Anxiety and depression for days after binge drinking

Today i feel like a truly crap mum _if itmakes you to feel less alone). I was just getting my life back together. Doing ok, quite pleased with my progress, and thenyesterday-well he takes advantage of not just me, but everyone, and Id had enough, Locked him out his own home. Eventuallly the police were called, -after they left I was so frightened so sat on my front step for sometime, and calmed down-though been crying and sleeping and crying and sleeping. the police are now getting social workers incvolved-which I know Ididnt fair too well last night, but perhaps it could be a blessing in disguise. Im sared , worried traumatised. ( he was like a spoilt child yesterday, and now Im thinking perhaps its me, perhaps as I didnt get my way , im the spoilt one.but I want to get qualifed -get a better job etc, and just be ok mum, Be able to help my children out when they need it themselves. and so on. Since the day I found out I was pregnant this man has done NOTHING seriously nothing. I cant get rid of him as hes signed the tencacy aggreeement and the only way i get rid of him is too move. I could end up anywhere and I totally think its prrof of what a mean , taking advantage person he is, Ive done no studying, Face puffy and been sleeping under my childs duvet-she always makes me feel better-but its not fair-im the one who should be making her feel good about herself. Can I just ask....why is it that the law has stated that in the case of D/A...the only measure is total witnessed proof of physical harm? Why is that, sorry but when I have been hurt i think its hjust a bruise, its not anything like the rest..Its the hidden stuff thats harder to deal with and then you dont know if you are going mad or not as your being told your going mad and then it all comes out like a mad person-its the same old the legal system sucks The other day I was sitting on the bus and this ladwho was on probation...was talking at the top of his voice about his alcohol and drug addictions.......honestly I looked at him and I couldnt stop laughing, as I just thought your right...they can put you on as many programmes as they can give you-but its the person with the addiction thats got to find that something else that is as fulfilling. ahard struggle for me. Anyway, I cant wait tilll this is over. Im hoping that it will end this onth..It was Mat the 27th we supposedly split Its now-osometime in October, and we sleep in seperate bedrooms..he has our old room. I live out of cardboard boxes-and why is it when I get a suicidal thought bite myself. maybe its just to remind myself that it wil be physically painful. i did a cracker last nitght yeah- im a crap mum, but hey no ones perfect!

Alcohol falls into the catagory of a depressant. It lowers your mood, changes your metabolism so feelings of depression and aniexty can easily be caused by it. It's like taking dose after dose after does of liquid depression. Binges are worse as you intake severe amounts of depression in one short amount of time, basically you flood your system. Alcohol is a drug, it's addictive and it plays on your brain and nerves as well as your liver. The best bet is to stop binge drinking, I know that's not easy for people suffering from alcoholism - a friend of mine is an alcoholic and just a few months ago she gave birth to a premature baby weighing less than 4 pounds, who was kept in intensive postnatal care, and now she may have her daughter taken away from her. She was on a couple of bottles of wine a day, she would hide it, lie about it and really isn't in a fit state to be a mother right now, she's more worried about alcohol money than clothing her baby. Although her need varies from day to day. Sometimes you get so close to the problem that you can't step back and see it for what it is. I hope you guys can cut back, and if not that you can get some help, there is no way to stop alcohol leading to depression as it is a depressant rather than a stimulant. It would be like drinking five expressos and not expecting a caffine rush, (even with caffine there is a come down), or giving a kid a huge pack of sugar and not expecting them to paint the walls with your nail varnish and lipstick while bouncing from couch to couch screaming that they're superman. Just remember, if you slip up, then start over fresh the next day. Not every slip up ends as a failure, it's having the courage and strength to get back up and go "okay, yesterday didn't go great, but today will be fine" that will get you through it all. Good luck guys, I hope this helps, even if it's just a little bit. (and I hope none of this sounded condesending, it wasn't supposed to, but you know with internet and not able to see expressions, blah blah). :-)

AlmostNormal it didn't sound condescending at all! I think it was something that needed to be said. Thank you for having the courage to tell us what needed to be said. What do people think of this post?

