it's best that you wait till you daughter has her first period to get a hymenectoamy because her vagina is so small there is a chance they could cut sumthing so where she is 11-13 then go in to get a hymenectamy I'm 1/ and had a hymenectamy because of a imprefortate hymen and it wasn't that bad depending on who you get to do it you will have to stay In the hospital 1 night I got mine done by dr.waja I subtext you go to him in a cuple years to get it done
I had incredibly painful sex with my husband for 5 years. I would usually cry during sex unless I had been drinking a lot. It was excruciating. My libido dropped and I started associating my husband with pain. It was tearing us apart. I felt like I was letting my partner down and I didn't know what was wrong with me.
I went to tons of doctors. Several told me I just needed to stretch out my vagina with dildos (one even suggested using wax candles). I went on hormones, applied medical creams to increase the lubrication of vagina, took herbal libido supplements, and thought that sex being pleasurable was a big myth. After about 8 doctors I finally saw a new one during grad school. This doctor only works with young women and she was very concerned when i almost cried from the pap smear. I told her pap smears and gyno exams always made me almost cry from pain, and that I thought that was normal. She did a thorough exam. She immediately said that my hymen was mostly still intact and I had two choices: have a baby or have they hymenectomy surgery.
I took out an extra educational loan and got the surgery. It cost about 2,000 dollars. I had to be put under anesthesia, and i had a lot of stitches (which later dissolved). The recovery took a few months. We still have some sexual issues that we are working on, but I am now capable of having pain free (and sometimes even very pleasurable) sex. This was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I have a couple pieces of advice:
1) Trust your intuition. If you think something is wrong, get a second opinion (or an eighth opinion). Find a doctor who will listen and who knows that painful sex is not normal. You're not crazy. Be diligent and find someone who takes your issue seriously.
2) You deserve to have a functioning body. It may take some money and some time, but get a surgery if that is what it takes to have a healthy, functioning body.
3) Give yourself self-compassion. Having painful sex because of your hymen can lead to lots of feelings of shame and guilt. You have gone through a hard time and you are not alone. As soon as I had the surgery I realized that there are tons of people who have to have it too--people just don't talk about it in our culture. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
I went to tons of doctors. Several told me I just needed to stretch out my vagina with dildos (one even suggested using wax candles). I went on hormones, applied medical creams to increase the lubrication of vagina, took herbal libido supplements, and thought that sex being pleasurable was a big myth. After about 8 doctors I finally saw a new one during grad school. This doctor only works with young women and she was very concerned when i almost cried from the pap smear. I told her pap smears and gyno exams always made me almost cry from pain, and that I thought that was normal. She did a thorough exam. She immediately said that my hymen was mostly still intact and I had two choices: have a baby or have they hymenectomy surgery.
I took out an extra educational loan and got the surgery. It cost about 2,000 dollars. I had to be put under anesthesia, and i had a lot of stitches (which later dissolved). The recovery took a few months. We still have some sexual issues that we are working on, but I am now capable of having pain free (and sometimes even very pleasurable) sex. This was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I have a couple pieces of advice:
1) Trust your intuition. If you think something is wrong, get a second opinion (or an eighth opinion). Find a doctor who will listen and who knows that painful sex is not normal. You're not crazy. Be diligent and find someone who takes your issue seriously.
2) You deserve to have a functioning body. It may take some money and some time, but get a surgery if that is what it takes to have a healthy, functioning body.
3) Give yourself self-compassion. Having painful sex because of your hymen can lead to lots of feelings of shame and guilt. You have gone through a hard time and you are not alone. As soon as I had the surgery I realized that there are tons of people who have to have it too--people just don't talk about it in our culture. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
hi! can anyone tell me the price for a hymenectomy in quebec please?
Hackinda wrote:
I have a 3 year old daughter that has a hymenal tag and needs either a hymenotomy or hymenectomy (it depends on what it looks like whent the do the procedure). I am having a hard time deciding whether to do it now (when she won't recall the procedure happening when she is older or when she is older and we can talk about it more. I understand your concern.
I was told it is 45 - 60 min, start at 8 or 9 am and go home around 2-3 pm. It would be scheduled on a Thursday and then she could return to her normal schedule on Monday. I just know if I should do it now or wait. Any comments for a concerned mom?
Guest wrote:
I just discovered (actually my babysitter did) that my two year old daughter has an imperforate hymen. There is no opening whatsoever. I am very nervous. I would like to find out from someone in a similar situation what the surgery involves for young children.
Well. It's just going to make the opening. So you can have sex and filter (menstrual). If I make a mistake can anybody tell me the answer? Because I like to learn.
I have a 3 year old daughter that has a hymenal tag and needs either a hymenotomy or hymenectomy (it depends on what it looks like whent the do the procedure). I am having a hard time deciding whether to do it now (when she won't recall the procedure happening when she is older or when she is older and we can talk about it more. I understand your concern.
