I Think its disgusting how people say how women are trying to have kids and putting down people who have abortions, people have abortions for numbers of reasons, the women knows whats best for her and the baby that would be born, why should a women have to do whats wrong for her in her life at the moment and have the babys life effected because other people are having trouble concieving, i have every sympathy for women who are finding it hard to get pregnant but you shouldnt blame women who have had an abortion.
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First, I am not blaming her because I can't get pregnant. I know that it has nothing to do with her. I wish for anything in the world to be able to get pregnant and have my own baby.
Second, It just upsets me when "young" girls go out and have sex and then are not ready to face reality when something like getting pregnant happens to them.
Third, All I ment by "making someones life happier" what that I know that there are alot of women out there that would make great mothers and would love to adopt her baby if she would just give it a chance.
Last, I know that some girls get abortions. I do understand why some due, do to sertain reasons. I understand that but by getting an abortion you are hurtting the baby as well.
Sorry if I have affended anyone but this is how I fell.
Second, It just upsets me when "young" girls go out and have sex and then are not ready to face reality when something like getting pregnant happens to them.
Third, All I ment by "making someones life happier" what that I know that there are alot of women out there that would make great mothers and would love to adopt her baby if she would just give it a chance.
Last, I know that some girls get abortions. I do understand why some due, do to sertain reasons. I understand that but by getting an abortion you are hurtting the baby as well.
Sorry if I have affended anyone but this is how I fell.
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I have had abortions, yes, more than one.
I am happily married and enjoy sex, it is not just 'stupid teens' that have an abortion, it is married women with BC failures.
Go to the foster system, they have MILLIONS of children ready to be adopted NOW, unless you only want a 'baby' freshly born. 8-|
Abortion is a perfectly reasonable and acceptable way to deal with unwanted pregnancy, so is adoption, but I would never do it..personally.
It IS your opinion, BUT it is not medical fact, and she wants medical facts, not people telling her what to do.
I am happily married and enjoy sex, it is not just 'stupid teens' that have an abortion, it is married women with BC failures.
Go to the foster system, they have MILLIONS of children ready to be adopted NOW, unless you only want a 'baby' freshly born. 8-|
Abortion is a perfectly reasonable and acceptable way to deal with unwanted pregnancy, so is adoption, but I would never do it..personally.
It IS your opinion, BUT it is not medical fact, and she wants medical facts, not people telling her what to do.
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wait, i dnt think that u people should b judging the poor girl. cause i myself thought that abortions were evil, but now that im pregnant, i can see why some people want them. im sixteen, nd im about two weeks pregnant also. and u know condoms do rip, so yea, leave the poor girl alone, all she askd for was for advice on how to get rid of it, she didn't ask for ur stupid critcs.
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i'm 18 years old and i tried my hardest to get pregnant and when i did i had a miscarriage . i think that had to be the most traumatic thing i have gone through by myself . a little girl of 16 yr of age should not be having sex . she should be more concerned with living her life . trying to kill your baby isn't going to make your life better . infact most people who do what your doing regret the fact they did it because they wish to know what their child would have looked like and what they'd be like . it's a shame that some sexually active teens cannot take responsibility for their own actions . everybody knows if u have unprotected sex your at risk for getting pregnant ... so use a condom next time !!!!
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I just had a miscarriage but had a D&C and you want to give yourself a miscarriage? Sweetie even if you kill your unborn baby it can still sit in your belly for weeks because your body may not realize its not alive. Thats what happened to me and they had to remove it anyway. Also a miscarriage isn't like getting your period. You will sit on a toilet in pain and watch yourself bleed then the sack that the baby is in will come out. It is quite tramatizing as I went through it with my first miscarriage. I was lucky to have had a D&C the next time. People like you break my heart because you will never have that experience of being pregnant and truly enjoying it and being happy. You want to make yourself miscarry? Well guess what, you are giving yourself an abortion. Grow up and take care of this like a women. You are 16 not 12. Go to a doctor or keep your pants on.
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I realize this post is from 2007 and it is now 2009. I found this post googling early pregnancy symptoms as my husband and I are trying to conceive. I found the information and the accusations to be appalling and wanted to respond.
#1- If you are pregnant and you have found yourself to be so unwillingly, stop blaming yourself. It doesn't matter how this happened. All that matter is what you do from this point on.
#2- You have two options if you do not want to or can't raise the baby yourself. One is to abort the fetus. The other is to continue with your pregnancy and put your baby up for adoption. No one can tell you which decision is best. You need to search your heart for the right answer.
#3- You are not evil if you abort or if you give up your child.
#4- Do what is best for your unborn baby. While you are pregnant, no matter if you think abortion is the best course of action, take care of your child while it is with you.
Best of luck.
#1- If you are pregnant and you have found yourself to be so unwillingly, stop blaming yourself. It doesn't matter how this happened. All that matter is what you do from this point on.
#2- You have two options if you do not want to or can't raise the baby yourself. One is to abort the fetus. The other is to continue with your pregnancy and put your baby up for adoption. No one can tell you which decision is best. You need to search your heart for the right answer.
#3- You are not evil if you abort or if you give up your child.
#4- Do what is best for your unborn baby. While you are pregnant, no matter if you think abortion is the best course of action, take care of your child while it is with you.