After a relationship break up i began a long period of depression and anxiety , I had functioned quite well all of my life before this . About 10 years before id had a panic attack on a really bad plane journey after a night drinking shots on the final night of a sun holiday. From then on though pretty clear sailing .It all started one day at a wedding i felt i wanted to marry my girlfriend through a haze of alcohol and then felt very different the next day . We ended up breaking up the next week when I made a decision which i believe was true and right now, but i made it in fear then, so which my subconcious never truely accepted . Two years of doubting had i done the right or wrong thing ensued , and through all this i never reduced my alcohol intake which never allowed me to fully get a clear picture on things till now. All through this time i was getting repeated panic attacks and depression and couldn't get out of the vicious circle of feeling good thinking i was back to myself , go out have a few beers and be back in the same position whether it be this week or the next . The truth I realised with councelling was this I always had an underlying level of anxiety and perfectionism, which got triggered and released any time id go binge drinking and always will . With a few test runs I know now any more than 3/4 beers in a night may trigger me off , so I stick by the rule of 3 beers in one night and no more than 6 in a week . In reality maybe im fooling myself and the only thing to do is t total it , but i so love the pub atmosphere the banter and the feeling of a cold beer on a hot day or just a fri evening pint. Really hope i can stick to the plan, which is hard sometimes but its the happy medium at the moment . Binge drinking was the order of the day for me for years but ive realised my anxiety will never go away unless i become responsible for myself and control it . Im about 2 months drinking less alcohol and my life is fantastic at the min . Really hope this relates to someone and any advice i can give i will .

So it has been two years since I posted my first experience. I am in my late 20's now and have come to several conclusions about this topic over the years. For some advice, once you have this problem, IT NEVER GOES AWAY. You will not be normal or the same ever again. Sorry it sounds harsh, but true. I trully believe like others have stated that TOTAL abstinence from Alcohol is the only answer. The first time it happened to me was after a long bing drinking vacation and the results were horrible. I trully thought that I had lost it and that they needed to lock me up. I went to my doctor several times, tried medication and for me was a horrible experience. The first time the Alcohol panic attacks hits you, you believe that you are going to die. Over the past two years I have continued to drink off and on. It took me months to finally come to terms with the fact that it was the alcohol that was the problem. I now have panic attacks, Severe panic attacks and anxiety after drinking large amount of alcohol. It feels like the exact minute that alcohol is out of my system, my body goes into shock and total panic and anxiety set in. Now over time panic attacks dont ever get better or symptoms lessen, one just learns ways to handle it better. I went months without drinking and despite mild depression, LIFE was GREAT, I felt amazing and full of energy. Start drinking occasionally again and always ends the same way, blacked out drunk and full blown panic the next day. I have drank the past four days mildely 5-10 drinks and guess how I feel today??? Horrible anxiety and panic. I swear it to be true, you must quit drinking for these to go away. I think if I stay under 2-3 beers then I am fine the next day, but anything over and im doomed. Anyway I feel for any and all of you who have just discovered this horrible affliction, but there is a cure. STOP DRINKING...... "Boy do I wish I could listen to my advice.

i totally relate to the posts here. i was wondering tonight whether or not to go out for drinks, but i had this vague memory that after i drink, i get anxious (it has been around 4 months since i last drank). not only that, i become profoundly depressed, don't want to get out of bed the next morning, can't stand the idea of going to work and interacting with people. it's ridiculous. and the worst part is that within a couple of days, i repeat the cycle. madness. so i'm glad i looked around for similar experiences before going out and doing something stupid. thank you for posting your experiences. in my opinion, it's very important to share this stuff; i know that at least in my case, i have a lot of difficulty on my own remembering what it was like the last time.

well i am glad i found this site. First thing i notice is that most of you seem to be a lot younger than me, but we still suffer the same [i am 47] This was never a problem to me until 2 years ago, i dont no why it just happend. I was always the bloke that was the life of the party if it was happening i was there. Ive a great wife and a 23 year old daughter and they dont think anything is wrong becuse i hide it well. But boy if they new! Drink is the main cause[because it seems when this happens] and you would think at my age you would have sorted it but no. I am x army so drink for me was always there [with the boys] Ie served in a lot of combat situations from the falklands onwards and have been front line all the time.BUT this i just cant understand. If i have a skin full then the next day i cant face anyone, i feel like i am the worst bloke around, i think of my past and start crying,I was never like this! What is going on?Thanks to all that read this.

