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So I'm 15 and a dude. I've been dating a girl for a year today. It's by far the longest and most serious relationship I have ever been in. Recently, like a month ago-ish we had oral sex. It went well for both of us, but now I don't know. I feel... Not intimatly/physically attracted to her now. Nothing went wrong with the sex part but I just woke up one day and I felt different. I still love her and all but cuddling and holding hands and all that just doesn't do anything for me anymore. I like talking and acting more like friends now. Is this weird? I don't want to break up, I just don't like her physically all the sudden. Is this rare? What's making me feel this way? Any help is appreciated.

No its not weird. Actually, I had that happen to me one time with a guy, but guess what? We are still together!! I'm older now and it happened when i was 16. i believed that i felt that way because I've never done it before. I mean you did that at 15? So it could be that. Do you still talk? Are you talking to other women?? Do you feel attracted to another women? Have you tried holding her hand or anything in a while? Maybe YOU need to spark the relationship up. Did you ask for the oral or did she? If so you did, maybe you pushed your limits? Did things too fast? But if she doesn't know this, tell her for sure and explain why. It could hurt her, but you need to tell her why. You can't hide anything from your girlfriend. Especially if its been a year! it had to have worked because you didn't hide things!!  Maybe you two can figure it out. If not, best thing to do is break up, she could have a guy love her physically and intimately then one who doesn't and be happier. But things could always work out. 

How I got over it was i told my boyfriend and he was confused at first. but its been a while and i got over the feeling and we worked things out. Maybe you need to be more physical to feel intimacy? I know when we did oral again we felt it. also before we tried to snuggle and cuddle and do all that to see if i could get any feeling. BUT i talked to him and if you don't then you WON'T get the feeling back. 

So answer my questions, maybe I can help more!!

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Also do you do pot, marijuana or any drug? Sometimes that can do something.
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I did today actually. I took your advice and did hold her hand talk, give her a hug etc. I don't not do it. I just don't get the happy feeling of being with her as much anymore
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Then you should break up with her. Its not right if your not happy. Well are you happy to be with her? Do you still want to be with her, you just don't get the feeling? Do you two ever get private time to just be yourselves and really hang out? And DID YOU TELL HER. If you didn't I suggest you do. As soon as possible. You shouldn't pretend like things are okay if they are not. And you said you don't get it as much. So do you still GET it? Just not as often? Well I can't exactly help that much, but if you feel you two should just be friends, you can still be close as well.
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Also, long term relationships can always have no physical attraction. If you two are their for each other and enjoy each others company and on a rare occasion you too do physical things and it feels right, then that is okay as well.
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