I have known for about 3weeks now that i am pregnant, i did go for a consultation for an abortion but found out that i was about 16weeks pregnant, which did put me off a lot.
The past week and a half i have been debating whether to go through with it or not as i had asked whether i could not be put to sleep through the procedure.
The lady at the place told me that it would not be very nice as you would go through a miscarriage and that it would be like giving birth.
The reason why i didn't want to be put to sleep was that over a year a go the same thing happened and i did decide to terminate the pregnancy and it took me a good six months to get over it and then i did decide to be put to sleep.
I am very unsure what to do as i really do not want to feel how i did last time as i have only started to feel right the last couple of months since this happened.
For the past 2years i have been quite depressed and being seeing a mental heath nurse but i have not seen for the past couple of weeks as he had to cancel that last appointment and i was starting to enjoy going out and being more comfortable in myself.
My boyfriend has left the decision to me and said that he would be there even if i decide to keep the baby even though i know its not really what he wants as it will stop a lot of the plans we had or take us more time to achieve.
The past week and a half i have been debating whether to go through with it or not as i had asked whether i could not be put to sleep through the procedure.
The lady at the place told me that it would not be very nice as you would go through a miscarriage and that it would be like giving birth.
The reason why i didn't want to be put to sleep was that over a year a go the same thing happened and i did decide to terminate the pregnancy and it took me a good six months to get over it and then i did decide to be put to sleep.
I am very unsure what to do as i really do not want to feel how i did last time as i have only started to feel right the last couple of months since this happened.
For the past 2years i have been quite depressed and being seeing a mental heath nurse but i have not seen for the past couple of weeks as he had to cancel that last appointment and i was starting to enjoy going out and being more comfortable in myself.
My boyfriend has left the decision to me and said that he would be there even if i decide to keep the baby even though i know its not really what he wants as it will stop a lot of the plans we had or take us more time to achieve.
I personally think you should keep the child. I am 17 years old and I have a 13 month old son. He is my world. Yes it is hard work but he is precious. A child is a gift from God. And if you had a abortion a year ago and you are now pregnant again. That is a sign that God wants you to have a child. That a child is a part of the plan he has for you. Just think a child can help with depression it can lighten your day. And you are already 4 months pregnant, that means this child is now a human being and you may not know it but this human inside of you has already bonded with you and he/she knows you are his/her mommy. His/her best friend, his/her reliance. This baby already loves you with all of its might. You should be blessed with this child and many more. Just keep it and you will not regret it I promise. My husband and I love our son Lucas. He is starting to walk no on his own and it is the most beautiful thing. And when he calls out "MOMMY" my heart just melts everytime. :-D :-D ;-)
i honestly think if you have the support and willingness to have the child then have it. but if you were like me and couldnt afford it or had living problems, and knew no one would have the support i would have needed to have the child, then dont have the child. i had an abortion, almost 4 weeks ago and its been hard but then again it has been a blessing. although it upsets sometimes because i never met my child or got to experience all the wonderful things that come with a child, i realize i wouldnt have even been able to give my child enough milk or clothing for a month. im very happy with the choice i made and i really think it is for the best. if you think you can have the child and be able to give it everything it would need, then you should have the child.
There are places out there that can help you. You can get WIC it provides the childs milk. And you can use clothe diapers they are cheaper also. Or you can breastfeed that is the cheapest way. And if you can't afford a pump then you can get a handheld pump from the hospital when you have the baby. There are so many things out there and places you can go. And the baby can get free checkups and shots that he/she needs for FREE at the Local Health Department. Just think about it. :-D