Hey, so basically i have recently found myself wanting to try Anal. My long term girlfriend is adventurous and has admitted to being curious about the subject. Though she is worried about the possible pain and she also feels it is weird. She also has an especially tight as****e (i know all assholes are, but i assure you, her's is tighter than normal) So that is another reason why she is hesitant i think. So i need some advice to help talk to her about it and try to show her how enjoyable it could be for her. I dont want to force it on her but it is one of my turn on's and a fantasy of mine to do it with her. I need some help on how to open her up to the idea that she can enjoy it and it wont be painful. So any help would be appreciated a lot!
my advice would be , - dont do it.
women have a perfectly good opening , called a vagina.
men have a penis, and guess what , they fit together beautifully.
when the man goes in and out he is stimulated by the corigations of the vaginal walls which bring him to his climax.
if he stimulates the girl properly first, she also can reach her climax. seems the ideal arrangement. brings pleasure, satisfaction, release of sexual tension.
so why would anyone want to stick it up the wrong hole?
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Start with your fingers. I have a tight hole and have yet to engage with anal with my SO because of the pain. If she seems comfortable with your fingers then try your penis. Use LOTS of lube as anything else will make it harder and extra painful. She needs to be completely relaxed. If she is nervous than her anus is going to clench up making it even tighter. If she complains then DO NOT force it. Regardless of what you say it WILL be painful for her at least the first few times.
There used to be a time when talk of anal sex was taboo, as it used to be with oral sex as well as many other different variations of sex play. NOT ANY MORE!!!
Yes, Whitbyhill, you are correct when you say penis and vagina fit beautifully together, but in todays day and age, you must know that anything goes. If there is an orafice some where, it's going to get something in it, eventually.
Anal orgasm is delicious, if you can get past the "ouches" and the "oh my gods" and the "you've got to be kidding me" phase. It's like limburger cheese, if you can get it past your nose, it's really good.
To our Guest, try a butt plug. They look like vienna sausages and they run on a AA battery. There is a cord attached. Lube up the plug and place it in gf's butt hole, then turn it on. They usually have 3 speeds, the 3rd speed will make her teeth rattle. Start out using this method, then graduate to a vibrator. Before long she will be able to accept the real thing. Just make sure that gf is super charged as anal sex is a bit uncomfortable until you are all the way where you want to be. Taking it out hurts worse, i think.
I had to laugh at the last statement about "where will it be next, in her nose" I'm sure it has already been done and probably really enjoyed and holds a place in someones sexcapades.
Yes, Whitbyhill, you are correct when you say penis and vagina fit beautifully together, but in todays day and age, you must know that anything goes. If there is an orafice some where, it's going to get something in it, eventually.
Anal orgasm is delicious, if you can get past the "ouches" and the "oh my gods" and the "you've got to be kidding me" phase. It's like limburger cheese, if you can get it past your nose, it's really good.
To our Guest, try a butt plug. They look like vienna sausages and they run on a AA battery. There is a cord attached. Lube up the plug and place it in gf's butt hole, then turn it on. They usually have 3 speeds, the 3rd speed will make her teeth rattle. Start out using this method, then graduate to a vibrator. Before long she will be able to accept the real thing. Just make sure that gf is super charged as anal sex is a bit uncomfortable until you are all the way where you want to be. Taking it out hurts worse, i think.
I had to laugh at the last statement about "where will it be next, in her nose" I'm sure it has already been done and probably really enjoyed and holds a place in someones sexcapades.
For some reason, anal sex is always big with men. I am not real sure why, and women often aren't so eager to do it. Personally I know that I never will do it. Just sounds to painful to me. Maybe it is enjoyable to the woman after everything gets all stretched out, but in the mean time it takes alot to actually get to that point. And for her, there is the risk of hemeroids. Those are never fun and they are embarassing. To your girlfriend it may not be worth it. And it may not turn out to be as enjoyable as you thought. Could end up being a let down. Just think about it, if you care about your girlfriend at all, don't push it on her. Tell her what you are thinkning and what you want, leave it alone and let her think about it. I am sure she will very much appriciate that, and maybe just maybe she will end up deciding she wants to. My advice is just not to push it on her. It may not be goood on your relationship.