Dear Crooke123, what the Hell is wrong with you??????? I don't understand how someone in this day and age can become pregnant unless they want to. You'd have to be stupid not to know about birth control. I had 2 miscarriages before my first son was born. I was devastated. I loved my children even before they were born. I still love the two I lost because I know they were alive, they were in me, and they were a gift from God that was taken away too soon. I saw my first son's ultra-sound when I was only 12 weeks pregnant. There wasn't much to see, and you had to look very hard, but there was a little beating flap of flesh that was his heart. Anyone who says that life does not start with conception is crazy wrong. I am married and it is not a happy, loving relationship. It used to be, but my husband has cheated on me and hurt me in so many ways that the love is just not there anymore. HOWEVER, I am responsible for my 2 boys. I helped to create them and I will take care of them until the day I die. You cannot just go about your life thinking that you are in a "bubble". The things you do, the decisions you make, effect everyone around you. It's not all about you. Grow up. I hope and pray that you never, ever have children. How can you be so selfish? I know it's not PC to be Pro-Life anymore, but I am and I think what you did was terrible. God forgive you.
Hi, I agree with Ams. That first reply was horrific and no-one should judge you. We are all humans, and human beings make mistakes. We have all done things which we wish we hadnt, been confused and lost our way from time to time, but please dont beat yourself up over it. Forgive yourself. Like you I had a termination 2 weeks ago (2-3-2013) and im still grieveing my loss, eventhough i know i made the right decision. My oral contraception failed and my partner of 12 months who said he always wanted children freaked out and left me, said he wasnt prepared and wouldnt support me emotionally. i already have an 8 year old son and was a single parent prior to meeting my partner. Like you i was confused, first i convinced myself i would keep the baby and do it alone again, then i changed my mind. 3 times i was booked in for a termination and 3 times i didnt turn up. I was 8 weeks pregnant when i finally went through with it. I know for myself i did the right thing but it still hurts me so much and its something i have to live with for the rest of my life. The guilt is horrendous and only we know what we feel inside and what emotions we are going through. Its not a decision most women take lightly. When the time is right for you and your emotions are more settled, you will go on to have another baby with your partner. Just take time to heal first and when the time is right, you will be fine. Good luck to you and ignore anyone who makes you feel bad for the decisions you have made.