I'm having this problem as well.
I got married in April and my wife is 30, she wants to have a child now and we been going at it almost every other night.
She gets 3 nuts in and I can't get mines, she is like "U Cumming Yet" and I be like "Not Yet".
I try to relax my mind and forget about bills when we are having sex but, it doesn't work.
So when I'm alone, I'll masturbate to see if I can cum and it be alot that comes out.
So I don't understand why not one drop comes out when I'm having sex with my wife.
But I have always had this problem since I started having sex.
I would either fake a orgasm and then finish myself off later or I would jack off while fingering her to make myself cum.
I can't fake any longer with my wife, she is Anxious to get pregnant, what is it that I can do to cum while having sex?
If you wife want's a baby, you can always masterbate. and when you're about to cum. hld it back, and then cum inside of her.
Hope i helped just a few with this ;)
stop masturbating and watching porn for at least a month, and you will probably return to normal.
Save it for your lady friends!
I used to have the same problem, but I've managed to overcome it... with some professional help. Here is what I've learnt;
First... stop masturbating. Watching porn is fine to get your arousal going. But finish off with you lady. If she watches porn with you, even better! If she doesn't and/or neither do you, that's fine too, but let her be in charge of getting you off.
Secondly, my lady started doing kegal exercises. It's not that she was loose before, she was always really tight when we start and then her p***y stretches (naturally) to accommodate my size, but she couldn't squeeze me (similar to what a hand would do). Now her p***y can really grip me, and she can get me off no matter what!
Warning: Be VERY careful about how you broach the subject of kegal exercises with her. Telling her that her p***y is loose would be similar to her telling you that your penis is too small! Instead tell her about the advantages of kegal exercises: 1. Stronger and more intensive orgasms for her. 2. Some studies even suggest that her periods could become more consistent and natural with less pain (If she has that problem).3. Kegal exercises are also very pleasant for her when done with kegal (Ben-wa) balls.
Good luck to you all.
I have this problem. I have no problem getting hard, and I have plenty of feeling so it's not that I've lost feeling or have ED. The problem I have is like said, I watch a lot of porn or fantasize while masturbating. I think this is the most cause. I can get VERY close and I just can't manage to 'tip over the edge' and reach ejaculation. But if I use my hand it works perfectly fine. The problem is I need a very specific rhythm and pressure. Even if my husband does it for me it is really tough. The longer it goes with me 'close,' the more difficult it becomes because I get more self-conscious.It is hard for me to give up masturbating because I am with a man who is much older than me and we only have sex once a month or less because he does not have ability or desire to do it very much. But I am younger and he is very attractive and makes sexual jokes and comments often, and I draw erotic art professionally, so I tend to have sexual urges many times a day... so it is really hard for me to go month or longer without masturbating because I have a lot of stimulation. And I know a lot of guys here simply don't want to just give up masturbating for months. However, if you are having sex regularly hopefully it can be easier. But not all of us have a regular sex partner and don't desire to sleep with strangers many times a week so it may be hard to wait between sexual encounters.Here are some things I have found helps... I have been scavaging the internet for answers and solutions for years now. I have not found any kind of real solution, but I have found some things that have helped and made it possible to cum during sex SOMETIMES if I was lucky, whereas before it was pretty much impossible:* Try not to masturbate as much as before. When you do, masturbate in DIFFERENT ways every time. Try not to use a dry hand and tight grip, because this is not like sex at all. Try using lube, toys, etc. to get yourself off. Get a fleshlight and mount/secure it on something and actually thrust into it (instead of using your hand to shake it over yourself) and it will simulate sex more. You can kind of 'practice' this way without the pressure of worrying if you're going to cum or not with your partner present.
* Try various sex positions and fetishes. Find a very comfortable position that makes you not have to focus on anything. When you have an uncomfortable spot on your body or you are entering at a weird angle into your partner or whatever, the feeling is not as good because you are distracted or not getting a good experience. Also, you may be more turned on (and more likely to get off) by certain fetishes that you have not tried. Trying something new is always exciting too. So experiment with things you and your partner would like to try but never have before.* Talk about the problem with your partner and try to get to a point where you both accept it and don't worry about it. Make sure that you both know that even though you might not ejaculate, you are still feeling good and enjoying sex and you have a satisfactory experience anyway. When you feel a pressure to get off, or you're worrying about it, or you know your partner might be displeased, this can ruin the entire thing and make it impossible. I actually was able to cum sometimes when I first met my husband, but it was still difficult, and he was unhappy and so was I. Then it became completely impossible because we both worried about it. But later we talked about how we really felt and the pressure was less and I started being able to sometimes again.Usually it is difficult for me even if I am masturbating, and this is because I always have masturbated in the exact same way and very frequently since I was a child. I essentially "trained' myself to only be able to ejaculate from that very specific rhythm and pressure, and anything else doesn't get me there, even if it feels good and is enjoyable. I have a feeling a lot of guys have also done this to themselves unintentionally like I have.If anyone can find a sure-fire solution to this problem, I would be very happy to hear it!
Over the years, it has been more difficult ejaculate quickly, and the use of a condom makes it even more difficult. But if the woman you are with knows how to give a prostate massage, it works every time if done while giving oral stimulation. It is also a mindblowing climax. I can be Superman for an extended period, but when I sense she is tiring, move into the oral/PM mode.
Guys, I'm a 49 year old ex-jock. I thought it was age related and reading this made me believe it is age related. I maturebate for an hour, have a orgasm feeling but not cum. Thanks for being here. Now I can understand marriage.
It is a time delay that will get the job done. We are not in our 20s and 30s anymore. Now, we men cum once a week. And I'm a jock. Notice, it is parents are in their 20s with toddlers. Sometimes I do not cum. Us older men have that problem. What a problem, and in parts of the world there is no food!
i have the same issue but mine is it dont matter if its me masterbating or sex... just really hard 4 me 2 finish.. 1 trick i found is eather have her do oril or use somthing that creates suction... it just helps 2 make it more plesurable 4 me... if i get oril lol if... thhan i only last like a hour when ive went 9 n a half b4 no orgasm... due it sux but thats my advice... also they make sleaves 4 ur swang like a man made 4skin...