I'm only one week away from getting my period so I guess I'll wait those days and see what happens.. I'm really disappointed with myself for forgetting the pill!
Hi. This is a year later from your post but I'll tell you my story. I was given two choices with my fiance when the church found out. I'm not overly religious but I do understand the concept. My husband and I were sexual outside of marriage the church said we either marry within the month or we had to leave the church. We chose to get married, two years later I fell pregnant on the pill. I was 7 weeks pregnant when I miscarried. The pill hadn't left my system and my hormones dropped fast, that was the reason I misscarried. Im debating for the next one whether it is worth stopping the pill a month or two before I plan to fall pregnant again or just see what happens. I dont want to lose another baby for being on the pill but I want to test this theory about whether oral contraceptives are 91% accurate or if i indeed i did fall pregnant on the pill and for no other reason.
Bare with me while I answer your question and I hope I havent caused you anxiety. My husband and I were eachothers first and at the time we thought we were in love but now we realise it was just lust! He was 30 and I was 18, we grew up together in the same church and I'm very sure we were in love because we had to fight my parents the entire way to the alter. I was determined to marry him because I was in love. We have been married 3 years now and have a daughter at 17 months today but five years ago, we were both virgins. We did start sexually rubbing eachother through the undies but one day we just couldn't help ourselves. He had severe paranoia so we used a condom but my hyman wasn't broken and when he penetrated it tore me open and immediately I started to bleed. The bleeding was like another heavy period and it lasted four hours and then the bleeding stopped but I was still in pain. The doctor said no intercourse for three weeks to give time to heal. Being so paranoid we did not touch. Afterwards he used his finger and I gave handjobs because I was anxious id be hurt again. It was an accident i was hurt, we were both naive but he has always been very considerate loving gentle man. Now he is still just as sexually active with me but I lost most desire during pregnacy and taken a year to recover. Now the precum my husband gets he uses as lube. Its more powerful and sensual and thin than the lube you buy at the shops. I arouse very quickly with the liquid that comes first as he gets excited and it's only now that I have read and go gosh ahhh I hope I don't end up pregnant with it!! But I've been off the pill for six months, we still use condoms and his "lube" and I haven't fallen pregnant. A few times I experiment with him by slowly pushing him in gently before he gets too aroused and pulling out and I've recently started the pill again and I haven't fallen pregnant! Don't know if my story helps?! :-)
I would like to give advice, sex within marriage is very powerful and if you have married the right man, no matter how many years have passed the sex is never changing but so fulfilling, it brings deep satisfaction and deep emotional connection. Also unless you and your husband are prepared to start a family I wouldn't experiment without condoms. We dont trust the pill but with condoms unless they snap you won't fall pregnant! We are currently planning to have our second baby even though we are not entirely ready. But if your husband respects and loves you and he is wanting to experiment and you both have planned a pregnancy, if you fall pregnant well the baby will be born in nine months instead of the planned 18 months to two years! Accidents can happen but if you are married and you love and support eachother, you won't feel guilty or anxious if you do end up with a surprise! :-) We do regret having sex before marriage for our religion regards it as a sin but now that we are married and devoted to eachother we hope we can be forgiven! :-) I have never bled from intercouse ever since I broke my hyman. Also while on the pill I fell pregnant within three weeks but my husband and I had to have unprotected sex frequently for about 2 months before I fell pregnant again after I stopped the pill. I cant vouch for others only myself!
