Does Smoking weed cause you to be more angry? stressed out than you already are?

Maybe you will see this. How did it go? Did you stop using regularly? Did it help? I'm where you are right now, day 2...

I used to be just like your boyfriend, with the same history of smoking. I am the same age and my girlfriend is also a few years older. It is definitely the weed causing his temper tantrums, the same thing happened to me.
I have always had a temper but on weed it became uncontrollable, like you say when smoking it, I was fine then, but during the day at work, or basically anytime until I smoked again I could blow.
You sound like a mature and understanding person, and his behaviour is immature and cruel. You do not deserve this, he has issues, and some hard work he has to face if he is going to change.
My girlfriend left me when I was smoking, but at the time I didn't really care, but I was beginning to realise what an as****e I was becoming, not just to her but others as well, I was becoming quite pathetic really.
I have been quit over 1 year now after over 20 years use
and although I'm not perfect I am massively improved, but I did it for myself not to appease anyone, and if he is to quit it will have to be his own choice or he won't do it.
I am back with my girlfriend who did not deserve the BS I served up, but to be fair to her she didn't stand for it anyway!
One thing I love about my girlfriend is her self respect. She gives it away to no one! If I smoked she'd be gone again.
This is my advice to you. Move on if he does not change, and don't hang around too long waiting either, don't waste your life on a selfish drug addict, it's his problem not yours.
If he does decide to quit and you stay with him, be prepared for a hard adjustment period, recreational vs needing to use are two different types of people.
So ultimately unless he wants to quit, is deadly serious, is sorry to you for his behaviour, and does the hard work in front of your eyes, move on and don't look back, take it from a man who knows!

I am worried about my 24 year old son who has seemed to develop a very serious and concerning level of anger the past few years, which is why I'm replying. I used to be a huge pot head, but never was an angry pot head. On the contrary, it made me dopey and non-confrontational. But this was 80's weed, which was like 18% thc. And strong enough to the point that everyone new I was high. But today's weed or wax, or oil, or whatever else there is now is 80/90% thc I've heard. Just wondering if there's a correlation.

I realize this comment is over a year old but I'm wondering if the author ever comes back to this page? I would love to compare war stories and maybe lend a supportive ear when needed. I unfortunately know and live your story, only I have allowed this man and his harmless addiction to emotionally destroy me and my self esteem. I want out but I dont know how. I'm asking alot of you, but I need a friend that "gets" my situation.

I think smoking regually for a long period can cause anger. I was smoking everyday for months and every few day would get into a fight with my younger brother. My older brother I can tell smokes often - he get angry over nothing, absolutely nothing. You'd say something and he'd get so mad everyone in the room would feel really awkward. But anyway, since I quit weed I've noticed I don't get angry and over welmed. I want my brother to quit for a month and see the difference

They may not say it. But my cousin for example. Gets extremely rude and obnoxious. Whenever he smokes. And if he runs out. Don't even talk to him. He may bunch you. For saying hi.

I have experience with relationship very similar to what youbdeaxribe yours to be. The violence and the reasons for it are ridiculous yes. (yelling is violence)
I can't help but think he might be struggling with a very serious and complicated internal issue causing his anger to eveolve. The smoking could very well be his way of unknowingly attempt to cope with his anger, which sounds like it does not work. That might be all he has to try and fight his anger and since it doesn't work like he wants it to or maybe how it use to work he is now making due by upping his doses.
It's ok to be anti pot. But just don't let that stop you from getting to the root of the issue.
I got to say, ongoing counseling would bring you both a world positiveness. He obviously needs for anger.
And you need it for having to cope with his anger in the way you have like catering to his anger and now having a completely unique view of him and his anger.
If you separate and don't seek counsel you will take that baggage to your next relationship and destroy that one without ever realizing your husbands forced conditioning of your brain is causing it.
Please push for counseling if anything seek it for yourself and children.

This sounds very familiar

We're in our 50's and my husband has smoked since he was a kid. This is the second marriage for both of us. If I'd realized just how bad his habit was, I would have run fast and far from this Jekyl and Hyde man. When he's smoking, he acts more like someone who's coked out (no, he is not a coke user). The relaxed, almost, good-humored effects I remember from my college days are nowhere to be found with this man. He becomes agitated, very sharp, loses his temper at the most ridiculous things, gets in arguments with his boss (I'm surprised he hasn't been fired . . . thank God he's really good at his job), is always on edge, and thinks that no one else sees it except me. I did begin to realize that our friends actually had noticed his mood shifts, and are somewhat intimidated by him when he's using. Everyone seems to owe him something or are taking advantage of him when he's using. The difference when he stops smoking for a while is night and day. He is an incredibly kind and loving man when he's not using. He's bright, witty, and challenges me in a good way when there's no THC in his system. He's an aggressive prick when he's smoking . . . And I miss my good man.

As I write this, the front door lies shattered in several places. I've removed the front panel of the dishwasher to knock out the many dings it got the other night, but it's gonna need replacing if I don't want a permanent testimonial to this latest... "incident". Maybe half the glasses and cups we formerly owned are no more and the dog is reluctant to leave his basket with no doubt the sounds of the other night still ringing loud in his ears. I've been a heavy pot smoker since my late teens and my habits never been stronger than it is now. Or maybe I should say "was", as it's abundantly clear to me I have a problem that is going to ruin my life if I don't get real.

