CAN'T GET AN ERECTION WHEN IM WITH MY GIRLFRIEND

Hi everyone im 17 and i believe i have the same problem? maybe? ive been with many girls before and have had throbbing erections during foreplay, but with my latest girlfriend whom ive been dating 8 months when she rubs it through my pants its fine it goes semi hard straight away but when i take my pants off and she starts too.. give me a ha****b then it does not get to full potential, ive never done oral and the only times ive had other handjobs was at partys while being drunk, the way she is doing it feels kind of funny/different? shes younger than me and im the first guy shes ever done anything with. and recently we had just had sex, (lost our virginity) and after about 40 minutes of sex my penis fell asleep, i will admit i wasn't fully hard before i put it in, and i was wearing a condom, but i may have put it on whilst my penis was wet?.. also i had masturbated the night before she came over. is this all a factor? im getting pretty worried reading all these comments and i don't want to have problems with getting it up?.. i also can get it up myself whilst watching porn or masturbating very easily, is it her? or me? or both? Can someone help??? :/ and also would it help not wearing a condom?? if she were on the pill etc. my penis size is about 16cm or 6 and a bit inches.. if that helps

hey guys a bit late here im 19 and it was heppening to me as well, it could be stress or you could be nervious that you are "small" and wont please her so you get scared and it just wont happen, you just need to relax and not think about a thing and it will come ! 

Hi I'm 17 and I'm the girlfriend in this situation. My boyfriend and I get really heated and want to do it even when I don't on my period so when it's over we finally think its been one week too long we start to get intimate and as soon as its time he goes soft. I've had plenty of other boyfriends and plenty of sex and never had this issue with guys. Infact not to be cocky but I think I'm pretty hot. I didn't think it could be me but he was a virgin and we had some issues with that too we've only been dating three months but we dated before and have a connection so I finally got him to give me his virginity. I didn't think I could be the problem and I thought we were comfortable with our bodies but how do I fix his anxiety I compliment him all the time and he pleasure me quite easily.

It most likely is his inexperience, and that he's watching himself and his reaction so closely that he's distracting himself. Plus, if he's already masturbated immediately before being with you, he's kind of already "drained the pond" so to speak...and his body isn't as ready to come to a full excited condition. DON'T ABANDON THE CONDOMS, as they are absolutely necessary for birth control. That's not the solution. Having sex less often and when he's relaxed and interested will help resolve the problem more.

I know that when receiving a HJ or BJ I will often not come...it takes more vigorous action to trigger me, and so I use a BJ only for initial arousal, not for satisfaction. Depending on what the two of you have worked out, you may find that sometimes just stimulation by hand is enough and satisfying enough for you both.... and other times, you may want to go for full intercourse (with protection, of course).

Remember, just cause you've been with other guys who have a hair trigger, doesn't mean all guys have to respond that way. If you care for him, relax and don't put pressure on him. Show him you care, and rejoice in that.

hi there,

 

i had (sometimes still have) more or less the same problems. im 21 years old, and i had my first sex with my past girlfriend. 

i think cutting down the amount of porn really helped me a bit, because all the emotionless and played act often gets unrealistically dirty, i mean really dirty, and maybe we watch some of those because of that, but the thing is : we get used to sh*t like that. and sex is really more emotional and kinda more natural, so maybe we get confused or disappointed of the real thing. 

but i mostly agree with a lot ppl here who say that anxiety is the main problem. just relax, let things flow, and most importantly - you have nothing to prove! if your partner knows you're a beginner, she'll also know your not gonna be bomb in the sack, and it doesn't have to be like that, cuddle sex is most times even better, and you can both have your pleasure. and this is your base of experience. this is the most important time to get to know your partner. what she does, and doesn't prefer. From that point on, you can further explore. and if you have that picture in mind, your anxiety problems will be forgotten. 

 

i hope my experience helps you guys, i know this helped me ;)

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have her give you a blowjob first that helps me when im not at full attention

have more sex with him till he's comfortable. tell him to thank me later lol

one suggestion.. dont remove ur clothes early.. rubbing penice at vagina doesnt make it harder that early rather than keeping it inside.... and take it out after atleast 10 mins forplay.. it has happend with me many times.. i did exactly the same many times.. it really works..

I have a similar problem i'm 18 me and my gf have been going out for 2 months she is my dream girl , like if I had to pick anyone in the world to do it with i'd pick her,I get hard when we're kissing and grinding but the second she goes to touch my penis it just drops.I didn't tell her about it and everytime she goes for it I move her hand away and make her cum but I cant keep dodging if.I can get hard as a rock when i'm at home thinking of our time together.How am I supposed to fix this I feel so relaxed around her and I love her its just I really need help guys this is killing me I have the girl of my dreams and I cant leave her please me.Help.

Dude have you ever tried men. I had the same problem until my bestfriend and I started to experiment. It was a little tough adjusting at first. I mean who's ever ready to take it in the ass. Now Kevin and I are happily dating and we do it every chance we get! Hope this helps!

YALL ARE WEIRD MY FIRST TIME I screwed THAT HOE FOR 4 HRS STRAIGHT DOG..SHE HAD TO GO TO A BIRTHDAY PARTY SOO WE HAD TO STOP BUT FUK DOG..U PROOLY LIKE BOYS WEY..ME I LUV BCHS ILL FUK A HOE ANYWHERE MAYNE...IF U CANT GET IT UP AND ITS URE IRST TIME AND URE ONLY 16??? DOG I HATE TO SAY IT BUT U MIGHT BE ON THE WRONG TEAM FOOL..

Honestly it is the girl. You are not really into her but you want to please her so this is what happens. Does she disrespect you mentally abuse you in some way? Is she emotionally distant? You may be worked up over her now but deep down you know this isn't the best relationship for you.

Hey you guys. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. I'm 18 and I am honestly glad to have read all of your posts. Bc the last time my girlfriend and I had sex I went soft. But the time before that; I just wanted to have fun and we had not had it in a while so I was just completely relaxed and just payed attention to how good it felt. Stayed hard the entire time and it was awesome. It was a long time and I was still pretty hard even after I came. And I think I found my issue and some of your guys issue as well. STOP focusing on pleasing her so much. Make it fun for you too, alot of fun. Because if you can relax and just enjoy her company, she will definitely to the same. If you stop trying so hard you'll be surprised how much more you will please your girl. Not to mention you will stay hard the whole time.

Same problem here, identically actually and I cant get a hard on at all with the girl i've none for ever.