I am not an expert (I am just a gina lover), but I think that you may have sore your womb (that's why you bleed a lot). I may happen we the guy is too long.
Normally the womb adjusts to the size of the guy (by going up), but when it is too much (big) that is when it may happen.
And the vagina doesn't get tighter when you don't have sex. The thing that may happens is that you are not used to do it and may have involuntary contractions. To have a tighter vagina you must exercise you PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle) by doing Kegel exercises. Those exercises are really good to women in two different ways. It tights you vagina giving you more pleasure (google it you will be amazed by the super power that your vagina has - you will be able to suck the penis in and spit it out too), and the other benefit is that you will probably not have urinary incontinence (due to age or birth). And for those who wants to look like a virgin, this is one way to do it. As long as you can tight you vagina, you can "pretend virginity" by having a strong pubococcygeus muscle (the PC muscle is located between the vagina and the anus - also known as pelvic floor). A very simple way to exercise that muscle is very simple. Star peeing and stop it, that contraction strength that muscle so do it a few times throughout the day (without peeing, obviously). And if you want to be an expert, google it and go for it! Your man will thank you!
And the other way to feel like a virgin is cosmetic surgery (known as hymenoplasty).
I think that those girls that bleed by having sex with the second, third or 100000th guy is simple too. Think about the vagina as a hole, that hole will not heal without any intervention, it will not get tighter without making the hole stronger, and it will tear (rip) every time you put something bigger (thicker) in the whole (only if you haven't torn your hymen completely) .
Normally the womb adjusts to the size of the guy (by going up), but when it is too much (big) that is when it may happen.
And the vagina doesn't get tighter when you don't have sex. The thing that may happens is that you are not used to do it and may have involuntary contractions. To have a tighter vagina you must exercise you PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle) by doing Kegel exercises. Those exercises are really good to women in two different ways. It tights you vagina giving you more pleasure (google it you will be amazed by the super power that your vagina has - you will be able to suck the penis in and spit it out too), and the other benefit is that you will probably not have urinary incontinence (due to age or birth). And for those who wants to look like a virgin, this is one way to do it. As long as you can tight you vagina, you can "pretend virginity" by having a strong pubococcygeus muscle (the PC muscle is located between the vagina and the anus - also known as pelvic floor). A very simple way to exercise that muscle is very simple. Star peeing and stop it, that contraction strength that muscle so do it a few times throughout the day (without peeing, obviously). And if you want to be an expert, google it and go for it! Your man will thank you!
And the other way to feel like a virgin is cosmetic surgery (known as hymenoplasty).
I think that those girls that bleed by having sex with the second, third or 100000th guy is simple too. Think about the vagina as a hole, that hole will not heal without any intervention, it will not get tighter without making the hole stronger, and it will tear (rip) every time you put something bigger (thicker) in the whole (only if you haven't torn your hymen completely) .
iam a 17 yrs old i lost my virginity at 12 and it hurt like hell but i didnt bleed for a long time...i then waited until i was 14 to continue having sex and it hurt but not that bad....now i have been having sex for the last 3 yrs and recently it was with someone bigger than my ex....it hurt so BAD i mean i was like hell no cause it felt like my vagina wouldnt let him in it was like it put up a wall and i thought i would have went crazy but maybe you should try lubricating it cause it worked for me...i dont know why she bleeding alot all that happen to me was i was a little ripped and i didnt bleed alot just like a little cut.
Um,
It's rather sad to see that people did not actually answer the question. Some women (unfortunately) are born with hymens that persists after they have had sex before and can even stay when they give birth (although it is surgically removed before the infant comes through). Therefore, it can hurt every time for the female, and she may bleed every time. Now, on the contrast, there are women born without the hymen, and they may feel no discomfort or pain. As for me, I won't know what happens until I'm married. ;-)
It's rather sad to see that people did not actually answer the question. Some women (unfortunately) are born with hymens that persists after they have had sex before and can even stay when they give birth (although it is surgically removed before the infant comes through). Therefore, it can hurt every time for the female, and she may bleed every time. Now, on the contrast, there are women born without the hymen, and they may feel no discomfort or pain. As for me, I won't know what happens until I'm married. ;-)
I'm not a virgin. i was diagnosed wit a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) around December and i pretty much recovered from it a couple months ago. I think it was from having sex probably way to much then i should have. I was fingered today and felt a sharp pain, not really thinking much bout it i didn't have him stop. When he did stop he was like "uhh is something wrong wit you" and his fingers were all bloody.. there was another guy, this army guy, which i had sex wit 2 months ago, and well i haven't gotten my period since then.. so i've been freaking that i might be pregnant cus there were complications, butttt this time i was hoping that maybe it was my period, but it wasn't. i thought it was, so i put in a tampon. but when i got home and took out the tampon, it wasn't bloody.. so i'm like great maybe i'm getting this blood cause maybe my UTI is back or either i'm pregnant. i looked up information about a UTI and well you can only get blood from urinating. so i looked up what happens when a guy fingers you and u get blood. and this website pops up and i heard about hymens. Pretty much fits what i have. Even though it's not a great thing to have i'd rather have that then be pregnant cus the guy is in Afghanistan and he's 20 so pretty much he'd get arrested if i was prego. If i have a broken hymen..how do i go about getting help? i really don't wanna say anything to my mom bout going to the doctors cause she already thought it was sketch enough that i had a UTI..and now THIS!...is it really essential that i go see a doctor about this??
elizabeth.philip1 wrote:
It's hard to say honey, i was raped when i was 16 and there was soreness and blood the next day, so i know i lost my virginity that way.