But yes id advise to wait until you are married before you have sex because with your husband within marriage, there is freedom and satisfaction, no guilt or paranoia or anxiety. You can fool around within marriage and if you fall pregnant, you and your husband can feel closer and more intimate through the experience without the fear. Sure your still get anxious but you'll have him by your side for life for comfort. In regards to pregnancy, labour and babies, toddlers, and parents, my advice is, no one is ever ready to have kids, no matter how you organise or plan. For my future pregnancy and baby no matter how much I plan it'll be different because I'll be looking after two babies instead of one! Get ready to multi task I tell myself :-) You also don't need to always believe what every person tells you because every baby is different, every parent and every family. There is no one who knows everything and what might work for one child doesn't always work for the other. Your child will be unique and individual, no milestone is accurate to every baby either. One baby might crawl or walk six months later or earlier than your kid but who cares! They grow up to be like everyone else. Just do the best you can, if your child is happy and successful, people like your kids and they are well behaved that is all that matters! Boy or girl as long as their healthy! I do reccommend looking into your families and seeing how they did bring their kids up! You can say yes no I like this or I dont like this. Life will never be the same once you have kids and no matter how much you plan sometimes its not always enough. Go with the flow when you do start a family, believe in yourself and your partner and try and live the best life you can for you and your children! :-)
Enough advice from me, im only 23 but have been through so much! My parents didn't like the age difference between me and my husband and they desperately tried to break us up but we prevailed! My husband loves and adores his wife and daughter, he works hard to provide for his family and now my parents love him! Haha! :-) He calls me his bonk partner, so funny! Anyway from my heart to yours I wish you the best. Find out what you want in life and strive to work on it! Be determined to save yourself for marriage, your mental health and your hubby deserve to have you at your best! Continue to seek help if you need it. No question is a stupid question, there is not always a right answer or the right advice. Stick to your instincts and if something doesnt feel right or your conscious screams at you I'd listen. Hope what I said has helped or at least has been a good read! :-) xoxo
Cheers!
First of all be prepared to take this woman as your wife and be ready to support her financially, she'll need both to succeed. I don't want to be rude but if you havent considered the possibilities before you decided to take your clothes off than that was irresponsible. A few minutes of pleasure compared to 20 years of parenthood I wouldnt risk it again. My husband got me pregnant and he's working just as hard away from home as I am with a toddler at home. If she isn't pregnant fantastic! My husband wants a second and wants no protection in the long run but he does not realise how hard it is going to be for me or for him. Hes going to have to get the chop unless he wants to be up all night to two screaming mouths to feed! Unless your ready for responsibility I wouldn't waste your freedom for a few minutes of pleasure. Im sure you adore your girlfriend so do whats best for her, I hope she is not as reckless as you! Best of luck making the best decisions for you both! :-)
Baby how old are you? I've been married 3 years and I would never give a blow job! He might like it but it's not sanitary. You cant fall pregnant by a blowjob but unprotected sex, definately! If he did cum and it wasnt inside you than your safe. If he hasn't ejaculated before he goes inside you you should be fine but if you've already had sex then there would be leftovers. Unfortunately I dont think saliva would kill sperm and I don't think blowjobs prevent you from getting pregnant even before sex! Sorry babe. Ive seen too many young girls fall pregnant. If you were in your 30s id be less worried but you're a teen and unless your boyfriend is a future husband id be careful in the future. You dont want to end up being a single parent. Parenting is hard and unless you're prepared and he is prepared, I would stop or use a condom. Id wait till you were older personally. Im a mum at 23 and im still paranoid about falling pregnant doing unprotected sex. I was pregnant quite fast at 21. I'm married but even as we started sleeping together when I was 18 I was on contraceptives and we used condoms. If you're that frightened stop! The pleasure is not worth the anxiety or pregnancy. There's a pill you can take that will help prevent pregnancy but you need to take it within 72 hours. I advise you research and think before you do anything else. Best of luck honey and keep asking for help! The best people always do! :-)
my questions are:
1. can we human tell which one is female orgasm and which one is male orgasm? i mean, do they have different smell?
2. before we had sexual activities (it was at 6pm), earlier that afternoon around 10-12pm, he was masturbating. them at 3pm to 4pm, i gave him an oral. does it mean i lick every tiny-leftover-post-cum on his penis?
3. we were so innocent. in conclusion, a) we did sexual activity but he didn't fully insert his penis in me, b) i could feel it was my orgasm but i wasn't sure. but from the smell, it was mine. c) he ejaculated outside after 3-5 minutes his penis near my vagina. and i did give him an oral. with the story that i write above, is there any chance that im pregnant? i hope im not.