I just quit drinking....day 26 and I think I know why I did drink so much, and I hopes this helps because it's workin for me. My parents drank heavy and their parents did too. growing up i felt like "well that's just what you do on weekend, parties etc". college welcomed it and gave me some "good times", friends, got laid ...whatever. it really reaffirmed that there was nothing wrong with it ...hell Jesus drank, didn't he? as a workin adult and business owner stress is a real trigger. If life's gettin the better of you then drink...simple. i was ( and my family) are 'high functioning alcoholics' educated, successful and over achievers. but whe i get frustrated with work marriage or life isn't turning out like i wanted then i would justify a 'me time' with some drinks. like the previous post said it escalates. constantly analyzing external factors of whats wrong and how i can fix them, if i couldn't figure them out then i needed to turn my brain off for a while. alcohol is the best medicine for that. then i would overdo it, function on a blackout and either do something stupid or just even wakeup feeling scared, that was my next 'fear' phase. as a couple of days roll by i'd realize that the world wasnt after me and i needed to do my job and the cycle would start again. back to the family thing, there was no personal direction in my family's culture. stay in school, dont do drugs, get educated, married, have kids and all will be well.....bullshit. my son if 5 now. and my daughter 2. if i repeat this culture then they WILL end up like this or severely high risk. I decided to look inward. why were things getting to me so bad? do I have to control everything? let it go. nobody's perfect. i had to flat out tell my drinkin crowd that i can't hang out like this anymore, I am self desructive and if you understand then you'll just give me a little space. and they did understand. i still get edgy...4pm-5pm...works' over now what...and i have to realize that i have to eat sleep and wakeup tomorrow. i can fill the rest with something other than drinking because whatever is bothering me will get figured out and it will be there tomorrow and most importantly......its not that big of a deal really.

Not sure if this point has been raised already. The word "hangover" is the condition someone is in after a night of heavy drinking. It encompasses both physiological AND psychological changes that a person goes through. For example, from the wikipedia article, here are the things that are included in a hangover: Headache, nausea, sensitivity to light and noise, lethargy, dysphoria, diarrhea and thirst. A hangover may also induce psychological symptoms including heightened feelings of depression and anxiety. So what I'm trying to say is that yes, we all feel anxiety and a depressed mood after drinking, because it's a normal part of a hangover.

Hello Everyone, For anybody that has anxiety and depression it will get better once you stop drinking the booze. You may feel like your going crazy and losing control of your mind but it will go away once you stop! I though I was going crazy after I decided to stop drinking...it takes a couple of months probably 2...I suggest running or working out of some kind to replace the high of the achohol. Good Luck! and remember your not going nuts its just the achohol withdrawling from your body... be strong:-D Remember a panic attack never kills anybody!

hallo I totally can refer to this problem of not being able to drink. for about 4 month ago i had to say stop and convince myself that i was not able to EVER drink again. This quite instantly put me in an depression and anxiety. The symptoms i have now is much alike those i had while after drinking, so i hope its some regular form of depression and not any chronic shit. what also strikes me is that everyone with the same problem is in their young twenties hmmm, iam myself 23 and hopelessly tierd of this condition. still living in the hope of one time being able to have a drink:). Glad i found this post tough

