I raised 4 kids, 2 of which are twins. Although when they were babies, ALL of them cried...completely normal, but when they were grown/toddler/elementary age, they were taught quiet playtime. I mean give me a break, who can stand those shrill screams when you are relaxing let alone doing work/chores around the house!!
Now 20 years later, kids grown and some gone, I find myself absolutely positively annoyed with my new neighbors and their screaming children! It's Sunday for goodness sake...CHILL AND RELAX. NOT. I hope this isn't the new norm or I think I may turn into the rebellious punk rocker I was in my teens and start blasting the hardcore tunes!
May be all about Karma my friends!
Time will tell if I say or do anything drastic. Stay tuned...
I, too, have neighbours with children who are extremely loud at all hours of the day and night. And I know in many cases it is not a symptom of direct abuse but permissive parenting, as has been previously mentioned. I raised 2 kids as a single parent. They were and are great kids. No stomping, yelling, screaming or swearing. I have to agree with the poster who completed the degree in child education, if children feel invisible, they become louder. Kids respond well to love, feeling valued and appreciated, and really all the things adults respond to. Not in a fake way, like a ribbon for everyone who participated (kids are excellent bullcrap detectors) but in an honest and genuine way. Love is always the answer. Sometimes the greatest love you can show a person is to tell them no. Setting consistent boundaries and expectations, in my experience, makes kids feel safe.
Sounds like he isn't getting what he wants). Because it's a Victorian flat the banging, heavy running, throwing himself on the ground is very noisy almost like he is right here in my flat and vibrates our floor to the point when things fall from the wall. I was always taught to not run in the house because we live in a flat.
I know kids are kids and they are allowed to play but it goes from the afternoon until after midnight. I dont feel i can complain about day time playing but surely after midnight or even after 11 is unacceptable. I have spoke to the parents but they just look at me like Im a freak then say they are children and fob me off. I can understand if they wake up crying because that is what children do if they cant sleep or have nightmares but running in the house because he is drying himself after a bath and playing ball in the house after midnight or even 11pm is unacceptable.
This is (no joke) everyday for almost 1 year. I have not had a regular night sleep since they moved in. The landlord doesn't do anything either and I'm ready to just lose it.
Most americans are too narrow minded and lazy to attempt to teach their brats to play quietly. It is pure selfishness to inflict your noise pollution on others when you can prevent it.
There should be a law that parents have to pay the government 2 to 5% of their monthly income for each noise pollution episode that their brats make ruining the quiet enjoyment of their neighbours This law will get the parents to train their brats to play quietly. If there is no law, there is NO motivation for the parents to teach their brats to be quiet. Children born before 1990 were raised to be quiet. My parents always said “children should be seen and NOT heard” and they raised us to be quiet, courteous and disciplined which led us to become courteous self-sufficient adults. The spoiled noise pollution makers will amount to nothing and will have to live off their parents money. After 1990 parents started treating their children like the world revolves around their obnoxious brats and that is why modern children are so loud.
Most White American kids are screamers, screechers and the worst noise pollution makers because they are taught from the time they are infants that the world revolves around them and they can scream and screech and constantly make noise pollution with no disciplinary actions. Staring around the 1990's white people started encouraging their brats to be loud and obnoxious running their neighbours quiet enjoyment of life. I am 100% caucasian white and I can't tolerate being around most caucasian kids. Black kids have courtesy and so and are not loud or obnoxious.
None of the Uruguayan or French babies or kids that I have been around ever raise their voice. They talk quietly and play quietly. They are so well behaved.
Finally the truth is exposed why American children are such brats. Starting in the 90's parents started treating their children like they are gods encouraging them to make noise pollution.
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Lol, black kids have better manners? What a loud of BS! My neighbours downstairs have mixed breed kids ( white mother, black father) and i have never heard such unruly brats in my life. They scream and jump around and it sounds like they are breaking down the apartment. Im at my witts end. Im usually always screaming F***** shut up! Sometimes there will be a bit of silence after i lose my cool.
If you talk to your neighbours about it & they do nothing, you do have rights to peace & enjoyment of your home. Have a google at your tenancy laws & find out what real estate they are through if they rent & contact the property manager, there are forms that you can lodge about neighbours noise destroying the peace in your home. Good Luck, that really sucks. My heart goes out to you.