I'm really hoping i can get some good advice from someone on here because i don't know who else i can ask and it's really bothering me. I'm 19 and basically a virgin, i've had anal sex many times but when ever i try to have real sex i can not handle the pain and feel as though it can't possibly go in. I was in a long term relationship about 2 years ago for a couple of years and we tried a few times and couldn't get his penis to go inside me. Recently i have been involved with another guy who has fingered me a lot and it has sometimes been uncomfortable but definitely dealable( which is a change for me) and i really want to be able to sleep with him. He always has me lubed up before we try and eats mee out so i'm wet but i still can't seem to handle the pain and it's actually getting depressed. I dont know what my issue is but i've heard that there is a surgery that can be performed to have the hymen broken for you while you're out but i dont want to have to do that. My question is , does anyone know if taking a painkiller before trying to have sex will make the penetration hurt less? because it hurts like hell!
i think your hymen is from the stretched type that dosen't removed easily with penis ..so must have a surgical removal .. and don't worry ..there 'll be anathesia in this surgery..