ive resently become sexually active am 19 and am unable to cum during sex.... it is creating massive amounts of tension in my body and making me very agrivated afterwards... not that i want to. but ive lost one girl to it and dont want to lose anouther. several times i can feel it building then it just goes away, other times i get a pain in one testical and then a pian abouv it on the same side right abouv the pubic bone..... is there something wrong with me? i am unable to produce any precum
I was looking at posts like these and they normally relate it to "relaxing". I've had sex with my partner a few times and like you said it can go on for literal hours.....but nothing for me. (don't get me wrong i'm not 100% complaning because she loves it, but its just the me factor!) Not to mention that i get the exact same pains, but they normally edge away if i manually masterbate to cum. Just not during sex!!
Any ideas?
Any ideas?
I have the same problem. In my case, it is because the Kegal muscles are held fully contracted. I actually thought "relaxing" would do it but it didn't until I realized I had to make the Kegal muscles relax with intention. This lets me get release with the hand, but I am still trying to figure out how to get release during sex.
And yes, I completely understand what you mean about the partner loving in. The problem is that women can't last as long as I can and not getting any release is very frustrating.
And yes, I completely understand what you mean about the partner loving in. The problem is that women can't last as long as I can and not getting any release is very frustrating.
How you guys manage to hold for so long ? I always worry come too soon.
It's not out of choice. Some 8% of all Men have this problem. Sure, guys with this problem can literally last for several hours but sex ceases to be enjoyable when there is no release. You can think of it as the opposite extreme to guys who can't get it up at all. But at least they can take drugs to get release.
I imagine if you actually WANTED this problem (and I don't advise it) you could just hold your Kegal muscles contracted. (make a motion like you are keeping yourself from peeing) - this muscle is actually responsible for ejaculation. If it is kept contracted, it is not able to go through the muscles to enable ejaculation... I suppose it can be a good trick if you can let it go when you want to. In my case I never need to use a condom since I know I will never get off... but if you get used to holding it, good luck letting it go.
I imagine different guys have a slightly different cause.
I imagine if you actually WANTED this problem (and I don't advise it) you could just hold your Kegal muscles contracted. (make a motion like you are keeping yourself from peeing) - this muscle is actually responsible for ejaculation. If it is kept contracted, it is not able to go through the muscles to enable ejaculation... I suppose it can be a good trick if you can let it go when you want to. In my case I never need to use a condom since I know I will never get off... but if you get used to holding it, good luck letting it go.
I imagine different guys have a slightly different cause.