Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we just started to having sex last year.
I know that guys of course masterbate and watch porn and this was not a problem for me until recently I've realized that he's been repeatedly checked out this adult webcam site and that's the reason why he refuses or initiates to have sex.
And I never used to look at his history on internet but I just recently did and found out he goes to this adult webcam site very often and look at these girls and masterbate.Not only that, he went and found my friend's little sister's picture so he could masterbate and I was extremely disgusted. I guess I have to understand somehow that guys like to fantasize about a girl but this, to me, crossed the line.
The thing is that he denies completely the fact that he masterbates.(does he think I am dumb or what?)
I have not told him that I looked at this because he would say that I have trust issue and basically we would break up if I ever told him that I know of this. I also told him to prove that he doesn't do that by showing me his history and he was like "I am not doing that! I know I don't so why can't you just believe me?" So I just do not have any idea what I am supposed to do...He says that "Oh I never do that that's what you are here for if I want to have sex" but he never initiates it or "in the mood" for it. And then I look at history and he masterbated.. It just makes me feel like I am not good enough for him and makes me feel very insecure about myself.
I've tried to explain it to him without saying that I knew of his webcam site visiting. I just told him that I understand if he does have to masterbate once in awhile but I do not like webcam sites where you could select girls that you can have this "cyber-sex" basically and tell them what to do because it really can ruin our sex life. He kept on saying that he's never done it and refuses to talk about it.And again afterwards I saw on his history that he went to that webcam site. It seems like every chance I just don't know what to do at this point. I am pretty serious with this guy and it just makes me really sad that he keeps lying to me and does this to me. And it scares me that he would continue to do this...
I do not want to be broken up with him but at the same I want to address this issue with proper evidence so he wouldn't just deny....Any suggestions what I should do?
what a penis
Take it from someone with enough experience with this to fill a library...run, don't walk! These a$$bites get so involved in the fantasy world that they have no time or interest in reality. Chances are that this isn't his only problem. Are there other issues? I was married over 4 yrs and was never touched after we married. Alwyas an excuse. The only real excuse was, the internet and phone and chances are personal contacts. He was so bad, he couldn't even hold a job or even take time to clean up messes he made in the house, eat, sleep and sext...RUN!
Dear GirlWProbs
You certainly have problems! You might be serious with him, but he's not serious with you! He doesn't respect you at all. Porn is addictive, and his problem will get worse. How old is your little sister? Sounds like he has paedophile tendencies! Get out while you can, and find someone who respects you (and females generally). Solo masturbation is one thing. This is cyber-unfaithfulness coupled with bare-faced lying (and that is being generous).