I Am Not Sorry I Had abortion, Are you?

I would get another abortion if I found myself pregnant again. I do not regret my decision at all. It was the right one for me, my partner and the child that would have resulted from my mistake. I am in no position nor do I have any desire to go through a pregnancy or enter into the child rearing arena. Women spend so much time being told that an abortion will be emotionally damaging to to any woman that gets one that it is as though you are not allowed to be ok afterward. I understand it is very hard for some women but that is not always the case. If you have had one, make peace with that and know that it is ok to just move on and not be sad...the relief I felt overpowered any remorse that I could ever feel, and that doesn't make me not normal.

Hello, I am 24 and I am 10 weeks pregnant. My appointment to terminate my pregnancy is next week, and even though it has been terribly stressful and painful, I know that this is the best decision for the unborn soul inside me and for me as well.

Remember that just because something hurts or is difficult doesn't mean that it was necessarily wrong. It takes a strong person to make this decision and make the best decision regardless of everything else.

I would just like to say that whether or not you regret your decision or not, I empathize with you ladies. And please know that no matter how down you feel or how terrible things get that there is another women out there who is experiencing the same thoughts and emotions that you are dealing with and doing your best to cope with.

I wish you all the best and hopefully we will all find peace with our decisions.

I just recently had an abortion on wed. Twas a painful experience.

Do I regret it...no

I didn't know I was pregnant and got the depo-shot. In all truths they're supposed to test you before they give it to you. But anyways. I was way more stressed about my boyfriend possibly leaving me than about anything else. which sounds horrible but I also knew I could not finacially support a child at the moment. Nor could I provide it a good enviorment because of where Im living right now. Also I could never put a child through having birth defects the rest of their life. The nurse at the clinic informed me of course the only birth control that causes birth defects is the one I chose. He and I agreed that it would be the best choice so we made the apointment.

4 hours at the clinic..subway..sleep. next day a dozen roses from him :-)

My boyfriend and I are still going strong and life has never been better.

well im sure it will be even better once the cramps stop and the passing blood clots stop :-P

everyday i think about the abortion the feeling i felt that day i still feel a feeling of emptiness, i was 15 when i got pregnant but suffering with an illness i was told to go on steroids not knowing that i was pregnant at the time , so when i found out it was scary but in a away so exciting. when i told my parent my mum took me to the doctors and they made out i was having a baby to get a house, and also told me that the steriods i was taking would effect the bay growth and could make it disabled in away i felt pressured by everyoe to have an abortion as i was really to young. on the morning i had to go to the hospital to have it, i told my dad i change my mind but he told me its for the best. when i came round from the operation i felt so sad i didnt stop crying for weeks and three years on i still regret it, i would never wont anyone to feel the upset i feel to this day, but on the plus side im still with the same boyfriend 3 years on and we are stronger than ever and are looking forward to starting are family when we think the time is right . :-)

My boyfriend - well ex is 30 years old and we were dating for 4 years he and broke up with me in a dear john letter and gave me a deadline to move my sh*t out of our apartment. So I am 28 and will be getting a abortion done this friday without a single regret...We havn't talked since him deliverying the letter for me on his lunch break when I was out of the apartment...and tells me he isn't ready to talk to me about anything right now either (this is all in a text message) so he is definately NOT the guy I want in my life, my future or have kids with...I need a MAN not a boy. The only thing I am sad about is that I am 28 and starting from square one again...when I thought I was there ready for marriage and a family...

