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Can't cum during sex (female)

By Lady_tigress | 2 posts, last post
Sasa Milosevic, MD answered this Female Orgasm And Orgasmic Disorders
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Lady_tigress

So my boyfriend an I have been sleeping together for a little under 2 months now and I can't seem to finish with him. I have been with 5 guys total and have never had this problem in the 7 years I've been sexually active. I'm able to be extremely turned on by him and get to the very edge but then I just lose it. He also is sorta a minute man but we try to work around it, stopping when he gets close. The only time I've been able to cum with him is after about 6 blowjobs and then we have sex (he was incapable of cumming at that point lol). Now I've read a few other forums about trust issues and being open with my partner and things like that. The very first time he and I fooled around I physically showed him what to do, I took his hand with mine. And I have no trust issues with him, no bad sexual history. My question is can anyone think of a way to help him improve, or help me relax? he's only been with 2 others prior to me. I'm 21 with a 1 yr old son (dunno if that would make a difference) and he's 23... I'm not loose at all, when I masterbate I'm still tight enough that he sometimes complains about it. :p difficulty getting in.

tinkerbelle2305897

Hey lady_tigress,

 

I'm not really an expert but do you feel relaxed? You mentioned that you have a little boy, could that be causing stress?

 

Is there anything else different about sex now?

You could try getting him to touch you or touch yourself while you are having sex and see if that helps!

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The female orgasm is in the mind to a very large extent. Many women have to be completely relaxed and feel safe and turned on in order to get there. Anything can interfere with your ability to reach climax, from worries about your partner ejaculating prematurely and wanting to help him last longer, to financial stress you might be thinking about during sex, to time pressures if you're busy, etc. 

I'd start by seeing if you are able to climax during masturbation and if you are, then maybe move onto mutual masturbation to see if you can climax while he is watching. Then if that works, try what he can do for you again. :)

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