am i gay? im 21 ive had many girlfriends whom ive been sexual with. im currently in a relationship i have sex with her but i still cheat on her to be sexual with other guys. i feel bad when i cheat. i just cant see myself marrying a man. i dont know if its because im not romantically attched to guys or just because ive been raised not to be.
Well, it is very possible that you would be happier if you were full-out gay but cannot commit to the idea because of what you have been raised to think/believe. It sucks that you keep cheating on girls... If you can't decide to be with ONE person that wants to be in a monogamous relationship (whether guy or girl), then you should quit trying to be in a relationship & just play the field like you are doing anyway. You're only 21! Now is the perfect time to just live it up, anyway... If women really do turn you on as well, however, than I would say you are just Bi... Some people realize that they are attracted to the same sex, but don't want to give up their intimacy with the opposite sex, either, & that's ok... Honestly, to know for sure, I think you should try having an actual relationship with a guy... even if you keep it in secret for now. It could really help you put into perspective whether it's just what your environment growing up instilled in you, or if you just honestly want to be with women, too. Either way, don't be afraid to just be who you are (as soon as you figure out who that is) ;-)