Hi,
I found out i was pregnant 2 days ago and been through hell and back deciding what to do.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very happy in love.
He has 2 children from previous relationships (Dont ask not planned but their here).
Anyway.. this was unplanned and both using contraception.
He has said he will stand by me what ever happens.
My problem is that -
We live in a 1 bedroom flat (which we own). We have his 2 year old son stay with us every weekend. We are in a bit of debt, which should all be paid off in the next 2 years.
Is now really a right time for a baby ???
I keep saying ok, lets terminate, its only a clusster of cells.. we are not financially stable, we dont have the room, what would happen to my job, what would happen with my stepson etc etc.
I keep thinking all this to myself and i have an appointment with the abortion clinic some time next week.
But am i making the right decision.. My partner is a lazy git, like most men.. So i know i would end up looking after this baby on my own virtually, along with my stepson and washing my boyfriends pants at the same time hehehe.
Oh by the way im 5 weeks pregnant.
Im finding this all very hard and am rubbish at making decisions i want my boyfriend to make the decision for me but he wont. He says its up to me.
I know its ultimately up to me. Im scared im will feel regret after. But i also want to give a baby the best possible start and have money to not be worried !!
Help !!!!!
I found out i was pregnant 2 days ago and been through hell and back deciding what to do.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very happy in love.
He has 2 children from previous relationships (Dont ask not planned but their here).
Anyway.. this was unplanned and both using contraception.
He has said he will stand by me what ever happens.
My problem is that -
We live in a 1 bedroom flat (which we own). We have his 2 year old son stay with us every weekend. We are in a bit of debt, which should all be paid off in the next 2 years.
Is now really a right time for a baby ???
I keep saying ok, lets terminate, its only a clusster of cells.. we are not financially stable, we dont have the room, what would happen to my job, what would happen with my stepson etc etc.
I keep thinking all this to myself and i have an appointment with the abortion clinic some time next week.
But am i making the right decision.. My partner is a lazy git, like most men.. So i know i would end up looking after this baby on my own virtually, along with my stepson and washing my boyfriends pants at the same time hehehe.
Oh by the way im 5 weeks pregnant.
Im finding this all very hard and am rubbish at making decisions i want my boyfriend to make the decision for me but he wont. He says its up to me.
I know its ultimately up to me. Im scared im will feel regret after. But i also want to give a baby the best possible start and have money to not be worried !!
Help !!!!!
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You know what honey NO ONE can tell you what to do honey! Because your boyfriend has put it all on your plate to decide, you will have to totally put a list of pros and cons! As you have mentioned he is a lazy b****r! So that already tells you where you stand! BUT there is tonnes of lazy bugers out there, and they have children that they love and are happy - lazy ;-) - families! Just because he is a "git" doesn't mean that he will be totally useless! Well OK! Maybe he will!!! 8-| ;-) XD You said that you are VERY happy and in love! Isn't that the most important thing?
a girlfriend of mine lived in a high rent building and was in a 1 room apartment, she put her baby in a draw to sleep in!!!!!!! So you have to think of this? Is having a baby going to be a HUGE sacrifice or a slight inconvenience? Due to the unplanned of course!
Even though in theory i am Prochoice - I have to say that IF there isn't any REALL reason why there should be an abortion - such as age, total despair, violence, being desititute or NO help at all and being alone! Then I have to side on keeping the baby!
Personally I study people, I know when they are going to flick their hair, what group they are in etc. So I will "STudy!" you! And tell you that the only reason why you are asking on this forum is for someone to tell you to keep the baby!! Because IF your mind was TOTALLY made up to going to the clinic to have an abortion! So for one I will tell you that I think you should keep the baby and keep on loving each other! Your step children will fit in, because they are so young, and you WILL make it work! So there's my 2 pence!!!
I don't know if there is ever a PERFECT time to have a baby! Is it when you have enough money to not have to work? Is it when you get older? Who knows?! All I know is that the Perfect time is when you want the baby or you come to terms for the baby! All I can say honey is follow your heart and take a look at what you want out of life! Mine was always to be a mom! So I never thought of anything else! So you have PLENTY of time to make the RIGHT decision for yourself and your family! You don't have to be so quick!
Good luck and health to whatever you decide!
a girlfriend of mine lived in a high rent building and was in a 1 room apartment, she put her baby in a draw to sleep in!!!!!!! So you have to think of this? Is having a baby going to be a HUGE sacrifice or a slight inconvenience? Due to the unplanned of course!
Even though in theory i am Prochoice - I have to say that IF there isn't any REALL reason why there should be an abortion - such as age, total despair, violence, being desititute or NO help at all and being alone! Then I have to side on keeping the baby!
Personally I study people, I know when they are going to flick their hair, what group they are in etc. So I will "STudy!" you! And tell you that the only reason why you are asking on this forum is for someone to tell you to keep the baby!! Because IF your mind was TOTALLY made up to going to the clinic to have an abortion! So for one I will tell you that I think you should keep the baby and keep on loving each other! Your step children will fit in, because they are so young, and you WILL make it work! So there's my 2 pence!!!
I don't know if there is ever a PERFECT time to have a baby! Is it when you have enough money to not have to work? Is it when you get older? Who knows?! All I know is that the Perfect time is when you want the baby or you come to terms for the baby! All I can say honey is follow your heart and take a look at what you want out of life! Mine was always to be a mom! So I never thought of anything else! So you have PLENTY of time to make the RIGHT decision for yourself and your family! You don't have to be so quick!
Good luck and health to whatever you decide!
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