and that people are gettin things for it which hasnt helped i thought i was the onli 1 goin through it but after findin this website iv realised that im not i realli need help im scared of losin my bf through this plz help.

i am wondering about that too. that started to happend to me to about two months ago and ive been with the same partner for about five years now. i went to the dc and tested for stds and everything and dont have anything. but while i am having sex it burns so much and its painfull but i dont want to tell him to stop because he gets mad. and the pain stays there for a while even when i clean or even touch down there it hurts really bad for almost the whole day. but i have always had problems with yeast infections i get them a lot. so i dont know if it has to do with that.but anything that anyone knows about this i will like to know because i dont think i can handle this pain anymore.

wow lots of women have this problem. I'm going to keep watching this.. hoping someone will come with a solution, until then i'll try the baths, and switching detergents and soaps. Good luck ladies and if you find something that works please report back.

i hope someone can tell me whats going on... ive been sexually active for 6 years now and everytime i have sex, i have an extreme burning pain inside and it makes it almost impossible to have intercourse. After the sex is over, i have trouble urinating and it burns worse than anything ive ever experienced. my fiance is getting to the point where he thinks im not attracted to him. the Dr. diagnosed me with IC and ive already had a corrective procedure (today, actually) and i dont know yet whether or not it will work. however, when i look up IC online, no one else has burning during sex. people have mentioned pain, but not burning.

I've been dealing with this same thing now for the past 4 years. My OB/GYN has decided it's likely vuvlodynia given my sensativity to the swab test. What we've noticed, hubby and I, is that any thing like Lubricant, sperm, etc aggravate the condition. With the Vulvodynia I was told to try using a dialator. I immediately realized that inserting the dialators, which are hard, non-porous plastic, don't hurt if I do not use lubricant. If I use lubricant I get the burning. Likewise my husbands oils in his skin, and worse his semen burn like heck. Of course it's hard to be excited enough to be natrually lubricated for intercourse which leaves us with an ugly chicken and the egg type delimma.

After experimenting we determined that I didn't have much pain at all if we lubricated with my own saliva (gross I know, sorry) as it's my own body, my own pH, nothing foreign.

Equipped with this knowledge I had my OB/GYN do a pH test and it didn't seem to be a pH issue. However it was suggested that I try a few things.

1. Veggie oil as a lubricant. Haven't tried it yet but if I get desperate enough...
2. Use Rephresh (over the counter an I think that's the name) twice a week to "reset" my vaginal environment.
3. Hubby and I should BOTH take acidopholous daily as it will help balance the pH of his semen and my vaginal environment.
4. Baking soda sitzbaths BEFORE intercourse. Take a warm, relaxing soak in good ol' armnhammer. Being relaxed is better for the mood, and the pH will be lower (semen/sperm are more alkaline) so there's less likihood of irritation.

I'm posting these suggestions in hopes that even if they don't do the trick for me, they may help someone else.

We're trying to conceive which is a pain given it's hard to get in the mood when sex is both TIMED AND PAINFUL argh...

Lastly, not doctor's suggestion, but I found something called Sienna 6C which is a herbal remmedy suggested for women with mucous issues. I'm going to try that too... Might be worth the research for anyone in the same boat.

Best of luck to all you ladies, I feel your PAIN!

ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now and about 4 months ago the same thing happened. Im prone to yeast infections too and im on birth control. I get the discharge as well and i always feel uncomfortable. Lately i have lost my sex drive compeletly. does anyone have an answer to this becuse its runing my realtionship compeltely :-(

I've been with my man for 3 years, and about 4 months ago i started to get this burning sensation in my vaginal cavity whenever we would have intercourse. i've gone to the Gyno, got tested for STD's, they say i'm clear. my discharge is thick and white, that is the whole reason i went in the first place and the doctor still said i was clear. i just want this to get better because i dont even want to be sexual with my boyfriend anymore because its not pleaserable. HELP! any info? anything at all!!!!!!!

