Hi
Im a 15 year old male, and no matter how hard I try, I find that a cannot masturbate. I have not ever ejaculated or had an orgasm. I feel that I am becoming sexually frustrated by this, especially because I feel I have sexually matured enough to masturbate.
Is there something wrong with me, and is there anyone with this problem?
Thanks in advance for any replies :-D
Im a 15 year old male, and no matter how hard I try, I find that a cannot masturbate. I have not ever ejaculated or had an orgasm. I feel that I am becoming sexually frustrated by this, especially because I feel I have sexually matured enough to masturbate.
Is there something wrong with me, and is there anyone with this problem?
Thanks in advance for any replies :-D
yea i have the same problem except i'm 18... :/ not many answers on the internet
Snoop45,
There are some rules to masturbating... Rules you ask>>>>
yes, rules:
the first 1) is to be at ease... that is, you have no time restraints, or have proper time to enjoy oneself......
2) timing... you've got to be sexually aroused to be able to do it, not bring your penis up from being buried and small...think of a girl from school who you like to be around, or the cutie on that is quiet, or stands out from the crowd... just a girl
3) the place to enjoy yourself.......outdoors, or in a speical place
4) the proper way for you to masturbate.... get excited to feel good about the act itself.... use the other hand, place the thumb to your body...
5) lube... you may need a lube.. water-base is the best, but and oil-base is ok for the penis only ....shampoo, conditioner, cooking spray, hand lotions, etc
Religion and family teaching may be stoping you, too may people around, tired from sports, school work, will not put you instantly in the mood....
so just lie down and feel around the penis at first, you will be able to...
RT
There are some rules to masturbating... Rules you ask>>>>
yes, rules:
the first 1) is to be at ease... that is, you have no time restraints, or have proper time to enjoy oneself......
2) timing... you've got to be sexually aroused to be able to do it, not bring your penis up from being buried and small...think of a girl from school who you like to be around, or the cutie on that is quiet, or stands out from the crowd... just a girl
3) the place to enjoy yourself.......outdoors, or in a speical place
4) the proper way for you to masturbate.... get excited to feel good about the act itself.... use the other hand, place the thumb to your body...
5) lube... you may need a lube.. water-base is the best, but and oil-base is ok for the penis only ....shampoo, conditioner, cooking spray, hand lotions, etc
Religion and family teaching may be stoping you, too may people around, tired from sports, school work, will not put you instantly in the mood....
so just lie down and feel around the penis at first, you will be able to...
RT
I actually dealt with this problem until a few months ago. I just had my first orgasm (excluding wet dreams) this past February, at the age of 19, and I've figured out that 90% of the problem was my own psychological doubt and frustration. I've had two sexual partners two, and I only ended up embarrassing myself because I was unable to perform.
I've tried to re-put together the night I had my first orgasm in my head, but it's difficult.
When I finally had my first orgasm, it was at 4:00 in the morning, and I had tried to go to sleep but couldn't fall asleep, so I turned on my computer and began to look at porn (I have been looking at porn since I was 15 and had never successfully gotten off to it).
I was really exhausted and I began masturbating without even really realizing it, I was really on auto-pilot. I was vaguely aware of what I was doing, and somewhere in the back of my brain I knew that my masturbating wasn't going to work, but (this is really hard to explain) I guess I was tired enough it was easy to ignore. It was a really instinctive moment, and all of a sudden, I knew that I was about to have an orgasm. Even seconds before I came though, I was laughing at myself for thinking "I'm getting close!" because I knew it wouldn't happen.
But it did. I ejaculated into my hand. I was, well, obviously ecstatic. I was certain that I was either going to be single all my life, or have to burden someone with mediocre, orgasm-less sex for all my life.
I sent myself a text message that said "It happened. It really happened." just because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to reach orgasm the next day, and I would start doubting whether or not it really happened.
I really think what did it for me was masturbating at a time when my conscious brain was weak, and allowing my subconscience to take over. My next orgasm happened soon after, and it came easily just knowing that I had already had one.
My orgasms haven't always come easily since then though. I have many failed attempts, and sometimes it can take almost twenty minutes to reach orgasm. I've also found that if I'm not actively fantasizing (or viewing the porn I'm watching) I won't ejaculate. It's really a lot more of a mental response than a physical response.