I'm 23 years old, and my abortion is scheduled for tomorrow.
I already am the blessed mother of a beautiful little girl who's now 2 years old.
I've cried a lot. I'm scared. I feel bad for my unborn child, but I know this is the best decision for my family, both living and unborn.
My husband and I have decided to write a letter each to our unborn child, and to have a small shrine in our home with a small statue of Jizo. I don't think I'll ever regret my decision, but I will always feel guilty for taking a life. I will always miss the child I'll never know. But I am at peace with my loss and with my guilt. I just pray for a sign, from a higher power, from my never-to-be-born, that they are at peace with this as well.
I wish all of you, who have regretted your decision, strength to help you through, love to heal your wounds, and happiness to compensate for your pain. Look up Jizo or Mizuko kuyo on wikipedia. The coping rituals for the loss of your child may actually help, no matter what your religious/secular/agnostic/athiest/philosophic beliefs.

I just had an abortion just last week and I do not regret it in any way... if anything i am relieved!

I don't see how females cry about doing it for years after saying oh I shouldn't have killed my baby, or my baby would be this many years old today...or all that other stuff they say...

I haven't cried once or felt sad about it, honest. I am still with my boyfriend and I just am not ready for a child just yet, I'm 23 going to school in the fall and a baby would just mess everything up for me. He wanted to have it but it's just not the right time and I can always have a baby when I'm ready, he's very supportive and is fine about the abortion too, he was mainly worried if it would mess up my body but the facts of that happening are pretty slim.

I don't much care for people calling me a murderer or a killer, those people are just ignorant and don't realize that people have choices for a reason.... abortion is legal for a reason, end of story :-)

Don't know if this is just me, but I find myself being very... turned on, which I find kinda odd since i just had an abortion... but I am just going crazy with desire about my boyfriend, so hard to keep my hands off him lol maybe I'm a freak??

I had an abortion a month ago now and regret it everyday. i didnt find out till i was 12 weeks and did not know what to do i had alot of support from my boyfriend but he didnt know what to do either. we both dont have much money at the moment and i thought i might have damaged the baby as i didnt know i was pregnate and the whole 12 weeks i drank and was on medication. when i went in for the abortion i was still unsure but found i had noone to talk to when i got there it all went very quick! i regret it everyday and wish i wasnt so stupid and gone with my heart and not my head. if i had an counciller to talk to i would of probally changed my mind there and then. i know i cant blame the service they gave me and its my choice at the end of the day but being only 19 my mind was all over the place i had a week to make up my mind what to do as if it went pasted 13weeks they told me it would be more complicated. if i had more time to think and wasnt going through such an amotional state at that time everything could of been different and would be expecting a little baby in june. i suffer bad for aniexty and depression and this has just topped it off. i cry most nights for my baby back and wanting to get pregnate again so i can have a baby to love and care for more than anything. when i think back to the day i wonder why ? as i use to be against abortion when the baby has reached 11-12 weeks. i suggest to women who do consider having an abortion to have a serious think about it dont worry about anything or anyone go with your heart not your head thats what i should of done :-(

I had an abortion 3 months ago. I only felt bad about the first 2 weeks. I don't regret it. When I see babies of course I think of my own and what could have been. But I know it wasn't right for me to have one right now. I'm not sorry for having an abortion.

Abortion causes the woman's child to not be born.  A woman's body knows she is pregant, and some women may be able to tell themselves that an abortion is justified, but it is an act, either through pills or invasive procedure, that makes a woman no longer pregnant. 

The difference between a miscarriage and an intentinally induced abortion is that one is the result of natural causes, or perhaps unwanted trauma, and the other is done with intent.  For humans living outside the womb, this can be the difference between natural death, manslaughter, and murder.   And after the abortion, most women will have to reconcile what her body knows.  This can be difficult and life changing in a far more negative way, than an unintended pregnancy. 

It may depend on a woman's world view, whether she will regret having an abortion. 

From personal experience...

 

To the "guest" who posted "abortion is legal for a reason", it may be worth noting the actual history of abortion being legal.

Abortion was "legalized" in the US, in 1973.  Since that time, studies have shown the developmemt of a baby from conception.  More is known about fetal developmemt.  If is is neccesary to not look at this evidence in order to go through with an abortion, or never look at it after an abortion, then perhaps the woman does not want to know, and the "decision" is based upon something other than an understanding of physical reality.

