I haven't done this on purpose. It's just worked out that way. I don't have any female friends right now, either. I think it is the transient lifestyle I lead. I really rather hang out with guys--my friends have always been guys. I'm not into the typical "gurl stuff". I'd rather go camping and hiking or watch my Spurs win or watch hockey.
I haven't "cut them off". I think moving has done that for me. Plus, we live in such a "small" community that people tend to talk if you spend too much time with people of the opposite gender that you aren't married to.
That said, I've got a lot of guys as friends including a few people I used to date. My current SO is fine with it and we all know that nothing is going to happen that would even verge on fooling around. And as to the "you know they feel a certain way but you just don't care" I don't know if it's so much a matter of not caring as it is just choosing to not act on it. You can't control what other people feel.
I think it depends on the relationship with your SO as well. Some guys just fell threatened, others don't. That's certainly going to influence your behavior in a situation, no matter how much you might think it won't. That's very true. One of my best friends is a guy (whom I've never had anything with) - and no one I've dated has had a problem with it. But if someone was that insecure to be threated, I think it would bother me, since I am very secure in relationships. But, on the other hand, I have a friend who I know thinks I am his soulmate ( 8O ). I have known him for about the same amount of time. But just recently, I decided I can't continue a friendship with him, because it's not fair to him. Someone very smart pointed out that he will still think he has a chance, like in Dumb and Dumber - "I wouldn't go out with you in a million years!" "That means I STILL HAVE A CHANCE!!!" :P Also, the voodoo spell and staring at me in a movie theater were getting uncomfortable... I'm openminded, BUT...
I've decided to keep doing what I'm doing. It's not a problem...yet. I really don't think I'm leading him on in any way, and I can't really be any more clear to him about my happy situation with my boyfriend. The boyfriend seems to be ok with it, so...I'm not going to worry about it until something comes up, so to speak.
I've decided to keep doing what I'm doing. It's not a problem...yet. I really don't think I'm leading him on in any way, and I can't really be any more clear to him about my happy situation with my boyfriend. The boyfriend seems to be ok with it, so...I'm not going to worry about it until something comes up, so to speak.
Cool!!!