I'm 19 now and hadn't had sex since then but now have a lovely new boyfriend so i'm getting better.
It took me ages to get over it, and i'm still not fully over it as i have PTSD as a result.
They say in circumstances like yours, it's up to you whether or not you are a virgin, and putting fingers inside counts as a type of rape, sounds a lot like molestation and sexual abuse to me (the guy who raped me also did those things). But i can tell u, it's useless seeing a doctor unless they know what they're doing, coz when i couldn't remember what happened, my mother took me to a doctor to have a look. When mum left the room, the doctor said "oh i can't see properly" but didn't even use a proper light, she just used the table-side lamp :| (the same doctor told me it was time to get over it a year and 8 months later) ***this
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i had spoken up about the soreness and blood but the doctor and mum forgot about that, so mum said "well i'm really sorry you had to go through that, i agree that's the worst way to lose your virginity"
And as for the culture part, i was a christian at the time of the event so virginity was very important to us, but i'm not christian anymore. I just wish i'd known consentual sex before-hand, thanx to my beautiful boyfriend i know it now, and he's very supportive
I'm really sorry to hear you went through the same thing honey, and i hope you can find yourself some support. There's no time limit for how long you can heal, it takes everyone different times, and if you're like me and have PTSD, i'd suggest seeing a psychologist and getting anti-depressants.
There's no excuse for rape, anyone who does it is an abomination who deserves to go to hell and suffer for eternity!!!!
I hope my answer was somewhat helpful
All the best.
i had sex 5 or 6 time with my boyfriend. i been to my doctor and i know that im no more a virgin. now that we are no more together. i want to know if i don't have sex intercourse for a long period i mean 1 or 2 years will my vagina tighten again and may bleed too after on my wedding night. im confused with my situation of mine.
you might just need more lube, she may have gotten really wet but sometimes it's just not enough. I have no idea what kind my boyfriend uses but it works well and so does the one that i bought from a passion party i went to. Also, another cause can definitely be angle!!! i know in some positions i find it painful but i've learned to deal with it because unfortunately some are my boyfriend's favourite. But there are definitely positions where it hurts, for ex. when I'm on top i find it waaayyy less painful because i can control the position and find what feels best for me and my boyfriend loves it because when the girl controls the angle it feels good for both of you because you're both at an ideal angle for pleasure so to speak.
Foreplay is also very important because it will relax her and really get her in the mood so she won't be as tight. she'll be fine, i remember when it happened to me. There have been times where it has been excruciatingly painful so we would just stop and then usually a little later we'd try again and i'd be fine...
.... don't judge... ;)
I'm a nineteen year old female who has never had sex. At the age of thirteen out of innocent curiosity inserted an papermate pen in my vagina. Stupid, I know and yeah that's how small it was. Seconds later, I removed the pen and saw blood on it. I can still remember that night and how i felt, scared and clueless. Did I break my hymen or did I do any damage to my vagina to cause the bleeding? I still don't know. It would be really nice to know that I'm actually still a virgin, due to my culture and beliefs. Other than that I'd Like to find out more.
tat means, afta long gap having sex will make the vagina tighten is it??
GOD BLESS TO ALL OF YOU. AND I SERIOUSLY SINCERLY MEAN IT. ALL OF YOU.
You guys have no idea how much i was going nuts thinking i may have an STD.
I lost my virginity a year back.Im 22.Have sex after gaps.And offlate the sex got painful because
1.It was rough.
2.He is HUGE.
3.He inserts in me completly and hard and fast.(thats how i like it)
what troubled me was that i was leaving blood stains on bedsheet not alot but minor.
THANK GOD its because of the hymen tearing and being tight.The gap is like 2-3 months.
There cant be any other problem right?After the sex the entire area becomes very tender for me and becomes back to normal
within 1-2 days.
Hey I am 21 years old,
I don't think it heals but It happen to me as well..
The first guy I was with for 3 years and I didn't have sex for two years until recently.my second boyfriend I slept with him and it was painful and I bled and we needed a condom in order for it to go in.
It isn't anything serious; she probably has a narrow vagina.
I went to went to get a papsmear prior to sleeping with my 2nd boyfriend and she asked me how many times did I sleep with my ex because there was a lot of pressure. Every 6 months of not having sex I was told it closes a tiny bit and if she is a dancer she may do keggle exercises which may tighten her up.
To guest, you probably did pop your cherry from a tampon or other similar incident. Sometimes cherries are popped without bleeding. Sometimes girls are born without hymens. Sometimes the hymen has a big enough hole in it that it never gets "popped" because it never really covered that much of the vaginal opening.
But I can tell you that if he penetrated you very deeply and you bled from it, it's because he tore something. He probably tilted your cervix or tore the entry to it. I suggest you go to the doctor immediately. DO NOT WAIT.
But I can tell you that if he penetrated you very deeply and you bled from it, it's because he tore something. He probably tilted your cervix or tore the entry to it. I suggest you go to the doctor immediately. DO NOT WAIT.
you should tell your parents. They will understand and they will help you.
I would also like the answer to this question as I have not had sex for 10years and experiencing pain and difficult for my partner to penetrate deeply and I am anxious as I want him desperately and afraid he is hurting
Actually after 7 yes of no sex ur hymen does resurface it's a proven medical fact