This article and others I've read rightfully stress the likelihood of there being more than one causal link for a persons rage, and just because pot will be such a link for one person certainly doesn't mean it'll be that way for everyone. In my case the fact that I can still easily visualise the contorted hate filled face of my father, that incredibly would occasionally break into a smirk as he took to me with his fists or a belt, makes it abundantly clear that smoking pot is not my only problem. In fact one of the reasons my love for weed became so strong so early in life is probably traceable to my extremely unhappy childhood.

But that's all in the past now and any resentment I carried for the old man, I buried with him years ago. If smoking was one of the reasons I even survived my depressed youth, then I owe it a debt of gratitude. But its clearly not working for me now and something has to change. I feel absolutely gutted by this latest loss of control on my part but I also have a sense of calm. The connection for me personally is blindingly obvious, and if I'm honest has been for some time. The way forward therefore is clear... time to say goodby old friend.

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Thank you for writing this. I read this as if my wife wrote this about me. I am on the verge of quitting, but it's got a strong hold of me. It's like you explained what I've been feeling for awhile, except my wife smokes too. I think she only does it now because I do. We have 3 kids and she just recently went back to work after about 4 years being home. We work split shifts. I snap over the silliest things, then try to apologize. Can only apologize so many times before it doesn't mean anything. You definitely pulled at my heart, felt like I was reading a letter my wife would write on this post about me. Time to change, thank you.

I have to say I typed in why does pot make me angry. I'm not a smoker I have rheumatoid arthritis and don't want to take any Med's. The doctors have given me everything in the book and it hurt my liver where they can't fix now. Everyone tells me to try pot or cannabis. It takes the pain away but the head high that people like on the contrary I hate it. I feel like it interferes with my clear thinking process and I basically can't function anyway with or without the pain. The worse part is this anger I feel that I never ever feel if I don't smoke. Now this is coming from a person that has never smoked but now in her mid 40s. And know I have no anger inside for any reason and I don't have anxiety or depression that I know of. I've lived around people that do but I'm pretty chill and easy going. That's why I wanted to know if anyone goes through this anger. As soon as the high wears off am happy again. So weird. I've asked several people that are smokers and I get both answers some do get it and some say it's the only thing that makes them mellow and happy. Like you guys say. It depends on each persons physical make and psychological health too. In my case it's automatic a feeling of extreme anger and I waiting for the moment or second it wears off so I can get back to being happy. I rather deal with my Rheumatoid Arthritis pain

This post helped me to realize how much like your husband I am. Thank you. Would you be up for further discussion?

Man this post hit home to me. Im not married or in a relationship but i can relate to the short temper and edgyness when smoking and i smoke all day long. I work a high stress job and try to bring myself down with the weed but it actually has the opposite effect. I lose my sh*t easily and over stupid sh*t, then smoke, then get more angry. To any of you saying youll leave your husband, boyfriend, etc. Just know its a viscious cycle and its not easy to break and stay free from even after youre free. I was glad to come across this post and know im not the only one. Im 29 now though, barely ever been in a relationship, nothing more than a year. Ive been smoking since im 17, when my first real high school sweetheart relationship ended. Im thinking my relationships with women have been messed but by this and i think i need to change myself also now. Im getting older now. I want a wife and kids and family one day. Weed is and has been stopping me from that. Thanka for your posts all and thanks for letting me share.

It's three weeks now since my last and hopefully final meltdown, mentioned above. The front doors fixed, the dishwasher panel replaced and the dogs once again comfortable hanging with me. I'm still with my partner though we've nutted out the details of a separation if (when?) I blow my top again. An tomorrow it'll be three weeks since I last smoked any pot. Ostensibly life's returned to "normal" but with the one big difference, pot no longer has a place in it.

In my post above I referred to an article that I'd posted a link too, which was quite rightly removed as it contravenes the rules and regs of posting on this site. To clarify the key points of that article, a long term study involving 411 subjects has identified a seven fold increase in the risk of violent behaviour for chronic pot smokers over non pot smokers. To put this into context, this is similar to the increased risk a cigarette smoker has over a non smoker of getting lung cancer. There are a number of problems with this study (ie the subjects were almost exclusively white Caucasian males) and it is just one study in an area that has received little attention. It does also suggest that chronic pot smokers that do suffer rage and violent outbursts, are in the minority amounting to about 20%. But if like me you're in that 20%, or the person you're having to deal with is, the problem is transparently clear. For anyone who wants a little insight into the science behind it all, it's definitely worth a look. This one quote...

“Together, the results of the present study provide support for a causal relationship between exposure to cannabis and subsequent violent outcomes across a major part of the lifespan, writes Tabea Schoeler and her colleagues at Kings College London in their paper. The authors suggest that impairments in neurological circuits controlling behavior may underlie impulsive, violent behavior, as a result of cannabis altering the normal neural functioning in the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex."

... sums it up pretty well.

Best of luck to anyone who's dealing with this in their life.