Snoring destroyed my marriage

I am so sorry to hear of the extent to which this situation is affecting your life.  I understand this more than you could imagine.  I grew up in a household in which my dad snored uncontrollably.  My mom took to sleeping in the dining room -- on the floor -- because it was the furthest place from where he slept.  My bedroom was across the hall from theirs.  I wasn't happy with the idea of floor sleeping, so I stuck it out...and lost hours of sleep. 

My mom finally got him to go for a sleep test by buying him a chinstrap and asking him to try it out.  The strap is intended to retrain your jaw, which not only has the effect of immediately reducing your snoring, but also has the long-term effect of teaching your jaw to position itself in a way that eliminates or greatly reduces the cause of the problem. 

He felt so much more rested after using it that he ended up going for the sleep study within a few months, was finally diagnosed with apnea, and got a CPAP machine.  It was a life changer for all of us.  She bought it for him, left it on the bed, and told him he could try it, or we could leave.  Period.  I wish you all the luck in the world.

Are you a therapist? Have you encountered this? Have a nice day and a good sleep! It is a real problem! A lot of us snore to some degree but try sleeping with the noise of a freight train right next to you!

We are currently investigating the potential of a snoring test that can help you for finding a solution together with your partner. 

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Nope. Tired and resentment from sleepless nights can very much end a marriage.

Yes, a marriage can most definitely be ruined by snoring. However, when a spouse snores, it is forgivable as long as they recognize the problem without getting mad, and do something to try to fix it. If you are the snoring spouse, then you must love your spouse enough to lose weight, see a doctor, septum surgery, or whatever other methods might cure your problem. It is INCREDIBLY selfish to KNOW your snoring is keeping your spouse awake at night, and to do nothing about it. Just so selfish. So, with many other issues, it may be the snoring that causes your poor spouse to become sleep-deprived and understandably cranky, but it would be your selfishness in not fixing the problem as the snoring spouse that will ultimately destroy your marriage. Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture in many countries. If you snore and do nothing about it, you are basically saying that you are ok with torturing your poor spouse - that's abusive!