I was told it is 45 - 60 min, start at 8 or 9 am and go home around 2-3 pm. It would be scheduled on a Thursday and then she could return to her normal schedule on Monday. I just know if I should do it now or wait. Any comments for a concerned mom?
I had the same thing your daughter has until 2 days ago when I had this surgery... I'm glad the tags are gone because, well to be honest, they were more embarrassing then anything since today everything is about body images. I will admit, it is very uncomfortable for me right now with the stitches since I've never had a baby. I also needed the surgery because I had a septate hymen ontop of the already present tags. Looking back, I wish my mom took care of the tags when I was younger and wouldn't remember but that is totally up to you to decide to do... I always thOught I was an alien cause the pictures of vaginas in sex Ed during school years didn't have extra skin tags like mine and I was too embarrassed to ask why. I'm almost 26 now and finally got this surgery done. It's also true that recovery time for healing is longer when you are older so that is something to think about. Again, you are the mom and it is your choice right now what to do. My mom chose to let them be and I took care of it myself now that I am older and know I wanted them gone. Hope this helps at all...
Today is thursday and I had a hymenectomy Monday. I have alot of stabbing pain. It must be from the stitches It hurts alot and feels like everything down there is just spasming. I cant do much of a anything and am getting fat from the lack of exercise... grrrrr
Hello. I too had a hymenectomy done as my husband could not penetrate me (my hole was too narrow). 2 days after the operation I was fine, or so I thought. 1 week after the procedure I got my period. I am not too sure if its because I was now open.. but my blood started to clot. It was extremely uncomfortable and painful. I have never before had a period with blood clots. I went back to the doctor and they gave me meds to stop the blood. If you are going for this please take it easy, do not lift anything heavy or do strenuous excersize etc. Everyone is differrent, however this was my body's reaction to the surgery.
Oh no! I feel sooo sorry for you! I had alot of pain down there during my periods. I would go to the bathroom and a clot of blood would come out and I would feel better. Today is a week from my procedure. I felt fine after my procedure but each day I started feeling worse. The stitches just poked and rubbed raw! It was horrible! I had to take alot of pain meds and even they didn't help that much. It just felt like a cockle burr! Saturday I felt the worst. It hurt so bad to walk and move. Today though I feel much much better. I tried to peer down there and see how it looked and it looks weird. It doesn't look bigger and looks like there's just a string of skin or something! My doc app is this thurs. so I will see what she says. I also am afraid I have Vestibulitis I too agree to take it very easy the week after.
I'm sorry but that is the most incorrect answer you could possibly give. No one knows exactly when they will get their period; could be 9 years old or could be 12, etc. The last thing you would want for your child is having a back up of menstrual blood in them which will lead to an immediate surgery (this is quite dangerous), all because you thought you'd wait till they were 13. Better to have the procedure done when the child is an infant then have it cause health problems later. Imperforate hymen essentially means that there is no opening AT ALL -- complete blockage. Does this not sound unhealthy to you?
Most girls do not know they have a vagina till they're 12 or 13? What are you kidding me?
I am 13 and I am getting a hymenectomy on Thursday and I'm so nervous! I got a tampon stuck last summer so they had to do this procedure
I had a partial hymenectomy two weeks ago and started bleeding again after I was cleared for sex. My boyfriend and I only did foreplay using fingers and I started bleeding again. Is this normal?
Thank you for your personal response. I did have the surgery for my daughter and we went home the day of surgery. she never really asked why we were there. She just had a hard time waiting to go home, requirement of needing to be able to drink or something like that since she had been under anesthesia. she just wanted the tubes off and too hard to explain that to her at her age. your story makes me feel better that I did to it. thank you for your kindness and time.
I was NEVER told that I needed to wait for my daughter to be older. Actually my specialist stated that I could do the surgery now or wait anytime between now 3 years old to pre-teen. That it was my decision and my comfort level. Not once was it commented to wait to do procedure so that the space was larger. I think you have false information.
I had this surgery done about 6 months ago ( I'm sixteen), I'm not happy with the apprence of the area because to me it looks unneat ( compared to what i had before and it has made me extrememly self-consious of this area however I'm still extremely happy because it made using tampons so easy
and comfortable, do anyone know if there is any possibility to get cosmetic surgery to make it look neater ( Australia )
I had a hymenotomy my freshman year of high school, I had experienced major bloating, extremely painful cramps, and a swelling of my hymen prior to because my body was having menstrual cycles with no place to drain it all from- therefore the bloating was mainly excess blood. I was put to sleep with anesthesia and had a small incision to open up my hymen followed by a few stitches. When I woke up the only pain I really noticed was with urinating of course due to the fresh cut. Since then I've had no problems with sexual intercourse, periods or anything else. The only setback I've come to is the possibility of endometriosis which is build up of tissue on the uterine walls, which can be scraped or burned when wanting to conceive