House parties! Just gate crash, well don't actuqlly but you don't always need an invite to go im sure you would be welcome ,socialising is always better when other people are drunk. Remember you are under age don't get drunk. Well thats the sensible advice. My schools only got like 400 to so i know what its like if you don't have a group to hang about it can be annoying, Do you have cousins or big brothers/sisters at school to hang about with them and just kind of intergrate.
p.s You seem to enjoy doctor who at my school we honestly discuss every episode after its been on. Im sure if there is other people into that you could have a conversation about it. And relax! as david tennant would say allons-y.
VERY good advice Billy! I didn't catch that! I just remember Darliks! "I want to exterminate you!!!!" ;-) XD
3 posts.. this is haaard.. gonna break it into bits again ^^ (i break posts into bits, because it is easier to respond to 1 thing at a time than a whole story)
Bambi part:
"Say "Hi!" Or "Heh!" Or "how u doin!"" - usually what happens then is that they say "hi" and then that conversation is over and closed?
%-)
"That shows the others that he isn't a threat, so they ignore him! That is what is happening to you, you are being ignored! Because they don't KNOW you!" - actually, the reason i want to meet new people, is because these people do know me.. well they know the old me. i used to be very outgoing back then, problem is, i was a complete jerk back then. and that's the me they know.. (i'm completely the opposite of who i was back then %-) )
"Probably - because you are highly intelligent - they think that YOU think you are above them and they are the lesser" - i tend to not do my homework very often, which keeps that at bay. so that's probably not an issue :-)
"Another good way to get male friends is via girls! IF you like certain girls, when they are alone say something like "Hi, you're Arwen right? I'm Kovu! How are you doing?"" - i do tend to bond with girls easier, but at the same time it takes 200% more willpower to start talking. problem is that i'd feel all rude and stalker-ish if i started talking to someone random %-)
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Billy part:
"you don't always need an invite to go" - i know that, but.. i don't have the slightest clue as to where or when..
"Remember you are under age don't get drunk" - don't worry, i wouldn't touch that c**p even if i was paid to drink it XD
"p.s You seem to enjoy doctor who at my school we honestly discuss every episode after its been on. Im sure if there is other people into that you could have a conversation about it. And relax! as david tennant would say allons-y." - Alonzi* XD but problem is that nobody knows the show around here, it isn't on TV, i gotta watch it on the internet, so i can't really start a conversation about that. thanks though :-D
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once again, sorry for being such a pain %-)
Bambi part:
"Say "Hi!" Or "Heh!" Or "how u doin!"" - usually what happens then is that they say "hi" and then that conversation is over and closed?
%-)
"That shows the others that he isn't a threat, so they ignore him! That is what is happening to you, you are being ignored! Because they don't KNOW you!" - actually, the reason i want to meet new people, is because these people do know me.. well they know the old me. i used to be very outgoing back then, problem is, i was a complete jerk back then. and that's the me they know.. (i'm completely the opposite of who i was back then %-) )
"Probably - because you are highly intelligent - they think that YOU think you are above them and they are the lesser" - i tend to not do my homework very often, which keeps that at bay. so that's probably not an issue :-)
"Another good way to get male friends is via girls! IF you like certain girls, when they are alone say something like "Hi, you're Arwen right? I'm Kovu! How are you doing?"" - i do tend to bond with girls easier, but at the same time it takes 200% more willpower to start talking. problem is that i'd feel all rude and stalker-ish if i started talking to someone random %-)
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Billy part:
"you don't always need an invite to go" - i know that, but.. i don't have the slightest clue as to where or when..
"Remember you are under age don't get drunk" - don't worry, i wouldn't touch that c**p even if i was paid to drink it XD
"p.s You seem to enjoy doctor who at my school we honestly discuss every episode after its been on. Im sure if there is other people into that you could have a conversation about it. And relax! as david tennant would say allons-y." - Alonzi* XD but problem is that nobody knows the show around here, it isn't on TV, i gotta watch it on the internet, so i can't really start a conversation about that. thanks though :-D
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once again, sorry for being such a pain %-)
In Scotland we say "awryt" and then"how'z it gan?" and if you stop on the street then you are obliged to talk but thats probably just our culture. Anyway can you not do something like that?
I think I'd pass out before any words reaching my lips
Thing is, i'd like for others to begin the conversation, as I am very talkative, but have enourmous problems with starting the talk
but thanks a lot :-D
Thing is, i'd like for others to begin the conversation, as I am very talkative, but have enourmous problems with starting the talk
but thanks a lot :-D
Why can't you just say "Hi!" Just 1 word that is all honey! Have you ever wondered why you put up so many blocks?
Because i was socially cast out at a young age and thereby instinctively put up a lot of defense systems to 'survive'.
so before even getting to the word 'hi', my brain needs to say "is this rude? will this person completely reject you like others have? do the benefits overrule the risk? will the 'hi' ever lead to a conversation or just be wasted?" and so on and so forth.
I know that the defenses and blocks aren't needed anymore, but that doesn't make them go away %-)
so before even getting to the word 'hi', my brain needs to say "is this rude? will this person completely reject you like others have? do the benefits overrule the risk? will the 'hi' ever lead to a conversation or just be wasted?" and so on and so forth.