Abortion is the "execption" to fetacide laws in the US.  In some states, if a fetal death is caused other than through elective abortion, it is a crime.  

Because it has not been scientifically proven when life "begins", the law, requiring such proof, determines that abortion is legal up to the point of "viability".   At that time, the baby could survive without the mother, and after leaving the mother's womb and taking a breath, the baby would have the legal rights afforded to a human being.

It is a mistake to consider that something being legal, means it is condoned.  There ae many things are legal, but not neccesarily morally acceptable.   It is up to the idicidual to exercise judgement, not simply say because something is legal, that this is some sort of ordination of the act. 

There are women who do not believe there is any negative consequence to having an abortion, and may be able to have no regrets.  But that is not true for all women.

I do not feel any regret for getting an abortion. I was very early on in the pregnancy and despite what some people think, I personally do not think it's a "baby" until much further in the pregnancy. As others have said, around the point of viability (20-24 weeks), that is most certainly a fairly developed fetus that could be viable. I don't think women should get abortions that late in the pregnancy unless something is extremely wrong with the mother or the baby. I personally think it should be done within the first 12 weeks if at all humanly possible. I think that's the best thing. Just my opinion. No offense meant to anyone who has had one later in the pregnancy (especially if it was due to maternal issues or fetal issues, that is obviously VERY understandable and I am sorry that happened!).

Anyway, I don't regret it. The only thing I regret is getting pregnant in the first place. We were using very safe contraception so I felt like it was a birth control failure and I did everything I could to prevent it. Because it didn't work, I scheduled an abortion as soon as I could. I was 6 weeks pregnant. I wanted it done as soon as I could because I felt it was for the best. I only regret that my birth control failed me for the first time in 11 years. That's right, no pregnancies for 11 years. And yes, I have given birth. I have 2 children that I love dearly but I was DONE with 2. I knew I couldn't handle another mentally, financially, and most certainly physically. My health is not ideal right now. I'm getting older and was fairly sure another pregnancy would kill me. And I would have left ALL my children motherless. How fair is that to my other two children who rely on me for everything? I wasn't willing to gamble my life and the lives of my other 2 children with this. I felt I did the best thing for everyone involved. So there you go, no I don't regret it. For all of you ladies who do,  please seek counseling. It may help your heart and mind. I would get a tubal ligation or hysterectomy so this would never happen again--but I have no insurance nor do I have the money to pay for it. If the government or insurances would be more affordable for people and help people who want no more children to get tubals or hysterectomies--there would be far less abortions. I would be the first to sign up for a very affordable tubal or hysterectomy if it were available. Alas, I do not have 2000-5000$ extra dollars to pay for this procedure.

 

I am 4 weeks pregnant and have decided to have an abortion.

I think that if I have this baby I will look back on my twenties with regret. I will look back and think what if. What if I had that time to myself? What if my partner and I had had all that time together, just the two of us? I don’t feel ready, emotionally and practically for this child.

I regret not taking the precautions to prevent this pregnancy.

I don’t want any more regrets.

I am not mature enough at my age to have this child.

I don’t want to regret bringing a child into this world under the wrong circumstances. I see it at work every day, the children whose parents clearly were not ready for parenting. As a teacher, I do not want to be that parent.

I feel like I will feel relieved with a small sense of regret of what could have been. I know now that we can conceive quickly if we want to and that we are both very fertile. I feel that we will be ready for this someday but today is not that day.

I really feel ready for this although I am not looking forward to it.

Thank you to those women who have posted on this page. It has really helped me to come to terms with my emotions and how to move forward from here and afterwards.

More women need to read posts like these. x

I felt the same way but only for about three or four days after my abortion. I got mine done a week and a day before mother's day so mother's day was tough. My boyfriend wasn't going to get me a card.. still hasn't.. and that just hurt a lot. It still does.