My 11 yr old grandson says he wakes up during the night to find his underwear wet, the bed is not wet, he thinks that is urine, he gets upset. Can wet dream cause the underwear to be so wet? he used to wet his bed up to age 9.
A wet dream is also known as a nocturnal emission; it is actually the release of semen through ejaculation. It is one of the signs of the start of puberty. If your grandson's underwear is wet, then it is just a case of bed-wetting. A nocturnal emission or ejaculation would only be a little spotty, sticky area in the underwear and he wouldn't even notice it. there is nothing to worry about, it is completely normal, almost all males go through this phase and he will grow out of it. I would advise you or someone else to sit down with him and talk about this. If you are uncomfortable talking about it with him, you can give him something to read, or you can consult your doctor about speaking with him.
Now, for the bed-wetting, I would consult a doctor about it, because at this age, he really shouldn't be wetting the bed. He may have a bladder control problem that can be treated with some minor medications.
I wish you the best of luck!
Now, for the bed-wetting, I would consult a doctor about it, because at this age, he really shouldn't be wetting the bed. He may have a bladder control problem that can be treated with some minor medications.
I wish you the best of luck!
my cousins 15 and he wets the bed O.o
he has to pee before bed.. that way his bladder is empty..
i think its just to do with havin a weak bladder..
he has to pee before bed.. that way his bladder is empty..
i think its just to do with havin a weak bladder..
It depends on how wet it is, dont forget your grandson may not know any different and assume that anything liquid down there is pee. Perhaps explain to him what wet dreams are and describe what semen looks like, Maybe ask him a bit more about what he is finding or if it really comes to it then have a look yourself at his underwear (if he is comforable with that of course). I would've thought if it was pee then it would be on the bed aswell where as an ejaculation is so small (especailly at 11) that it wouldnt be unusual to not get through his underwear. If it is pee then some professional help might be good for him if its a wet dream then just knowng what it is for him is going to be good. if it is a wet dream then this does = the begining of puberty!
I think he has a communication problem between his bladder and his brain. My bladder will fill and need draining at least once a night, but I always wake up before the pressure overwhelms my bladder's ability to hold it in, and this has been true, with no exceptions for well over 6 decades. The answer I don't have is how to get the lines of communication opened up between his bladder and his sleeping brain like they are for the rest of us. Perhaps a loud alarm set for 3 hours after he goes to bed.
About the possibility of a weak bladder, I wonder about when he is awake. How long does he go, during his waking hours, between needing to empty his bladder. If it isn't as long as his friends, he should try to stretch this time out. If he could develop the ability to hold the urine in his bladder much longer as the urge to empty his bladder becomes more intense, this could enhance his ability to hold it until the "I'm working pretty hard down here!" message wakes him up. (So there's another suggestion for fixing the problem.)
Waking up to wet pajamas and a wet bed, on a regular basis, is no way to go through life.
About the possibility of a weak bladder, I wonder about when he is awake. How long does he go, during his waking hours, between needing to empty his bladder. If it isn't as long as his friends, he should try to stretch this time out. If he could develop the ability to hold the urine in his bladder much longer as the urge to empty his bladder becomes more intense, this could enhance his ability to hold it until the "I'm working pretty hard down here!" message wakes him up. (So there's another suggestion for fixing the problem.)
Waking up to wet pajamas and a wet bed, on a regular basis, is no way to go through life.
The first question I would ask is has he hit puberty yet. I'm surprised nobody else has mentioned this key to knowing if a wet dream is even possible for the boy in question. Eleven is early, but not outrageously early. First, I would ask him if he knows what puberty is. If the answer is yes, then the follow-up question is has he begun puberty yet. If either answer is "no" then it would be useful if someone who has an eye for spotting the onset of puberty could get a look at his penis/testicles. For the untrained eye, an inch and a half penis that is about as thick as one of his fingers and testicles that seem to be the right size for that, means he is still pre or early puberty and you can count out a wet dream. Bigger than that, then the question is how much bigger and how does he compare to you in size? (if you are a man) The clearly in-between sizes leave the observer saying, "Ah, could be." Testicle size is the key. If they are too small to produce sperm, he isn't having a wet dream. You could focus on the "dream" part of the wet dream question. Ask him if he remembers having a really good dream before waking-up to find the deposit down there. I remember having some great dreams, even if they did end too soon and I couldn't remember the details. I remember thinking, "Oh. I am doing so much better than I ever have before, now!" Then I'd wake up and say, "No! No! I want to fall back asleep right now!!! Pick up where I left off." If the boy in question had a real wet dream, he should remember at least those last 2 thoughts and we hope he'd be open enough to admit it.
