You have my sympathy.
This has just become a problem for us as well. We don’t have any children of our own but all of our friends have kids. We are around all ages of kids often. We live in a townhouse. Thankfully no shared wall but our backyard fence line is shared. The old man living next to us just passed away and a young couple with 2 kids bought the house. They have what appears to be a 2 year old and 7 year old. The 2 y/o screams all day/night long. Her parents don’t ever tell her to stop. When they do say something to her she screams NO even louder then throws a tantrum. The worst part is they don’t even live there yet. They are remodeling the entire house. The thing that gets me is why at 8pm at night are the kids even running around a house that is under construction. We were so used to it very quiet and peaceful and now between the construction and kids screaming it hasn’t been very pleasant. Not to mention they are doing construction all day long all weekend. According to the HOA Sunday construction is not allowed and must be stopped by 6 during the week. Last Sunday I listened to a wet saw from 8am til 8pm. Between the kid and that I’ve just chalked it up to having the worst neighbors.
Now that you posted all that, I'd rather have you and your folks as neighbors instead of those kids.
Well if you haven't taken your child for a check up on his behavior, maybe you should try a little time out alone no toys no techno just sitting , maybe spend the day in bed and put headphones or music on , alittle tap on the butt or a spray bottle of water, he or she is out of control and has you trained for a certain response to his screaming . DONT BACK DOWN . I have 4 daughters, each unique and requiring time and attention and yes there are just so many hours in a day , but you gotta try bc that child will go to school and than see the fireworks all bc of a lack of discipline . Please dont reward bad behavior with gifts, 1: not how the world works 2: only reinforcing behavior 3 discipline shows you care about them and that there are consequences to bad choices.*** also consequences to good behavior BUT 1 step at time bc it all takes time and time to undo so dont give in to soon.
If only it's that easy.
Parents learn to tune their screaming children out. They don't care how it affects others. In their mind they believe if they could do it, others should do it also. The key element missing in that screwed logic is this: others didn't choose to have a screaming brat, and aren't responsible to deal with someone else's out of control spawn. To their mind, their personal well being means more to them. They spend more time wanting to be the cool parent, the parent that really understands their kid. They try to be friends with their brats instead of a parental figure who sets the boundaries. Wait until those screaming kids become teenagers, and discover the things all teenagers do. Wait until those adorable brats are then running the house, and setting their own rules the parents have no choice but to accept. Stop using breeding children as means to express the relevance of what you believe is the natural course to take. Because here's the thing, what you think now will always be different later. And that kid is going to grow up and have to make good choices to live in the world.
I couldn't agree more, although I don't believe that brattiness makes anyone adorable.
That post of yours impress me for real.
Kids never have problems 'for no reason', you're just a bad parent if you really think that.
I have 5 children, all of whom are adults now. When my children were in the yard playing and it got loud, I went out and told them to keep the noise down! Parents don’t do that today. Kids run wild. I can no longer enjoy the serenity of my yard since new neighbors moved in. During the week it’s the screaming kids and on the weekends it screaming kids and ADULTS. Music blasting! Why is it okay for them to have the right to enjoy their yard but I not mine?
Oh dear, I'm so sorry that those happened to you. Since I sympathize with you due to my having problems that are similar to yours, I wish that I could solve them (those problems of yours).
hi have approached neghbours over her and children she looks after after school but she ignores us all
Could you be more specific?
I get that it is more difficult but each of us has our issues in life - and they are OUR issues. Allowing our issues to impact excessively on those around us when they have no say and no control over the situation is not appropriate. I get that autistic children are hard and continuous work for their parents but this should not flow excessively onto the neighbours. Personally if I had a child the neighbours were complaining about I would do the following:
- make a safe room for my child to have their meltdowns in but for the sake of the neighbours would soundproof this room
- consider medication including sleeping pills for night time
- ensure my house / yard was escape proof
- consider respite care once a week to give the neighbours a break too
- let the neighbours know the measures I had taken to show I am considering them
What I would not do is say life has dealt me with a tough hand so I have no responsibility to anyone else because my life is tougher than theirs.
- make a safe room for my child to have their meltdowns in but for the sake of the neighbours would soundproof this room
- consider medication including sleeping pills for night time
- ensure my house / yard was escape proof
- consider respite care once a week to give the neighbours a break too
- let the neighbours know the measures I had taken to show I am considering them
What I would not do is say life has dealt me with a tough hand so I have no responsibility to anyone else because my life is tougher than theirs.
You could be right about that.