Hello :-) I did not really know what board to put this in but this seemed appropriate :-)
I sometimes randomly get depressed for no apparent reason, and when anyone asks why I just can't tell them, because I really don't know! I just feel really sad and under the weather (not as in ill).
Can some please explain this, many thanks :-)
I sometimes randomly get depressed for no apparent reason, and when anyone asks why I just can't tell them, because I really don't know! I just feel really sad and under the weather (not as in ill).
Can some please explain this, many thanks :-)
Join the human race.
We operate on automatic so much of the time, school, job, kids, that we're not really electing (choosing) how we spend our time, as much as living the life that's conveniently (or inconveniently) laid out in front of us.
Depression is in essence a signal that you've walked away from paying attention to what you enjoy, what is important to you, what makes life exciting. In the quiet moments, you can often notice that you're not really doing what you want to be doing. Or, there may be something that you haven't really dealt with, that's waiting on the back burner, and your depression is reminding you that there's unfinished business.
Basically, there's as many reasons under the sun as you can imagine - just please - until they put you into a special suit - trust that you are connected to life and to joy by passion, by involvement, by choice, and trust that your choices, informed by your heart, your soul, can rediscover passion and joy far better than any pharmaceutical solution.
Your mind is the most powerful medical resource you have - phyiscally and emotionally - so when you feel yourself depressed, acknowledge it, appreciate it, thank it for reminding you that you really haven't been paying much attention to what you really enjoy, what you really want out of life, and promise it that you will think of something, no matter how trivial - a burger, a bunch of flowers, a book, or a movie - that is a treat for you, while you're contemplating any other issues you might have forgotten.
In fact, you can ask: while you're there, is there anything I've forgotten to remind myself of recently?
And if the answer is love, ask what is it about love that you've forgotten?
And if the answer is finding someone, ask what is it about finding someone that you've forgotten?
And if the answer is conversation, ask what is it about conversation that you've forgetten?
And if the answer is feeling connected... you get the idea.
By about 5x or 7x, you've probably got the gist of a suggestion, from the universe, your mind, your guide, wherever you like to imagine or feel that information might be coming from, and you can act - that, ultimately, is the key - action, no matter how slight, from passion - not grand passion, just an acknowledged appreciation that it's something you enjoy, and care about - is the key to reminding your body and yourself that life is participation, and can be rewarding, even if you're only participating with yourself.
And hint: I know this far better - or worse - than you, and do not simply become 'occasionally' depressed - I've spent years in bed, despite all I have going for me... because, well, that doesn't matter... but this site is fun, I enjoy engaging my mind, my brain, and it's one of those things that makes each day a little bit involving, a litle bit fun.
Is that truth - everything I have said - it is a perspective - if it helps, experiment, explore, trust your heart.
We operate on automatic so much of the time, school, job, kids, that we're not really electing (choosing) how we spend our time, as much as living the life that's conveniently (or inconveniently) laid out in front of us.
Depression is in essence a signal that you've walked away from paying attention to what you enjoy, what is important to you, what makes life exciting. In the quiet moments, you can often notice that you're not really doing what you want to be doing. Or, there may be something that you haven't really dealt with, that's waiting on the back burner, and your depression is reminding you that there's unfinished business.
Basically, there's as many reasons under the sun as you can imagine - just please - until they put you into a special suit - trust that you are connected to life and to joy by passion, by involvement, by choice, and trust that your choices, informed by your heart, your soul, can rediscover passion and joy far better than any pharmaceutical solution.
Your mind is the most powerful medical resource you have - phyiscally and emotionally - so when you feel yourself depressed, acknowledge it, appreciate it, thank it for reminding you that you really haven't been paying much attention to what you really enjoy, what you really want out of life, and promise it that you will think of something, no matter how trivial - a burger, a bunch of flowers, a book, or a movie - that is a treat for you, while you're contemplating any other issues you might have forgotten.
In fact, you can ask: while you're there, is there anything I've forgotten to remind myself of recently?
And if the answer is love, ask what is it about love that you've forgotten?
And if the answer is finding someone, ask what is it about finding someone that you've forgotten?
And if the answer is conversation, ask what is it about conversation that you've forgetten?
And if the answer is feeling connected... you get the idea.
By about 5x or 7x, you've probably got the gist of a suggestion, from the universe, your mind, your guide, wherever you like to imagine or feel that information might be coming from, and you can act - that, ultimately, is the key - action, no matter how slight, from passion - not grand passion, just an acknowledged appreciation that it's something you enjoy, and care about - is the key to reminding your body and yourself that life is participation, and can be rewarding, even if you're only participating with yourself.
And hint: I know this far better - or worse - than you, and do not simply become 'occasionally' depressed - I've spent years in bed, despite all I have going for me... because, well, that doesn't matter... but this site is fun, I enjoy engaging my mind, my brain, and it's one of those things that makes each day a little bit involving, a litle bit fun.
Is that truth - everything I have said - it is a perspective - if it helps, experiment, explore, trust your heart.
I read your response from a year ago and am feeling much better about my current state. Thank you for sharing what you have discovered through your experiences. I pray that your circumstances have become something that you are happier with. Again, thank you.