That’s why thoughtful mothers, when they begin to notice frequent erections in their boys, will begin a special nighttime ritual at least several times a week. At bedtime, the mom will give her son a very relaxing and thorough back rub which puts the boy in a very passive relaxed sleep, with many boys almost asleep at that point. The mom gently helps flip the boy into his back and proceeds to give a very soft and soothing massage to the boys neck and chest. This puts most boys into a quasi-sleep mode. At that point, the mom simply moves the massage lower on the boy’s body, including his boxer briefs. Many boys at this point aren’t mentally aware or register what’s going on. He won’t notice (or care) when her fingertips start to gently massage his boxer briefs. Won’t notice when his penis begins to lengthen and stiffen inside the briefs. But mom will. She will then begin to focus her massage on the material over the head of the boy’s penis, the most sensitive area of his young body. He will attain a full erection very rapidly. He won’t notice when her fingers then begin to massage the glans of his penis, below the head, nor that her other hand is gently massaging the fabric covering his testicles. At this point he is fully sexually aroused. The mom will soon feel the wetness through the fabric of his precum. At this point, the mom will stop and use her fingers to open the slit of the boxer briefs, allowing her son’s erection to naturally come out in the open air. Using her son’s own precum as a lubricant, she can gently massage his entire penis with her hand to bring him to a full and quick ejaculation in his sleep. Some mothers instead will simply lower their mouth onto the head of the penis and using a combination of sucking and licking the head, bring the boy to ejaculate directly into her mouth.
That’s why thoughtful mothers, when they begin to notice frequent erections in their boys, will begin a special nighttime ritual at least several times a week. At bedtime, the mom will give her son a very relaxing and thorough back rub which puts the boy in a very passive relaxed sleep, with many boys almost asleep at that point. The mom gently helps flip the boy into his back and proceeds to give a very soft and soothing massage to the boys neck and chest. This puts most boys into a quasi-sleep mode. At that point, the mom simply moves the massage lower on the boy’s body, including his boxer briefs. Many boys at this point aren’t mentally aware or register what’s going on. He won’t notice (or care) when her fingertips start to gently massage his boxer briefs. Won’t notice when his penis begins to lengthen and stiffen inside the briefs. But mom will. She will then begin to focus her massage on the material over the head of the boy’s penis, the most sensitive area of his young body. He will attain a full erection very rapidly. He won’t notice when her fingers then begin to massage the glans of his penis, below the head, nor that her other hand is gently massaging the fabric covering his testicles. At this point he is fully sexually aroused. The mom will soon feel the wetness through the fabric of his precum. At this point, the mom will stop and use her fingers to open the slit of the boxer briefs, allowing her son’s erection to naturally come out in the open air. Using her son’s own precum as a lubricant, she can gently massage his entire penis with her hand to bring him to a full and quick ejaculation in his sleep. Some mothers instead will simply lower their mouth onto the head of the penis and using a combination of sucking and licking the head, bring the boy to ejaculate directly into her mouth.
Would the boy not wake up from this intense stimulation, let alone his ejaculation?!
The stimulation, no. Most boys are too relaxed or dead tired. Their young bodies simply respond to the stimulation with involuntary responses. Many boys sleep through the ejaculation as well, as the mother has really simply triggered a wet dream in her son. This can be repeated every two hours throughout the night, as needed. Those boys who awaken are simply told they were having a bad dream (moaning).
I've seen this piece countless times all over steadyhealth.com, anywhere someone starts a discussion about puberty, wet dreams or erections. It is one woman's phantasy about a boy/very young man acting passively while his mother gives his reproductive system a workout. Don't count on this happening in the real world.
Another option would be for mom to use a small battery-powered vibrator to begin running over his boxer briefs. After he attains full-tenting (penis fully erect), the experienced moum focuses the vibrating end on the part of the boxers directly over the head of his penis. Although the boy will squirm, he won’t be able to move away from the vibrating. The motion of the vibrator around and under the encased head will bring most boys quickly to ejaculation, which she’ll be able to see as his sperms through the fabric or otherwise floods the material with his sperm. He’ll quickly fall deep asleep, allowing mom to do whatever clean-up she cares to perform.
Another option would be for mom to use a small battery-powered vibrator to begin running over his boxer briefs. After he attains full-tenting (penis fully erect), the experienced moum focuses the vibrating end on the part of the boxers directly over the head of his penis. Although the boy will squirm, he won’t be able to move away from the vibrating. The motion of the vibrator around and under the encased head will bring most boys quickly to ejaculation, which she’ll be able to see as his sperms through the fabric or otherwise floods the material with his sperm. He’ll quickly fall deep asleep, allowing mom to do whatever clean-up she cares to perform.