I can totally feel what people on these posts are saying. I don't consider my self a huge drinker i can quite happily go weeks with out a drink and then BANG a night out with old school buddies or a stag do will pop up and thats it iam on it, big time! My problem is when i drink i seem to get either very hyper active and every ones best friend and super confident or pissed off about the whole night, feel really tired and just think iam an ugly loser. I have huge blackouts where i cant remember a thing. The days that follow iam just in a massive panic and i can't stop thinking about what i said, was i to confident, was i to grumpy, how did i act, should i have done this, why did i do that it goes on and on. Its a mixture of 'what an awesome night' and 'my god i acted such an idiot' and it really messes with my head, i cant sleep i have cold sweats at night. I seriously think i have some other issues as my moods are often up and down. I would also say that on the whole most people would say 'wow he's really confident' and an out going guy but deep down i have really low self esteem and am consistantly trying to cover it up with lies always trying hard to seem positive and happy! The booze binges seem to amplify how iam feeling at the time and then it messes me up for days after. The worst thing about all this is i have an amazing stunning girlfriend that i love dearly. She is far to good for me yet depending on my drunken mood end up flirting and often getting with other girls its always just a kiss here and there but its not good or fair on my partner, this just adds to the whole panic, anxiety feeling.

my condition have been like this for a while now, but it would be nice to hear from some of the people who experienced this in the start of this topic in 2007 like sandra 247, is the condition the same, have you had to give up drinking, or if you know anything more now that would be in interest for us others?. thank you..

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I had my first drink at 15. From the ages of 15-17 I would drink about 6-8 beers every weekend, I would never black out, never be hung over and NEVER get anxiety during this time. Once i turned 18 (legal age to drink in my country) I would be out almost every single night and drinking about 15+ beers or spirits a night on average (now i look back and realise I would have done this amount of drinking earlier but when i turned 18 I was on a fairly high paying job and could afford anything and everything i needed, including copious amounts of alcohol and parties) Although constantly drinking during that year I would get really hungover but I could still pull myself together, get up early for work and feel completely normal again by the afternoon. Around the time I turned 19 (I cant really remember a first time) I started to get chronic anxiety for days following a binge. For the first few months I ignored it. But then it became progressivly worse. I found myself lieing to people when I was drunk. Something I didnt do when i was sober. I didn't even realise I was doing it at first, until my friends started pulling me up about it. I know it sounds crazy but when I drank, I litterally became a whole other person. Everything about me would just mirror itself, there was not 1 common thing myself and my drunkself had. I am the type of person to do anything for anyone, at any time! But when i was drinking i was the complete opposite. I have a genuine care for people and their feelings but after several drinks I would spend the whole night completely (and very seriously) righting off someone that I actually like. A lot of the time i have felt so disgusted with myself i feel too ashamed to show my face places. People have said to me about my behaviour "the truth comes out when you're drunk" But this isn't the truth! My true self is only out when in sober. After several months of carrying on with the anxiety, I started trying to find out what was wrong with me. I have been browsing this forum for about a year now and took in a lot of advice. I really cut down on drinking for a while. I didnt drink for about 2 months and after about 6 weeks my anxiety was practically gone. I started to feel happy for the first time in 2 years. And then what did i do? I went on another binge. And i was back at square one again. Anxiety filled my entire body for every second of the day i was awake for about 2 months. The self hatred i felt was immense. I knew i brought it on myself but i couldnt stand it. I would look at myself in the mirror, And i wouldnt understand why ME, the only one out of every person i know feels like this. I just couldnt understand it. I would think to myself, my life is great, I have everything I could possibly want, Im fairly good looking, i have a great job, I have a good love life, i drive a nice car, I have travelled all around the world, But the only thing i was missing and desperately needed was hapiness. And that got stolen from me by alcohol. It was 6 months since my last binge, and even tho i had every intention to drink again sooner or later, it was a friends birthday and i drank a lot! Within 3 hours all the hard work I had put in over the last 6 months had come crashing down and I was acting my old ways. Anxiety is back, but this time it only stuck around for about 4 days. I think this had a lot to do with me knowing that i was never going to go back to alcohol and knowing I will overcome this (lucky for me I dont get cravings). My will power is stronger than ever, I am happier than ever and I will beat this. I am now 20 years old.