How can I loosen my vagina for my boyfriend like its really tight
Thank you for your question. I am sure others will answer this question better than I, I would still like to give it a shot if you can give me a little time. I am catching up, honest I am! I am just not quite there yet. But I will get back to you soon. Ok?
I am having to apologize to everyone today. Some issues came up here and I was unable to get back here until today. I sincerely apologize and I hope you will accept it.
I have spoken with a few women who gave me their ideas, including cathy1988 whom I would like to thank for her help. As a male I am obviously inferior when it comes to these things.
Before going into this I would like some additional information to make sure I cover what you actually need. Has this been painful for you? Has he had difficulty during insertion? Does it cause him pain? Anything else you can tell me that would help me to understand what the issues are? You can contact me privately if there is something you do not wish to reveal publicly.
This information is important because the advice if you are having difficulty is different that if he is having difficulty. Men in often prefer a tighter fit - although there is much more to this than many people think, but that is another topic - so my current thought is you are having more of a problem than him. Don't get me wrong, men can and do have issues on their end where it is too tight and can even hurt. I can't say that I have ever heard that happening without the woman also experiencing pain. So if the advice below is not helpful, please consider providing a few more details.
Going with the idea it is causing you problems, basically it is like when you first started. (Or maybe you are starting now.) Take it slow, use as much lube as needed, even if it means a lot. You can always wipe up the excess. Warming you up is always a good idea. When you have a situation like this I would argue that is is critical.
My favorite is to start with a body massage moving to erogenous zones. When moving down to the vulva, I spread a little lube in my palm and lightly massage the vulva up and down or in circles. I use my palm to massage the clitoral legs (please let me know if you are not familiar with this, most people are not) before touching the clitoris itself. (I recently learned of a better technique with the palm inverted. I can give you the details if you wish.) As the stimulation relaxes her and primes her body for action, I will spread some lube inside and gently massage the walls of the vagina. (I usually use a moisturizing lube for this.) The massage will help expose the g spot, a sput, and u spot. This allows me to start with a comfortable size for her and expand and stretch her to accept something larger. As her clitoris becomes fully erect, I like to use a combination of manual stimulation combined with cunnilingus to bring her to orgasm if possible. I find this an effective way to help her relax and open up making insertion easier. (I have thought about writing an example story but I am not sure it would be allowed here. It borders or crosses into erotica. Fun though!)
Inserting a dildo or vibrator is a great tool to loosen you up also, especially if you have more than one size. There are kits sometimes recommend by doctors that essentially provides a range of dildos sized to gradually dilate the vagina.
You are likely to experience some pain despite these measures but it should be much easier. Doing these kind of things are good for any occasion. It is a great way to lead into other things and it is great by itself. A great way to start the morning before work. You could always thank him personally when you get home!
Anyway, please let me know if I can be of further assistance.