My relationship is in shambles and my girlfriend cheated on me...

Dear Guy I sure hope this is a pre-novel attempt -  if not, there is way too much UNHEALTHY drama in your life.  You owe it to yourself to continue with the novel you are writing or discountinue the life you are living - kick that twit to the curb and her friends and her mother and father.   Please tell me u have moved on.

I felt like I was reading a book or watching a movie. 1st to say I am sorry about all that has happened to you. I don't know of any guys that would be that nice and patient with someone like you are being. Tell her you need a break and see other people and see how that goes. If it makes it better for both of you keep it that way. If she cheated on you that many times she will more than likely do it again. She will realize she messed up one day and she will be sorry.

Brother, I can't believe I read the whole thing!  I was just messing around surfing the web and don't know how or why I clicked on your post but I do not regret it.  I see it has been over a year that you posted, but in the event that you check in on this every now and then know that I will say a prayer for you today.  I definitely feel your pain, and I hope you are in a better place surrounded by better people who can appreciate how obviously special and unique you are.  I think you are someone who has made the world a better place.  No matter where you are today, don't ever lose hope and don't ever lose yourself for anyone.  God bless.

i hope everything worked out for you.... I am in your same position but coming from the other side.... i feel what you were writing about... it hurts i know... if i ever found someone as caring and beautiful of a person as you.... i would leave my relationship right away. I hope your well now, you deserve so much more than what you have given. You have a beautiful soul...

Wow, I know years have passed since your post but I hope to god you have left that chick in the dust. Ugh. You're story was so intense, I'm literally disgusted by her and her family. You seem to have a level head on your shoulders and you KNOW what you should do. It seems like you just stick around to help her.. Maybe since no one was there to help you, you feel some need to do so. You do not. You need to work on yourself, and find someone you can develope a healthy relationship with. Coming from a complete stranger, you deserve so much more. "We accept the love we think we deserve." Don't sell yourself short. And break the cycle. Now. Hope all is well to this day. God bless you.

Leave her. If she cheats and always takes her mothers side she is not the right girl. You deserve a great girl I didn't go through what you did butni am having a hard time. You need somebody who will care for you. And her mom needs to get a life. If I wwere you I'd tell her off her mom off and her dad and brother. Leave her I'd be for the best

God be with the previous poster and Original Poster[OP.]. I for one don't believe on giving up on people. But in a relationship irreconsable differences, with break up couples whether married or not. I had an experience like this when I was your age. It broke me as I self admit abondonment issues, breaking up is hard to do. I then womanized, basically weekends and nights revolved around filling the gap, I often screwed or fought. I can't see where she physically cheated on You. Correct my if I'm wrong as I skim read the last 3/8 ths of your story. I had a feeling this waz fiction when I read it., is this true? Moral of the story you did your very best to help a confused girl in need, perhaps saved her life. Very similar to my ex girlfriend she went on to be a successful happy person. I hope and pray your ex girlfriend turns out the same way, as a product of your love and compasssionship.

dear that guy... As a girl in a similar situation that has long passed now, you even being younger any relationship started parents should only be involved in the relationship with tongues tied deep breaths and sighs inless deadly... otherwise its a loss the child they have raised they are still raising as a child the don't trust how they have raised their own so continue to raise them when they shouldn't you need a woman not a child... I dated a guy for a couple of years at the age of 28 begging his parents for the car an getting in trouble for bringing it when he was done playing crying at his first and last known job that his hands hurt from lifting a few grocery bags.. and his mom taking over during our arguments... when no lie my mom tried that with me once I told her bye not welcome here, but anyways 13 years later he is still a child I know this because I have his daughter who has been raised by another man.He couldn't pay child support if he wanted to or replace the dad who raised her in a few life times. Do you want to raise your lover with her parents and what happens when a baby comes along. It'll be hell and if you get away safly with your child what happens when she wants to play mom. Not healthy and very confusing for a child growing. Don't be at a loss here see it as a win find what is worth the hart ache of cheating its a whole different lesson then what your in... truly and just to help out did the guy she cheated with take the love she has for you away because we often cheat because risk adventure not because were don't have the one we love. And did she come back missing any peices from her body or is she still the same... do you have faith your love you share with her is true... because energy never dies love is an energy if its true it doesn't die. Howwill she know she loves you truly if she can't run from you to run back to you. Home is home your man's your man its not easily replaced inless its a lie... good luck all the way around cheating only hurts pride ego we fill robbed but what was taken is nothing compared to what can be given it'll be what makes it better or brakes it.. somethings broken are ment others are not broken just apart of discovering learning not only for one but two... to argue hurts but to get through an argument biulds strength... its that kinda thing get it out of the system young learn young or learn later... either way its worth learning even when your not the one who got laid...

I havent been on this forum for a very long time , and the very first article I read is this one, and it truly has touched my heart, yes it was long but it was your way to get everything you can out of your head and reach out to try and get some advise and or even just reasurrance on what you already deeply know., which is so important.  I know exactly how you feel, Ive had someone in my life who has loved me one day, with passion and conviction and then on another day pure loathing .  What Ive found out in the process is not only have I had to try and change, and love my self that little more, was to try and remember it is those who treat you this way are the ones who really have the problem. Ive found out my partner has mental health issues, which have caused his reactions, his (so called bad behaviour) this hasnt been an easy discovery however it has helped with the understanding of why one day he loves me and the next he doesnt. His own insecurity causes his reactions to the way he behaves., and yours the loss keeps you from not letting go. Boundries are what you need., for both the mother and your girlfriend. The longer you stay away and get yourself together the more you will be able to see what is ahead without her, if you dont you will need to set huge boundries, on what you will accept and what you wont, even if this includes not seeing her mother., the strength lays within, you must stick to your boundries no matter what., Hope you find happiness no matter what you do

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I was in a similar situation too. You love her but its not worth it. So far you have dodged a bullet. Focus on your work, that is what's going to save you. You have to RUN away from this girl. You can't save HER! You must save YOU! I went throug this with a woman for almost 5 years, amd in the end it did not make ma difference, she kept cussing me out, blaming me for HER mistakes a not appreciating anything I did. Can you imagine having a child with this woman? Your mom has programmed you to be a Captain Savahoe, which never works. Have you really been happy with this woman? Have yopu ever considered the fact that despite all of the time you have been together that you still manage to feel lonely quite often? This is because she is the centre of your universe., and what a pathethic and small universe it is. You need to heal, but you can only do that by RUNNING awaya from this girl and her drama. SHe is poison to you. She is too dysfunctional to love youy. You deserve better. You MUST leave! take this from some one who was also reluctant to let go. He who fuks up and gets away, gets to live another way.

Seriously, this girl is going to be her mom when she grows up.

Geez! We already Read the story. WHY quote the whole thing???