Hey everyone, I just found this board a few days ago while I was researching the same problem all of us have. My fiancé and I were having normal, daily sex and then the burning started about 5-6 months ago.

I just went on birth control (Micronor) this month, so I know that's not the cause. Lubrication has never really been an issue, especially since we'll use coconut oil if there is a lack.

After finding this board and reading all the possible causes, I decided to try a suggestion one woman made regarding an acidic vaginal environment. What tipped me off to this being my problem was that my fiancé's equipment would also burn sometimes, so I knew it couldn't be an internal disorder (like cysts or endometriosis or involuntarily tightness, etc.).

I bought plain yogurt from Whole Foods — two ingredients only: organic whole cow's milk and bacteria (probiotics). I will repeat what the other woman suggested, and that is to make sure it is UNFLAVORED — nothing sweetened, no flavors, nothing. Read the label and make sure it is just two ingredients like I listed above. Right before bed, I laid down and used one finger to put 1 spoonful of yogurt in my vagina. It burned as usual when anything goes in there, but I put as much of the spoonful in as possible, and got the yogurt all up in there and on the opening (everywhere it normally burns). I put on underwear with an overnight pad and went to sleep.

The next day, I felt 90% better. I felt ZERO pain or discomfort throughout the day or when I went to the bathroom, and usually I have a low-grade pain/burn nearly all day. We tried having sex that evening to test how things were, but it burned a little (it was such little pain compared to what it is normally), so we stopped and I put in another spoonful of yogurt and went to sleep with my underwear and pad on.

After just two yogurt night treatments, we had sex completely pain-free. I was so happy I could have cried. :D

So I'm keeping a small tub of that organic, all natural yogurt in my fridge at all times, and I ordered Natren Gy-Na-Tren vaginal probiotics (I got mine from luckyvitamin.com because it's cheaper than Whole Foods) because I need something more portable if we're traveling.

In addition, I'm also changing my diet to keep my body more "alkaline" (our bodies are alkaline anyway, but we can vary slightly depending on what we're eating). I suspect that part of the reason the burning started was I stopped eating a lot of salads, fruits, and green smoothies (read Green for Life by Victoria Boutenko). Soooo, I'm going back to my old ways of eating more greens, green smoothies, and will add in goat milk yogurt.

I really hope this helps some or all of you!

WOW! I can not believe how many people have this problem. I just googled this last night it when I realized how badly it really was for me.

I have been married for 4 years now and had only one partner before him. For last last month or two I really haven't enjoyed sex at all. My husband has been incredibly hurt by this and thought it was something he had been doing wrong! However, it puzzled us both because our sexual relationship has always been amazing. I too have the burning everyone else is talking about, Something it isnt as bad and may go away. Last night was the worst ever and it didnt get any better. Just like everyone else has said it has been killing our relationship. Sad I know for sure its not because of being to dry. I had always considered the fact that I had a child 2.5 years ago and my body is still going through changes, maybe that had something to do with it? Although as I have been reading everyone's stories I am thinking it has something to do with yeast! I have always had a problem with yeast. Does anyone else get rashes from rings? I use to get these all the time, then found out its a type of yeast(there are several types). It comes out in many different ways. Mostly any dark/wet places. YES the yogurt can help. ONLY PLAIN AND NO SUGAR. As a matter of fact any sugar will feed yeast.

This morning I decided to change my eating. Not that I eat bad at all but to cut out any yeast(Breads, Pasta ect) and Sugars(of any kind). All of those feed yeast. I also started taking acidophilus (this gives you the good bacteria). TONS OF IT! If you have had a antibotics or your diet contains lot of sugars and yeast you should try this. Isnt anything worth a try?! I will let you all know if anything changes.

Here are my symptoms(not sure how many relate?!)
*Burning inside the vagina and actually the clitoris as well.
*Bloating
*Gas
*Not on any birth control
There may be additional ones I am not thinking of right now.

Thank you all for sharing your stories and making me feel a little more at ease knowing I am not the only one! Wink