You made me laugh!! Thank you, I needed that. I look at my butt & think what happened?! LOL
Ladies, menopause is an awful phase but it is part of life and it is what it is. You can choose to dwell on your past youthful look or you can choose to change what you currently hate about yourself and improve it. I am 55 and I don't look as youthful as I did even 5 years ago but I have made the effort to maintain my appearance by working out only 3 times a week, maintain a good skin regiment, and staying positive just about life. A lot of people I know have died recently of cancer and just random health issues and they've all been in their 50's. I can sit around and mope about not being as youthful as I once was or I can embrace life as I know it and just live. Only you can change yourself, physically and mentally. If you never took care of yourself to begin with, then it's inevitable that your appearance has deteriorated. Al you can do now is develop healthier eating habits, exercise, take care of your skin, and strive to look and feel the best you can. You're never going to be young again but you can definitely look and feel great post menopause. It just depends on how hard you want to work to get there.
Wow my sentiments exactly
60 is even worse!!! And I was really really pretty and thin in my younger years!
Sooooo hard depressing and we have financial stress which doubly sucks!
What a wonderful view you have of life and this f*cking menopause. You are my hero and I just wish I was a little bit like you. You go girl!
OMG, this could have been written by me and I totally agree with you re picures, they make you feel even uglier.
Yes, I've never had men attracted to me ever since I was young and now it sucks even though I'm living on a West Coast city like downtown Vancouver BC. There's a ton of cute guys here but no attractive ones ask me out on a dinner date. I only attract losers. Now with menopause, even losers won't ask me out. Can I get make up or makeover advice?
I am 52 and due to the menopause have become fat ugly stupid. I cannot live like this anymore and will end it. I am discusting and of no use. Cutting the fat out of me is the best thing i can do.
I whole heartedly agree with you and feel the same. Menopause ruined me too. I'm just beside myself and feel I have been robbed of my redeeming looks and qualities. I'm glad someone finally tells it like it is! Menopause feels like a slow death sentence to me in spite of all my research and efforts and money spent on nutrition exercise and hormonal support to rise above it.
Thank you, great advice
I goddamn love you!!! Great post!
I am 60 years old I feel I woke up one morning and said the hell is this person. I hate trying on clothes because the clothes i feel i would like to wear look stupid or just a reminder of how i have changed. Sex I wish i could feel sexy but i don't. I try to keep my marriage alive by trying to please my husband but it feels like a chore. I don't want to even be touched even though I pretend it's ok. Now my moods have changed i feel sad so I drink ( we both do) and this is hard for me to admit, I only drink in the evening and i am ashamed that I do. I love my husband very much i don't think he understands how i feel.
I will be turning 57 in a couple of weeks. Since 50, it has been a downward spiral. I played tennis most of my life, ran more than 25 miles per week and was in the gym at least 4 days per week. I have gained 30 lbs despite the constant oversight of calories, organics, high fiber, and all of the so-called nutritious food. I went vegetarian for 8 years, cut out the 3-4 wine glasses per week, and I'm still fat, and well fugly. My facial features have hardened, my neck is broader and there is some sagging now in my cheeks. B/C I am still active (hiking, swimming, yoga, and cycling 5 days/wk), the muscle (and fat) makes me look like my dad, rather than my mom. Haven't lost a single pound and I'm tired all the time. Fat, bloated and constantly running to the toilet with all the fiber and water that is supposed to detox and encourage weight loss. Even my hands are swollen, not to mention all the joint aches. It is so frustrating to keep buying products to no avail. Depressed about it all. I used to be a beauty queen in my 20s. Some of my older friends look great, without as much effort as I invest: they think I'm just greedy and lazy. Sometimes I just want to give up, but I have a disabled daughter who depends on me, and I volunteer time. One of my clients said I looked like a "sheriff". I don't know if I'll ever have sex or meaningful relationship b/c I look and feel so unattractive.
Your post is a light in a very dark place. Thanks.