there's no way it'll change without surgery but i am glad you decided to wait a while ! And secretely I am hoping you'll completely change your mind :)
I had labiaplasty almost 2 years ago and I've been in constant discomfort and pain ever since. I originally got the procedure done because I was having discomfort on my right side....that side is still a little uncomfortable but nothing compared to the left side, which the surgeon butchered. I don't even know why he touched that side. I am so incredibly frustrated and wish I had never done it. I hadn't known how to go about getting any relief for this pain. When I would contact the doctor he kept telling me it was normal and to keep putting cortisone on it. When I finally went back a year later he said I was the only one out of his thousands of cases who had a bad reaction to the stitches....then he offered no advice on the pain and irritation I get 24/7 now and continued to tell me cortisone. I got a second opinion and hadn't realized that cortisone thins your skin. The new doctor couldn't believe he had told me to keep using that FOR OVER A YEAR. and then proceeded to tell me that the pain must be in my head because he couldn't see anything wrong with it. Also how I should feel better since he "approved" of the way it looked. I never cared about how it looked in the first place and I certainly don't care about what this one doctor thinks of it, I know it isn't in my head. I only think about it all the time now because not only does it hurt but it looks like the rigid edge of a key. While feeling better that other women have been experiencing similar things, it is awful that anyone would ever have to go through this.
I wish I could go back in time, but I can't. The original doctor told me he wouldn't have performed surgery unless he thought he could help. assured me there would be no scarring and no discomfort after. His assistant who supposedly had the surgery herself never had an issue with hers. I am flustered and anxious beyond belief and not sure what to do at this point. I can't even sit comfortably or wear pants (which again is originally why I did this) The left side feels like a constant open wound. The second doctor suggested pain management. Has anyone had any experience with something like this after labiaplasty? I can't even think about being intimate with anyone after going through this. My mind can't stop focusing on the pain which is making me miserable.
If anyone has any sort of suggestions or found a way to make improvement please let me know. I am going to keep going through this thread.
How are you now Hope? Have you gotten any better? I had very bad surgery 10 years ago and need revision and am very concerned about it. Did you have to pay for your 2nd op with Dr Altar to fix the problem? It seems like quite a few women need surgery to fix surgery. If I could go back in time I would too.
I have been thinking about getting the labiaplasty surgery... my reasons for this are particularly because my labia are very physically uncomfortable because they constantly rub up against my pants and feel like they are in the way, they itch, get caught in clothes, they get sore from so much moving around. I will admit that I am a little self conscious about them but that is not my main reason for wanting the surgery because I have accepted them as they are the way they look. However, after reading everyone's posts I am starting to wonder if the surgery is worth it. Should I put up with the discomfort they give me? What would anyones honest advice be to me if the surgery is for a pain relief point of view? Am I just screwed if I do, screwed if I don't? Any opinion is greatly appreciated.
As a man I certainly don't have a dog in this hunt but I will tell you my feelings about what you read here.
I think there are probably many times more satisfied labiaplasty customers than there are unhappy ones. People come to forums such as this to complain, not to say how happy they are.
If you are satisfied with something you don't go looking for a forum to tell others about it.
Just my opinion.
"I'm fifteen and I hate hate hate how I look down their my labia minora is really really really long and thick and I'm unbelievably self conscious about it I'm desperate to have the surgery done but I've decided to wait till I'm a little older, I have no idea what to do could my vula change without the surgery or?.. "
Many guys like it as long and thick as possible. I'm no exception.
Your story sounds like it must have been really distressing for you. I'm from a TV company in London and we're working on a 60 minute documentary around the world of cosmetic surgery. The programme is a non judgmental look into why people undergo surgery and their positive or negative out come after. We want to inform and educate the audience when it comes to cosmetic surgery and after reading your story is sounds like this is something you are keen to do yourself. I would love to have a chat with you in more detail about the programme and see if it is something you can help us with. I am aware we can't post numbers on this forum but if you could express any interest on here we can maybe take it from there.
I look forward to hearing your response.
Best,
Jessica
Hi Miss Regretful,
Your idea of a support group is really interesting. It sounds like you really want to raise awareness around the issues of Labiaplasty.
I'm from a TV company in London and we are currently working on a 60 minute documentary around the world of cosmetic surgery. The programme is a non judgemental look into people who have undergone surgery, their reasons behind it and the positive or negative responses after.
We want to inform and educate the audience about the right decisions to make when it comes to cosmetic surgery and it sounds like you could really help us do this. I would really like to have a chat with you to tell you a bit more about the programme, see if you have set up the support group and if you are interested in helping us raise awareness for the programme.
I understand we can't post email addresses or numbers on here but if you could reply to me on here we can take it from there.
Best,
Jessica
You sound like a very ignorant person with no insight or compassion, why post something so nasty when there are obviously so many women on this site who have suffered physical and emotional trauma already?
One of the reasons I still post about my successful labiapalsty experience is stories like these. My surgery was awesome and I believe it is because I researched and found a good expeienced doctor who actually cares about the outcome.
The commonly performed Trim operations I believe are part of the problem here. They tend to be offered by the less experienced doctors. I had a modified wedge procedure. My surgery was years ago and m sex life is great now.
Check some of the videos on YouTube under drdisaia if you want more information.
I had the op over 40 yrs ago, I was given no explanation re procedures, my labia were huge
and caused pain and extreme embarrassment, plus I am flat chested. So I was pleased to get offered the surgery, no plastic surgeon. My life has been ruined, I haven't had sex for years, I don't even feel like it cos I am on antidepressants that supress the libido, I am depressed, and not a day goes by without me thinking about it. I can not put it in the past as I am in pain every day, it dictates what I can wear, nothing tight, no jeans, tights, only baggy clothes made of cotton. I am alone and lonely, I was called names by two boyfriends in the past which only goes to put me off for life, and confirm I wasn't normal (standard) I really regret it.
I had a nightmare labioplasty, and fat graphs to the majora,so much fat it looked like male testicles,i had a second revision a year later and iam in chronic pain.I have numbness in my clit and cant orgasim,
I have just read this... I know it was ages ago but if you are still having problems then please contact me!
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After reading these stories I want to thank everyone for sharing these stories. You all have helped me make the decision not to get the surgery. Like most (if not all) of you, I have been extremely insecure about the way my labia looks since I was a young girl (around 12 yrs old). As I went through puberty and matured I disliked it more and more as my body wasn't done growing and the final outcome to me is unnattractive, too big, and ugly.
My feelings towards my labia are the same. I am so ashamed if the way they look that I've been too afraid to show them to anyone (Hence why I'm still a virgin). Although I'm still not happy with them I want to learn to accept my body and love it instead of changing it. I know people say that guys don't care how they look but I feel that many guys my age (I am 18) lack the maturity to accept women with all types of vaginas. As funny as that sounds I believe it.
Again I want to thank you all for your bravery in sharing your stories and I wish the best for you in your recovery and new looks. We are still in similar shoes but just different situations and that has inspired me to not get the surgery. THANK YOU!