my boyfriend we have been going out since we were 14. we are now 17 and we lost our virginity to each other at 15 and i dont know what to do. we use to have such a healthy sex life but recently he just dosn't want to do it anymore. i dont know if its something ive done . but every single time we do it now he ether cant get hard or loses it as soon as he goes inside me. then he doesnt tell me and trys to have sex with me anyway. i feel like sh*t and i dont know what to do :/ i feel like its me and its breaking me in 2. i haven't been with anyone else and i try to ignore it when he still goes at it when he's not hard but i know :/ i'll always know .. i just dont know what to do. should i break up with him? i'm 17... i have bipolar and a boyfriend who cant get hard for me :/ i just dont know what to do... please someone help me
First of all, you have a boyfriend who is trying to please you.
You've had an active sex life, but now, like most men, he's had some difficulty staying hard on demand.
That doesn't have to spell the end of things. But he may not be into it as much. He may be into it, but worried about pregnancy. Or performing. Or satisfying you. Have you talked with him about this?
You don't always have to have sex every time you are together. You don't always have to climax everytime you have sex.
Why not relax and have some initmate cuddle time instead of pushing for sex and an orgasm each time?
Does he feel he has to perform for you every time? Why not assure him that you're still interested in him, whether or not you have sex.
That might take the pressure off and allow him to relax.
You two could agree to not have sex for two weeks and see if his interest and ability returns when you two DO decide to do it again.
Plus, as the two of you have gotten older, you are meeting others, developing other interests, and exploring the world. You might grow apart, you might not. It's really your choice. Do you both have the freedom to allow each other to grow apart? Thank about it.
You've had an active sex life, but now, like most men, he's had some difficulty staying hard on demand.
That doesn't have to spell the end of things. But he may not be into it as much. He may be into it, but worried about pregnancy. Or performing. Or satisfying you. Have you talked with him about this?
You don't always have to have sex every time you are together. You don't always have to climax everytime you have sex.
Why not relax and have some initmate cuddle time instead of pushing for sex and an orgasm each time?
Does he feel he has to perform for you every time? Why not assure him that you're still interested in him, whether or not you have sex.
That might take the pressure off and allow him to relax.
You two could agree to not have sex for two weeks and see if his interest and ability returns when you two DO decide to do it again.
Plus, as the two of you have gotten older, you are meeting others, developing other interests, and exploring the world. You might grow apart, you might not. It's really your choice. Do you both have the freedom to allow each other to grow apart? Thank about it.
i know that and ive given him time. we talk and we cuddle and we discuss things. he ashores me hes not cheated or done anything and that im the only girl he has feelings for we have tried no sex for 2 weeks and when he tries witch is every once in 2 weeks now he just cant do anything and i love him so much but its so hard with my bipolar its coursing me to have manic episodes and we spoke he said he dosnt know whats wrong we discussed going to the doctors about it but we dont know what it could be because we can do everything else apart from sex and thats been in the last 4 months :/
Maybe you two should just cool it on the sex, and remain really close bf and gf.
You might also consider going to couple's counseling together. Perhaps they might have some insight that I'm missing.
Good luck.
You might also consider going to couple's counseling together. Perhaps they might have some insight that I'm missing.
Good luck.