Best of luck.
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I think some of the things people have said on here to a 16 year old girl who is clearly confused is childish and disgusting.
Its a bit late to tell her to use contraception and think as you will ALL know sometimes these things happen you dont know anything about her and her life she isn't asking you to judge her shes made the decision to ASK for help.
If you dont agree with abortion then dont ever have one, but for the people who do agree with it the option is there. If you dont like it then dont comment on it because you clearly have never been put in a situation where you have had to make a decision like that, and heaven forbid you ever do because it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
Now as for causing a miscarriage because you dont want an abortion, you basically doing the same thing an abortion will do but making yourself sick in the process.
It is a silly thing to do. You need to go to your doctors and get referred from there, they will refer and give you all the options, so you can do it safely and properly. You need to make sure you are not doing long term damage to yourself and doing it through a hospital will ensure this and its also less traumatic.
I understand you dont want to be in this situation but you ARE and instead of burying your head in the sand thinking it will go away live up to it and do something about it, sooner rather than later.
Its a bit late to tell her to use contraception and think as you will ALL know sometimes these things happen you dont know anything about her and her life she isn't asking you to judge her shes made the decision to ASK for help.
If you dont agree with abortion then dont ever have one, but for the people who do agree with it the option is there. If you dont like it then dont comment on it because you clearly have never been put in a situation where you have had to make a decision like that, and heaven forbid you ever do because it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
Now as for causing a miscarriage because you dont want an abortion, you basically doing the same thing an abortion will do but making yourself sick in the process.
It is a silly thing to do. You need to go to your doctors and get referred from there, they will refer and give you all the options, so you can do it safely and properly. You need to make sure you are not doing long term damage to yourself and doing it through a hospital will ensure this and its also less traumatic.
I understand you dont want to be in this situation but you ARE and instead of burying your head in the sand thinking it will go away live up to it and do something about it, sooner rather than later.
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i think its so messed up all you older women should insted be giving her advice not judging her poor girl is 16 years old she makes mistakes just like every human being does..im sure you have done something your not proud of just leave her and stop critizising her you make me feel sorry for you guys who try making some one who is in need of help feel so low and all this is doing is making her gilty and you might just ruin her life.. you guys dont know her or her life...mija just be smart go to a doctor and check it out dont hurt your self in the prosses=]
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im seventeen rite, i had a misscarige this time last year and im telling you now, its the worst thing in the world. i found out on the monday and misscaride on the following friday. i didnt have time to decide what i wanted to do.. i had to look at the scan too find there was nothing there. that broke my heart!
if you dont want this baby then i think its best that you have an abortion because theres people out there that cant have children and your there trying to kill yours.
trust me a misscarige is not something you want to go through, i tried to be strong but still a year on and im still depressed about it. having an abortion is the best thing for you rite now, but next time sort yourself out with some sort of birth control.
if you dont want this baby then i think its best that you have an abortion because theres people out there that cant have children and your there trying to kill yours.
trust me a misscarige is not something you want to go through, i tried to be strong but still a year on and im still depressed about it. having an abortion is the best thing for you rite now, but next time sort yourself out with some sort of birth control.
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I was 15 when I was pregnant and I owned up to my responsibility and kept my daughter. She's 12 yrs old now. People should have encouraged the girl to talk to her family not critisize her for her stupidity. I never considered abortion or adoption because I had family who helped me. I would have never tried to kill the baby so I would have wanted to criticize her to but that's not what the girl needed. I know how she must have felt. Obviously it's to late now...lol. Hopefully someone gave her the right advice.
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I am 17 years old and I got pregnant when I was 15. I was pregnant with twins, at the time I didn't even know it. Till I was 3 months pregnant and started bleeding clots. I went to the E.R. and they told me I had a miscarraige but I was still pregnant. I lost my little girl that night. I was still pregnant with my little boy thought he is now 13 months old and he is my angel. My husband (bf at the time) decided to keep the baby. I never once thought about abortion or adoption either. And you grown adults don't let these teens fool you. They are not kids they are adults they went out here and had sex they need to continue to be adults. So for the girl who is trying to kill her baby (even thought 2007 post) I feel srry for you poor girl. Srry to say but you sound like a bitty. Killing a human life shame on you. I would never have an abortion even if the doctor told me that if I kept the baby it would kill me and the baby. Because doctors are not always right. GROW UP and take on the responsibilty that you made and created. GROW UP GROW UP GROW UPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! >;) >;) >;)
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Wow, harsh comments up there, i am in the same situation, i am 18 years old and my boyfriend and i DID have PROTECTED sex, however i am still pregnant. Personally, i am not emotionally or finantially ready to have a child. I completley understand where you are coming from for not wanting to have a baby, however the way you plan to go about it is not right, not for the baby and not for you. If you want the privacy and controll over miscarrying then go to a local womens clinic and get the abortion pill, something designed to make you miscarry, atleast then you know it will be 90-100 % effective and safer for your body. It is obviously a hard and emotional time for you, i hope you make the right choices and realize that 16 is just too young to be having sex, in all honesty if you aren't emotionally and finantially prepred to have a child then you shouldn't be having sex, i learned that the hard way as well. All the best of luck to you! :-)
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