Ok, so I'm 22 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (we'll call him Bob). Although I have had other boyfriends and flings in the past, Bob is the only person that I have had sex with. Other guys I have messed with prior to being in a relationship with Bob have had a range of penis sizes, so I have somewhat of a reference. Bob is a couple inches soft and probably about 5-6ish inches hard, which isn't necessarily "small" from what I've seen but there have been men with longer and/or thicker penises (Bob's is thick enough for me to grasp it with no real overlap of my fingers). When we have sex, I love it. He loves it and cums every time. The problem is, I never orgasm. But in my defense, I had never had sex before I met him so I don't know how to orgasm or what it feels like so I really don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. But every once in a while he gets all sulky saying things like he's afraid one day I'll leave him for a man with a bigger penis because I'm not being satisfied blah blah blah. But I am being satisfied! I crave sex like any other woman and absolutely enjoy it as much, if not more, than he does! What can I do to 1. Achieve an orgasm to hush him up. 2. Convince him that there is nothing wrong with him and I'm completely happy with our sex life.?
2 is easy just keep telling him how you like his penis and enjoy sex and you find it big and thick. Tell him during sex when it feels good and say things like "wow its so big" and "you're so thick it fills me up." I know sounds corny but works to help boost there self esteem. Once his self esteem increases he will stop asking so much but make sure every now and then you say it as a reminder its good.
1 can be a little tricky. Can you reach orgasm on your own by masturbating? If you haven't tried it than your best bet is to get alone and stimulate yourself and see what its like. Some women will ripple having tons of small orgasms, some will have one big bang, or like me ripple a few times then a big bang at the end (I'm one of the lucky ones lol). Once you have figured out what it feels like and what happens when you orgasm you will know what to do and when you orgasm with your boyfriend bob.
Bobs penis is better that it is smaller because the womans bottom 1/3 of her vagina has more nerve endings in it than the whole top 2/3's so when he thrust he will hit more nerve endings making it feel better for you. Reaching clitoral stimulation is easier than gspot so during sex you or him rubbing your clit during sex will help reach an orgasm.
Good Luck and remember sex should be fun so just take your time and explore what works best for you.
Heather, if a man is already feeling inadequate, telling him that "wow, you are so big" or "you so thick it fills me up" is more likely to make him loose his erection completely. he already has an issue, now suddenly talking like that to him he is going to know it's not a genuine statement.
depending on your country and race he is statistically average. Ok, not just saying this, MOST relationships, she never/rarely orgasm from penetration! get him to use his mouth and/or fingers first, get him to give you an orgasm BEFORE sex, this is what me and my wife have always done, and actually, having an orgasm just prior to sex, sometimes means she has another during it! One last tip... if you're thinking/worrying about it during sex, you're even less likely to!