14 year old bedwetting

My brother isn’t very supportive at all and he has seen me in wet sheets and wearing just a nappy. I had a dry night last night which is good but still dont know why it is happening again and feel bad about that I guess.

Great you had a dry night Jacob.
Yeah when it comes to something like this brothers are just no help.
If you share your room with him it would probably even be worse for you at times.

It's hard to say what has caused it to flare again it could be puberty.
Did it seems to start about the time you started puberty Jacob?

How are things at school for you are you under a lot of stress and pressure from school or any other things that are going on besides the bed wetting.

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Hi Jacob

How has the last couple of days been for you?
Hopefully things are going well for you with maybe a dry night or two to make your day.

I am a girl and i know that it is somewhat common for girls going thru puberty to become bed wetters.Unfortuneatly,i was one of those girls! I started puberty just past 12 and the bedwetting started shortly after.My parents had me wear cloth diapers and rubberpants[plasticpants] to bed every night and they were put on me by mom before bedtime!My bedwetting went on all thru 13,14 and some into 15 and it was embarrassing somewhat wearing the diapers and rubberpants into 15!

I am a girl,14,and bedwetting because of puberty.When i first started bedwetting past 12,my parents got me cloth diapers and 'rubberpants'[plasticpants] to wear to bed every night and have been wearing them ever since!

My little brother is 13 and wets the bed and i've started getting really annoyed with him but hear me out here. When he was younger our parents went to the doctors with him and tried hard to get him to stop bedwetting but when nothing seemed to work back then I think they just kinda gave up and hoped one day that he would grow out of it so since then they have just carried on buying him nappies and not bringing it up really just letting him get on with it. That would all be fine but i've noticed that he himself really doesn't seem to care about it and will just wet himself sometimes because its convenient.

Like in terms of his friends finding out he'd get super anxious about something like that, avoids sleepovers etc... but when he's at home it's a different story. He only wears them to bed but in the summer he sits around eating breakfast in just a t shirt and his used nappy and on a weekend when he's not at school he sometimes lounges around most of the day in a dirty nappy. Worse though is that I know for a fact he sometimes wakes up dry in the morning but will then wet himself wearing the nappy rather than going to the toilet- surely this isn't going to help the problem get better and shows he doesn't care about it. He's pooped himself before sometimes as well and i'm sure he only ever does this when he wants to because it only ever happens occasionally. I have confronted him about this and he denies it and then tries to make out like i'm picking on him for something he can't help which my parents fall for. I think he milks the sympathy and attention it gets from them sometimes.

This isn't just me hating on my kid brother, I genuinely worry about him and want to see him get over this problem which my parents seem to have given up trying with because like I said he does genuinely worry about his friends finding out and doesn't take part in certain things because of it and he's getting older now. I just don't see how he can ever fix it if he is doing stuff like this which makes it seem like he doesn't care. I asked my dad if he would do something about it if he knew for a fact he was sometimes doing it on purpose and he said he would take serious action but doesn't think that's true so it's got to the point where I really want to prove it to them tbh because I think it would be good for my brother in the long run.

Hi Guest
It's nice your concerned about your brother and want to help him.
As far as his wetting the bed most nights it would be completely out of his control and not his fault that being said his wetting in the diaper and keeping it on is something your parents need to address.
Many kids wet their bed well into their teens and have a very difficult time over coming it and your right about him stressing and worrying about friends finding out and him missing out on many things because he still wets the bed.
He may be relaxed about his problem at home but wetting the bed at 13 is very stressful for kids.
Suggesting to your parents that they change his routine for nappies would be the best way to help him.
He needs to know it's not a punishment and it is being done to help him.
His bedtime routine needs to start with a pee an hour before bed and then another pee before his nappie is put on.
He needs to know that no matter what he does not pee in his nappie when he's awake.
His morning routine everyday has to be as soon as he wakes he removes his nappie and pees in the toilet.
This may not improve his bed wetting but he needs to have a schedule that he follows everyday and there has to be rules about not using the diaper to pee in when he's awake and he needs to remove the wet diaper as soon as he gets up everyday.
The family support and understanding is something he needs as bed wetting is very difficult to overcome but he also needs a routine that helps to keep his skin rash free and hopefully leads to him doing better at managing his bed wetting.

I am a girl,14 and also a bedwetter.My parents require me to wear cloth diapers and rubberpants to bed every night also.Every night before bedtime,i lay naked on my bed,mom slides the folded diapers under me,applies the diaper rash ointment and babypowder,then brings the diapers up and pins the corners with diaper pins.I then raise up my legs and mom pulls the adult size rubberpants up my legs and over the diapers.The rubberpants fit me blousy over my diapers and crinkle when i walk.When i did my 8th grade confirmation last month on June 2,we had to wear white,poofy,short sleeve,knee length dresses and veils with lace anklets and white shoes.My parents required me to wear the diapers and rubberpants under my dress and it was a little embarrassing being around the other girls and boys with them on under my dress!