I guess my first piece of advice would be to experiment physically, try different grips, use erotica, but I don't think that's the cause... or you probably would have tried it before posting here. Ultimately, I think you guys' problem is probably psychological like mine. I know that's frustrating to hear. The only places I found any information about anorgasmic anejaculation on the Internet said that it was rooted in psychological problems. And it frustrated me, because I had a normal childhood, my parents never beat me or anything. But that's what it was in the end. I wish I could say I was gripping wrong or something easy to fix, but unfortunately I can't.
I wish I could offer you guys more help. If either of you want to contact me, feel free. The most helpful thing (and about the only helpful thing) the internet told me was that I wasn't the only one who had gone through this.
Good luck, and just keep trying!
I've tried to re-put together the night I had my first orgasm in my head, but it's difficult.
When I finally had my first orgasm, it was at 4:00 in the morning, and I had tried to go to sleep but couldn't fall asleep, so I turned on my computer and began to look at porn (I have been looking at porn since I was 15 and had never successfully gotten off to it).
I was really exhausted and I began masturbating without even really realizing it, I was really on auto-pilot. I was vaguely aware of what I was doing, and somewhere in the back of my brain I knew that my masturbating wasn't going to work, but (this is really hard to explain) I guess I was tired enough it was easy to ignore. It was a really instinctive moment, and all of a sudden, I knew that I was about to have an orgasm. Even seconds before I came though, I was laughing at myself for thinking "I'm getting close!" because I knew it wouldn't happen.
But it did. I ejaculated into my hand. I was, well, obviously ecstatic. I was certain that I was either going to be single all my life, or have to burden someone with mediocre, orgasm-less sex for all my life.
I sent myself a text message that said "It happened. It really happened." just because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to reach orgasm the next day, and I would start doubting whether or not it really happened.
I really think what did it for me was masturbating at a time when my conscious brain was weak, and allowing my subconscience to take over. My next orgasm happened soon after, and it came easily just knowing that I had already had one.
My orgasms haven't always come easily since then though. I have many failed attempts, and sometimes it can take almost twenty minutes to reach orgasm. I've also found that if I'm not actively fantasizing (or viewing the porn I'm watching) I won't ejaculate. It's really a lot more of a mental response than a physical response.
I guess my first piece of advice would be to experiment physically, try different grips, use erotica, but I don't think that's the cause... or you probably would have tried it before posting here. Ultimately, I think you guys' problem is probably psychological like mine. I know that's frustrating to hear. The only places I found any information about anorgasmic anejaculation on the Internet said that it was rooted in psychological problems. And it frustrated me, because I had a normal childhood, my parents never beat me or anything. But that's what it was in the end. I wish I could say I was gripping wrong or something easy to fix, but unfortunately I can't.
I wish I could offer you guys more help. If either of you want to contact me, feel free. The most helpful thing (and about the only helpful thing) the internet told me was that I wasn't the only one who had gone through this.
Good luck, and just keep trying!
When i masturbate i don't ejeculate but i feel burning in my penis what does this mean?
Hi im 13 and i need someone to please answer some of my question cuz i really wanna know!
OK so i use this one technique called "the rosy palm" where you use you hand in a circular motion on the head of u penis, and i can feel something coming and it almost an orgasm but it just feels good for like 1 second and no sperm comes out!
I tried just jacking off and nothing happened i didnt feel and pleasure at all, i use saliva because i cant get a hold of lube and when i used some of my sisters hand lotion, nothing happend. It kinda felt good but nothing happened after like 10 mintues of nothing i just gave up. I was very turned on, and i was watching porn. PLEASE HELP ME! i really want to and all my friends keep talking about how much fun they have and some are even in the 6th grade! i just wanna know how! thanks
OK so i use this one technique called "the rosy palm" where you use you hand in a circular motion on the head of u penis, and i can feel something coming and it almost an orgasm but it just feels good for like 1 second and no sperm comes out!
I tried just jacking off and nothing happened i didnt feel and pleasure at all, i use saliva because i cant get a hold of lube and when i used some of my sisters hand lotion, nothing happend. It kinda felt good but nothing happened after like 10 mintues of nothing i just gave up. I was very turned on, and i was watching porn. PLEASE HELP ME! i really want to and all my friends keep talking about how much fun they have and some are even in the 6th grade! i just wanna know how! thanks
Well boyo...
To tell you...I jack off with no lube/saliva/anything i just bare hands...I tried lube once...Couldn't do it!
Tried saliva...Nope
Water..Nope..
Lotion...NOPE!
Bare hands...YUP!
To tell you...I jack off with no lube/saliva/anything i just bare hands...I tried lube once...Couldn't do it!
Tried saliva...Nope
Water..Nope..
Lotion...NOPE!
