My 9 year old son says he never gets erections

I have 2 boys who are grown now but what I remember about the diaper changing years is the tiny penis of an infant sticks straight out or up when lying on the table anyway as it's not heavy enough to droop. The only way to tell if it's erect is it's stiffness at that age. There were time when I thought they might be stiffer than others. What they were like after the diaper years I don't know as I no longer assisted them. I suppose the only way to see if he can get an erection would be to try to create one manually. I don't feel that it is wrong for a mother to do that to help her son satisfy his or her own anxiety. I do know I was getting erections when I was about 5 or 6 years old but never from my mother touching me. She used to retract my foreskin for washing and it never got hard from her touch. When I was probably 5 or so I was playing with the girls I had for my only playmates and we often were naked playing in the lawn sprinkler. One day one of them said mine didn't look like her brother's so I pulled back my foreskin (my mother warned me I would see boys who didn't look like me and told me why). When my playmate saw my bare head she said "now it does". Then she wanted to move that skin herself and I let her but when she touched it we both got a big surprise. So maybe mom's touch will not have the desired effect or you will have to work at it, I don't know.

I'm a gp I can tell you that it is normal

is he circumsized ?

hi Tami, do you have 2 boys with similar issues with erections ?

has ur grandson had any erections yet ?

As a parent have your son feel his penis maybe even pulling it straight up and see if there is a reaction.

Maybe you should inspect the uretha for any discharge that is not normal.

I am 53 years young. I have a dozen grandsons (no girls yet) as well as two sons of my own. I have seen just about everything mentioned on this board. The main thing is this: too many of you are getting themselves worried into a frenzy when it is totally unnecessary. Kids are sexually curious by nature (especially boys) and one needs to understand that no matter what happens, it can all be forgiven. Just ask. It’s a very simple solution. If it became a constant act, you would obviously need to take the child to a therapist/Psychiatrist/what have you. Everyone calm down and don’t worry about their little boys having erections or worse. Let your common sense guide you - if not, ask someone who is ryain this area. It is not the end of the world for any of you - it’s LIFE. There are far worse things.... BUT- it is very important to nip it in the bud - BUT..... Very Important!, do NOT make a big thing about it. It all depends on the severity of the issue (your boy taking a girl into his room and trying to have sex with her is obviously more worrisome than a boy having an erection at 6-9 years old. Big deal. God Bless you all!

I meant “trained” in this area or “knowledgeable” in this area - my 6 year old grandson is playing a computer game and his mouth won’t stop- can’t help it ;-)

Yes it's normal for kids my nine year old told me the same thing he said even when he shakes it a lot it don't get hard

There is nothing to worry at all about your elder son erection, for few it takes time that's all. Its very known fact that erection happens for infants also.
So stay happy nothing to worry about him. Take care keep smiling

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Kids usually don’t want to tell you if they’ve had an erection or not, because they go through a very awkward time of their life when they start getting erections. They may feel embarrassed about it, so they don’t tell you the truth. I suggest sitting them down and talking to them about it.

That’s why thoughtful mothers, when they begin to notice frequent erections in their boys, will begin a special nighttime ritual at least several times a week. At bedtime, the mom will give her son a very relaxing and thorough back rub which puts the boy in a very passive relaxed sleep, with many boys almost asleep at that point. The mom gently helps flip the boy into his back and proceeds to give a very soft and soothing massage to the boys neck and chest. This puts most boys into a quasi-sleep mode. At that point, the mom simply moves the massage lower on the boy’s body, including his boxer briefs. Many boys at this point aren’t mentally aware or register what’s going on. He won’t notice (or care) when her fingertips start to gently massage his boxer briefs. Won’t notice when his penis begins to lengthen and stiffen inside the briefs. But mom will. She will then begin to focus her massage on the material over the head of the boy’s penis, the most sensitive area of his young body. He will attain a full erection very rapidly. He won’t notice when her fingers then begin to massage the glans of his penis, below the head, nor that her other hand is gently massaging the fabric covering his testicles. At this point he is fully sexually aroused. The mom will soon feel the wetness through the fabric of his precum. At this point, the mom will stop and use her fingers to open the slit of the boxer briefs, allowing her son’s erection to naturally come out in the open air. Using her son’s own precum as a lubricant, she can gently massage his entire penis with her hand to bring him to a full and quick ejaculation in his sleep. Some mothers instead will simply lower their mouth onto the head of the penis and using a combination of sucking and licking the head, bring the boy to ejaculate directly into her mouth.