It can last a few weeks. However, if it seems that you are in danger, you need to find somewhere else to be or find him some help. Violence, even due to withdrawal, is still violence against you.
I know this message is old but REWARD him?? If you're with a sweet man who just needs a little nudging yea but my husband is abusive mentally and physically towards me and my dogs when he's withdrawing!! To the point of where I have to keep a stun gun and pepper spray near me just in case!! When he is smoking or he's gone without it for a couple months he is the sweetest guy ever but when he quits because he has no more for 1 1/2 months to 2 months he's abusive to us!! After he gets past that 2 months he's good he still craves but that's all and I'll beg him to never smoke it again because of how he scares me but he never listens, he always picks it back up and treats me bad again when he's out. He obviously has no respect nor love for me but yet I'm the id**t that does love him and just stays waiting and waiting for him to be better. I've even tried being as sweet as I can and baby him but it never works. What a sad life I live. I'm getting sick of trying to help him with this problem and feeling sorry for him, I'm sick of it. He doesn't deserve your advice!! Sorry!!
Lexapro is a anti-depressant not a drug!!! It balances out the chemicals in your brain!! It's great for recent pot users because pot really messes with the chemicals in your brain bad!!! Making pot legal is the most dangerous thing ever!!! Let's just make everyone crazy!!
I realize this is a very old comment but I just have to say I WISH more men were like you!! I wish my husband would see what he is doing to his family!! I wish he had enough love for us to care!! If what you wrote is true you are a good man!! Everyone goes through tough times but it's a good man or woman that opens his or her eyes and sees what they're doing is wrong, then does everything they can to make it right and treat their family like they deserve!! I'm not sure if my husband will ever love or care for his family enough to quit. His habit has caused him to have bipolar, mental and physical abuse. If only he had a heart.
I am going through all of this right now , my boyfriend has been clean for a couple of weeks and the amount of abuse I have taken is so upsetting. I never saw this side of him. I help him the best I know how but it's not good enough, I don't know what to say.. I am walking on egg shells. I always support him tell him how proud I am of him.. when does this withdrawal symptoms go away? I know he is going through alot but so am I. I need to be strong and I will but I am not a punching bag. You know that saying "sticks n stones my break my bones and words will never hurt me"? They do.. I don't know what more I can do.
I used to be a big drinker and pot smoker until my wife said I needed to stop or she was leaving me.
I quit drinking cold turkey over a year ago but the pot was a little harder to quit because it's such an easy and fast high. The pot was harder to quit because I'm a very obsessive/compulsive person with racing thoughts and the pot was the only thing to slow these traits, without being described a more dangerous drug from a doctor.
I finally quit the pot for good but it wasn't easy. I can tell you this much, an addict won't quit unless THEY want to quit. I don't care what you threaten to do to them. My wife may have threatened me and set the wheels in motion, but I was also ready to quit. I've had people preach to me over the years but I always let it go in one ear and out the other. I only quit because I was ready to quit. Now a lot of people may say this is BS and everyone is different, but I'm just offering up what I know.
I'm also not a doctor but I did find supplements to help me overcome the addictions. An addict's brain chemistry is extremely screwed up because of all the abuse over the years and their neurotransmitters are completely out of whack.
L-Theanine is great for the addict. It is found naturally in green tea and it really helps calm the racing thoughts.
Amino Acids - recharge the addict brains with the much needed building blocks.
Fish Oil
Tryptophan- take these in the beginning about 2 hours before bed to help get the sleep juices flowing.
Exercise - you need to replace the false high with a natural one. **This is hands down the best medicine for the addict brain**
Gotta go to work but I hope this helps.
Chad
I quit drinking cold turkey over a year ago but the pot was a little harder to quit because it's such an easy and fast high. The pot was harder to quit because I'm a very obsessive/compulsive person with racing thoughts and the pot was the only thing to slow these traits, without being described a more dangerous drug from a doctor.
I finally quit the pot for good but it wasn't easy. I can tell you this much, an addict won't quit unless THEY want to quit. I don't care what you threaten to do to them. My wife may have threatened me and set the wheels in motion, but I was also ready to quit. I've had people preach to me over the years but I always let it go in one ear and out the other. I only quit because I was ready to quit. Now a lot of people may say this is BS and everyone is different, but I'm just offering up what I know.
I'm also not a doctor but I did find supplements to help me overcome the addictions. An addict's brain chemistry is extremely screwed up because of all the abuse over the years and their neurotransmitters are completely out of whack.
L-Theanine is great for the addict. It is found naturally in green tea and it really helps calm the racing thoughts.
Amino Acids - recharge the addict brains with the much needed building blocks.
Fish Oil
Tryptophan- take these in the beginning about 2 hours before bed to help get the sleep juices flowing.
Exercise - you need to replace the false high with a natural one. **This is hands down the best medicine for the addict brain**
Gotta go to work but I hope this helps.
Chad
Seriously?!? I'm shocked at this horrible advise. Using sex as a reward for good behavior if he does what she wants? And marijuana is a drug. Just like caffeine, all the way to meth: if you quit there will be withdrawl symptoms. It varies for everyone. Just because you are only having a stomach ache doesn't mean they won't have violent outbursts. Especially if a person has been using it as a crutch or coping mechanism for violent tendencies. And correlating it to the kids of a child?!? I'm astounded right now. You're unbelievable for giving that horrible of advise. And furthermore pushing the wife to be an enabler! Please never give anyone advise again.