Bare hands...YUP!
..different strokes..Ive used lube since 17...always better, at least for me
Hi guys
I have had a orgasm before but it was kind of a weird way of doing it. The first time i ever properly tried jacking of was about 12. yes i know 12 a bit early but i dont know i think i just matured early or something anyway i could not do it with my hands and at 16 i still cant i even tried about 10 mins ago. anyway my point is that i jacked off by rubbing my self against my bed as in back and forward. not exactly sure why and how this happened the first time but it worked i came. i have been doing this till just now but i really want to use my hands when i masturbate, i mean dont you think its a bit wierd having to rub your penis up and down against you bed covers. yep i think so to. any advice would be brilliant thanks.
I have had a orgasm before but it was kind of a weird way of doing it. The first time i ever properly tried jacking of was about 12. yes i know 12 a bit early but i dont know i think i just matured early or something anyway i could not do it with my hands and at 16 i still cant i even tried about 10 mins ago. anyway my point is that i jacked off by rubbing my self against my bed as in back and forward. not exactly sure why and how this happened the first time but it worked i came. i have been doing this till just now but i really want to use my hands when i masturbate, i mean dont you think its a bit wierd having to rub your penis up and down against you bed covers. yep i think so to. any advice would be brilliant thanks.
I watch porn regularly. I try to mastrubate once or twice a week. BTw, i m an indian....n we hv sex like after 20 I guess (or mayb ony after marriage which is 25). I try all d things. In front of d laptop, wid water/shampoo.....but very rarely I can see the whte juice :( . When I can it takes over 15 mins and my hands pain more than when I go to the gym. N the sperms always trickle down rather than shoot upwards.........but is that normal?
well i dunno how old is this thread. but im gonna ask anyway. i couldnt masturbate normally (by just stroking my penis). what i do is i find a hard surface, lie down on it and start thinking about f*****g a beautiful woman while trying to rub my penis on the hard surface, crushing it really hard. that is the only way i can cum. the best fantasy for me is non-consensual sex, i would never rape a girl irl, but the fantasy is turning me on. i really hate myself for that. not just because im thinking about rape, also because i cannot cum if i masturbate like a normal person. its really frustrating. it is really hard for me to masturbate too since i have to find a floor to lie down on just to masturbate. i cannot even masturbate on the bed because it's not hard enough. i had so many sexual partners since i was 15, now i'm 24. but i could never achieve orgasm with them. it really sucks because while other boys were trying to find "a" sexual partner, i had many but i could not cum. and i could not masturbate like a normal person. the upside is that i could go for hours (yes hours) without losing my erection. sometimes i would stay hard for like 5 hrs straight my penis hurts. i couldnt cum so i have to masturbate (as stated above), to get myself off when im alone. it ruined my relationship so many times before. some girls i've been with think that i dont love them (since i cannot cum). i explained to them so many times and they cool down for a bit, but sooner or later it ruins our relationship. i'm ashamed to talk to my mom about it (she's a doctor). also, i dont know any gynecologists who arent affiliated with my social circle, so im worried people would know about my problem. i tried to talk to my dad about it once, but he doesnt really pay much attention to it so i never mention it again, because it was so hard for me to talk him about it in the first place. my mom still thinks im a virgin although im pretty sure my dad knows that im far from it. i even tried it with a prostitute once. i told her i'll give her twice if she could make me cum. but it didnt work. she told me that i have a gift and women love a guy who can stay hard for hours (since not many guys can do that), and that i should be glad. im pretty sure she was just making me feel good about myself, and i really thank her for that, but this not being able to cum like a normal person (both sex and masturbation) is taking a toll on me. i'm starting to get depressed and i dont even try to get laid anymore. i've become dull and boring. work>home> video game> sleep has become a pattern in my life. the only time i can push away my depression is when im in the gym (oh yes im a workout fanatic), i hit the gym almost everyday. but once i come home im depress again. if you guys can help me in any way please do. because my life is going downhill at work and my social life.
Well this happens to me all the time dude what u need to do is just close your eyes imagine that one girl who gives you pleasure just by looking at her an remember you always need to clear your mind of everything and get in your most comfortable position I tried this a few minutes ago but couldn't clear my mind or get comfortable but it'll hopefully work for you!!!!
hey i am a boy 23 yrs of age, me too just cannot masturbate to orgasm, i have tried many times n get weary at times. but i am having those wet dreams. i am so desperate n i need some help. PLEASE HEP ME ANYONE
wha is masrurbate????
and what is a orgasm