I know that the defenses and blocks aren't needed anymore, but that doesn't make them go away %-)
I understand honey I DO!!! You just have to move or stay put! Does that make sense? IF you keep thinking you aren't worth their time and energy, you will stay there in the shadows! BUT if you put yourself out just a little - even 1 simple "Hi" It could lead to SO much more!
When I was severely bullied - pins in my arms, Royal Flushes, Kicked, Punched, etc. I wouldn't talk to a soul or give eye contact, then we moved and I went to another school. And that first day I decided NOT to be the old me! and NO OnE would EVER treat me like they did before! So I said "hi!" And the rest is history! I have friends today that I have had since that first "Hi!" And that was 31 years ago! So BREATHE and just Be YOU! The True You before you were torn down! I was still me but different! - If that makes any sense! It is a risk - BUT it can change your life for the better I promise!!!
When I was severely bullied - pins in my arms, Royal Flushes, Kicked, Punched, etc. I wouldn't talk to a soul or give eye contact, then we moved and I went to another school. And that first day I decided NOT to be the old me! and NO OnE would EVER treat me like they did before! So I said "hi!" And the rest is history! I have friends today that I have had since that first "Hi!" And that was 31 years ago! So BREATHE and just Be YOU! The True You before you were torn down! I was still me but different! - If that makes any sense! It is a risk - BUT it can change your life for the better I promise!!!
I'll try to :-D your words are my new bible, they shall never be forgotten :-D
Now all there's left to do is find anyone who isn't in a group XD
please do take care of yourself, because you are the most helpful person in the world!
thanks..
Now all there's left to do is find anyone who isn't in a group XD
please do take care of yourself, because you are the most helpful person in the world!
thanks..
Thankyou honey! All it takes is a nod, a smile that's it!!! Eye contact is the most important expression out there!
I used to be TORTURED daily, NOT bullied - TORTURED! I had to be taken to the Emergency department on several occaisions because I had such an infected bladder - from holding it ALL day so I didn't have to go to the washroom so girls would try and drown me in their excriment!!!! I was hit over the head with a thick Metre stick and suffered a concusion! I was kicked, punched in the head - there is even a picture -of guy smiling while cleaning the blackboard erasers over my head - in the year book!!!!!!! The bloody teacher thought that THAT picture was FUNNY!!!!? I would vomit on the way to school, and take different ways home every day! Somedays I had to urinate in back alleys because I had held it so long that I was sick to my stomach! The class would stick pins in my arm and I wasn't allowed to take them out! The boys would make me sit on TACS!!! I Suffered for a whole year! THAT is how BAD my life WAS!
SO If I could overcome the horrors of what I went through - you can TOO! ALL it takes is a personal strength and to stand tall and say to yourself - "THIS IS worth it!!!"
I used to be TORTURED daily, NOT bullied - TORTURED! I had to be taken to the Emergency department on several occaisions because I had such an infected bladder - from holding it ALL day so I didn't have to go to the washroom so girls would try and drown me in their excriment!!!! I was hit over the head with a thick Metre stick and suffered a concusion! I was kicked, punched in the head - there is even a picture -of guy smiling while cleaning the blackboard erasers over my head - in the year book!!!!!!! The bloody teacher thought that THAT picture was FUNNY!!!!? I would vomit on the way to school, and take different ways home every day! Somedays I had to urinate in back alleys because I had held it so long that I was sick to my stomach! The class would stick pins in my arm and I wasn't allowed to take them out! The boys would make me sit on TACS!!! I Suffered for a whole year! THAT is how BAD my life WAS!
SO If I could overcome the horrors of what I went through - you can TOO! ALL it takes is a personal strength and to stand tall and say to yourself - "THIS IS worth it!!!"
oh my god.. what in the... what???!
i don't get how anyone in their right mind could do something like that.
what in the ---- were they thinking?!
folks like that really make me mad, they should be locked up or something, for crying out loud!
I'm glad that you switched school. that is just horrible!
i don't get how anyone in their right mind could do something like that.
what in the ---- were they thinking?!
folks like that really make me mad, they should be locked up or something, for crying out loud!
I'm glad that you switched school. that is just horrible!
Yes it was and unfortnately these things still happen! It is an awful hell that so many children live in every day! I just wanted you to understand that it CAN be done! I wish I had more confidence in myself to say "NO!" and demand more of myself! The great thing about his board is that I can tell YOU what helped ME! It was my personal experiences that made me be able to help others! Being myself and not a victim was MY revengne - along with shattering a girls shins playiing field hockey!!!! OOPS!!!! ;-) XD But it took a LOT for me! I used to practice saying things to myself in the mirror and then have responses! SO much so that on the first day at my new school a young boy bumped into me in the hall way and I immediately bulked up and said "WATCH IT!!!!" It was so funny, this poor kid was terrified! But then I went forward and said the first words "HI!" So basically my point is, everyone is different, BUT it CAN be done - you just have to step away from yourself for bit that's all!
well, going to go to school now!
I've set a goal; say "hi" at least 5 times a day
we'll see what happens! :-)
I've set a goal; say "hi" at least 5 times a day
we'll see what happens! :-)
Good luck honey! The 1st one is the hardest the rest are easy! and remember even IF you know the answer or aren't even interested- Just listen to the answer and just ACT interrested! It is ALL in the details! People want to be heard and listened too! BIG HUGS honey! Take a bannanna!!!! ;-) XD