Hi. I deal with my husband's pot withdrawal once every 6 weeks or so (i.e. when he runs out). I try to do everything to make my husband not feel stressed. I do everything you say above, except I don't draw a bath for him since he believes baths are a waste of water. Yet, he still is a moody b. Basically there is nothing I can do for him except be a patsy and not defend myself against false accusations. So, you are basically saying it is the non-smokers fault for the withdrawal symptoms, and that we hold all the power to mitigate them.
Suffering me ..
My husband has smoked pot since he was 14 he is now 54 ...I know how you feel ...I had 4 sons with him and should have left but didn't ...my boys have grown up 2 of them smoke with there father freely and now I worry bout them as well....I say my husband is an emotionless desert meaning his emotions are non existent.I really don't think he cares for me as he treats me terribly gets angry very quickly ...thinks I am putting him down in every conversation in fact we can't have a conversation it turns into an argument every time ...I have tried and tried but am ready to leave ...he won't admit to being addicted ...he is arrogant and controlling and self-righteous putting me down and is very good at turning the blame on to me ...he almost has me believing his lies and twisted ideas ...I am so alone in this marriage ..I probably would stay and help him if he agrees to getting help ...tonight I upset him over talk of buying a new lounge ...I didn't agree with him so in a fit of rage he gathered some of my decor and threw them in the bin ..I really think if he didn't smoke pot our life would be completely different ...bout time I hardened up and left . I feel like a fool for putting up with his habit for 32 years. You get know where arguing with a drug ...
My husband has smoked pot since he was 14 he is now 54 ...I know how you feel ...I had 4 sons with him and should have left but didn't ...my boys have grown up 2 of them smoke with there father freely and now I worry bout them as well....I say my husband is an emotionless desert meaning his emotions are non existent.I really don't think he cares for me as he treats me terribly gets angry very quickly ...thinks I am putting him down in every conversation in fact we can't have a conversation it turns into an argument every time ...I have tried and tried but am ready to leave ...he won't admit to being addicted ...he is arrogant and controlling and self-righteous putting me down and is very good at turning the blame on to me ...he almost has me believing his lies and twisted ideas ...I am so alone in this marriage ..I probably would stay and help him if he agrees to getting help ...tonight I upset him over talk of buying a new lounge ...I didn't agree with him so in a fit of rage he gathered some of my decor and threw them in the bin ..I really think if he didn't smoke pot our life would be completely different ...bout time I hardened up and left . I feel like a fool for putting up with his habit for 32 years. You get know where arguing with a drug ...
Get out now and don't look back, if youre husband is aggressive now he will gfet worse when baby comes along !!
Are you serious??? Quiting is like losing a child!!????? No!! And f**k that, he can run his own damn bath and while he is in there, he can pull his head out of his grown ass!!!
Colin, you are a jackass. This is not about you. It's about these women dealing with pot addicted spouses.
I didn't know withdrawal existed for marijuana.
My fiance is quitting after 20 years of heavy use. He is convinced his digestive organs are failing. He has lost his appetite. Non existent libido. Short tempered. Rants for at least 45 minutes about the most insignificant of subjects. He has ticks. He is sweating profusely. He is hyper to the point of me wanting to leave the room. It's very hard. The intensity and the abusive behavior is too much to be around. Not physical. More psychological. He sounds unstable.
My full time work is demanding and stressful. I can't seem to get any period to recollect my thoughts so I can me more supportive. I feel like I am letting him down but I am myself starting to feel anxious to be around him. And I have to admit I am not being patient anymore.
I feel like he should check into rehab. I genuinely empathise with your predicament. It is hard.
Does anyone know how long until a persons moods become more stable? Should couples spend time apart during periods like this?
My fiance is quitting after 20 years of heavy use. He is convinced his digestive organs are failing. He has lost his appetite. Non existent libido. Short tempered. Rants for at least 45 minutes about the most insignificant of subjects. He has ticks. He is sweating profusely. He is hyper to the point of me wanting to leave the room. It's very hard. The intensity and the abusive behavior is too much to be around. Not physical. More psychological. He sounds unstable.
My full time work is demanding and stressful. I can't seem to get any period to recollect my thoughts so I can me more supportive. I feel like I am letting him down but I am myself starting to feel anxious to be around him. And I have to admit I am not being patient anymore.
I feel like he should check into rehab. I genuinely empathise with your predicament. It is hard.
Does anyone know how long until a persons moods become more stable? Should couples spend time apart during periods like this?
you need help....to many people express the same situation with their spouse/partner going through this....
Praise God I found this thread. My husband also has indicated thoughts toward divorce. Everything that has been said is also happening to me, but I don't think he cares. It's like someone came and took my husband and best friend of ten years and replaced him with the literal devil. He quit for a job, and now says he wished he never used to begin with. A daily, hourly, what have you, user, he quit cold turkey. One week later he said he never really loved me and is thinking divorce! My lands I am so alone, except for God and my husband's parents. My father in law is an amazing pastor and his wife is the kindest, most gracious human being I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. We are in counseling, but no one is addressing that a lot of this craziness is coming from MJ withdrawal! I NEVER KNEW this could happen. If you are praying folk, please pray for us, as I have for all of you.