Do you ever get over sexual abuse?

I am so sorry to hear of this. I am now a grown woman and have confronted my person that abused me and they called me a liar due to the fact that they blocked it out. You know what God knows he is the ultimate judge. I hope that you find healing in that. I am still struggling in finding healing. I have to believe though that God will heal our lives and our hearts

I can not imagine your pain. I just know from my experience I have confronted the perpetrators in my situations and when a person is in denial you just have to know the fact that you did not lie and that one day when God comes they will have to answer to him. They may not have to on this earth but there will be a day that they will.

No not really you just learn to live with everything and in my case it came back with avengence in my 40's

I would really like to hear about your experience. My wife was that age when she remembered what happened to her. Her recollection drove many of her closest relatives away and they no longer write to her. We believe it is the reason for her problems with touching me during our sexual encounters. To somewhat validate her rcollections her younger sister (14 years younger) has recalled similar experiences also. Her life has been terribly screwed up in ways that would indicate she was abused too.

i'm a 25 year old male who was sexual assulted as a child it happen so many times as i got older when i was about 10 i told my mom that my cousin did things to me and i feel it was wrong which i knew was wrong i seen  professionals one after another and they say its boys being boys well after it effected me for almost 15 years oviously not this makes me sick to my Stomach i still have Nightmares and sometimes have the old back flashs come back when i'm doing Daily Activites back in 2010 I Locked myself to my house where i didnt wanna go near anyone for almost 6 months until it came down to it my mom said we were going to go Shopping at our Local Grocery Store and she tricked me going to the places i feared something or bad memories would come back to Haunt me and after  she did that pretty much i was no longer scared of them places and still from this day i have memories and they still effect me but only durning winter months october-March i told i had SAD Seasonal effective disorder also PTSD Anxiety Depression so this was my sorry of Sexual abuse People don't blame yourself its not your fault God bless ya all :)-

I had three male members of my family have their turns from the time of 2 years to 12 years i'm messed up big time...the one's who should have looked out for me used me as their own play time play park. I hate them all. I'm 42 now and I have someone interested. I don't if I can do it he's in love but i feel numb.

I was sexually abuse all the way up until the age of 12 by various family members, not only this I was physically, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused by my mom. I was also grossly neglected. I am not 40 years old now and have suffer secretly and silently with a lot of mental anguish and depression. Last year my mom , wanted to cause me more pain so told me that I was raped at two.. Not wanting to believe It I dismissed but continued to ask other family members if this was true. about five days ago it was confirmed that this was true. I can not tell you of the pain I have felt the last few days. Now I realized why she abused me this way as a child. She felt disgusted and so much guilt that she felt she had no other way to show this but torment me. I have made the first steps of healing by talking to a therapist. I know that I have a long road to recover because I had adapted ineffectively for years. You see I had suppressed so much of the things that happen to me as a child all the way up to this day. I'm here to tell you that I'm a survivor and I know that I can get through this with the help of my husband and children. you can also I have taken all of those people in my family out of my life since they had and have been a part of my pain. Surround yourself with friends and family who loves you and are willing to be your support. I pray for you and hope that you get the help you need. Please do not blame yourself. That's the one thing we seem to do. Talk to a therapist so that she can help you work out those feelings you are experiencing. Good Luck

I agree with u,
when i was six years old i was abandones by my mother and father
my father was too busy working and my mom went abroad along with sister, my step father were taking care of my stepsiblings.
Everything seems to be fine but I felt nothing but hatred and sadness. My mom left me at my aunt house and i lived there in hell for 4 years. Her father in law raped me everynight telling me he would kill me if i told anyone. His wife beat me up she ven drag me up to the toilet and put my head on it. After 4 years in hell my mom took me abroad too i always hated her for abandoning me. How could I ever loved them again. I kept my mouth silence in 10 years it destroyed me inside and the pain was so unbearable. I found out he raped my cousin who was 17 and got her pregnant.She went abortion and killed herself. Sometimes suicide seems to be the only answer. I told my mother after 10 years and my grandma. Because i though they would help me. They told me that I should never ever mention it again. I felt hurt that even though i told them i feel like after i told them they never were the same to me . I can see in their eyes that they are embarassed of what happen to me. That bastard was 67 years old i will never forget about it. Today i seems to have baceriophobie because of the woman always beating me up she even forced me to lick the floor. I hate my mother and grandma they should burn in hell along this man . How could they told me to never mention. Today I am asuccesful doctor and I haven't spoken to my mom or grandma and ive decide that as long as i live that i willl never ever talked to them they abandoned me and left me hurt. I will never be able to get over it because I dun have nobody to talk to. My mother banned me to talk about it. I got a Dog and hes my bestfriend he seems to be the only one that always listen

I was six when he first took my virginity and now i am 16 years he just got arrest 1 week ago ten years of that non stop i will never get over that i will always remember what happened to me but i need to get over it and start strong for my 2 little ones i had twin when i was 14 they are now 2 and almost 3 months their dad is my dad its sad but i do not love them any less so take my word we don't get over those things 

It breaks my heart to read how rampant sexual abuse is and the confusing complex scars it leaves behind. 

I was a very shy, introverted and insecure teenager and I never even kissed a guy until I was 19. But I was sexually assaulted by strangers starting when i was 16. 

From what I've read, it seems like the majority of sexual abuse happens by someone that the victim is related to or knows. I'm very lucky that that never happened to me, but I don't understand why so many strangers went after me. It happened in a football stadium at the University of Tennessee, in a subway station in NYC, on a street in Italy, in a club in Spain, at a festival in Morocco, in a bathroom in New York, in a coffee shop in California, on a beach in California. 

One incident was a group of men attempting to kidnap and rape me, I only escaped because someone called 911. Another incident was a stranger ramming his hand up my vagina while I was walking with my sister on a sidewalk. Most incidents were groping. Another incident was a man following me into a bathroom and taking secret photos of me. 

Now I'm 28 years old and I'm still single. Four men have asked me to marry them, I've said no to all.  I love sex and flirting and men's attention. At the same time, I feel very very haunted by all the times I was sexually assaulted. The memories make me depressed. 

Every incident was random, unpredictable, and committed by a stranger. To this day, walking down a street, no matter where I am, freaks me out. I'm extremely uncomfortable going anywhere alone. I've never gone to therapy but I've been thinking about doing it more and more lately. 

I was sexual abused twice and I still have night mares about it and I have problems. Im very emotional and Stuff now since that happened and it causes problem in my relationship. Its been 2 years on one and about 1 on the other. I still havent recovered yet.

I was abused for several months age 10. I have struggled on and off with depression, self harming, anxiety, bulimia, relationship problems...the list goes on. The answer is no you never get over abuse, you can find a way to live with it, Im not there yet but I live in hope. Everytime I experience a stressful event in my life it triggers panic attacks and anxiety, which all leads back to the abuse. I am doing post cognative therepy for the symptoms of ptsd, and Im on medication for the symptoms of anxiety, and on the waiting list for abuse counselling. I am unable to work because of the anxiety, which is causing us financial problems, its a vicious circle. Even having him prosecuted didnt help me, even though he got and served 18 months in jail. I dont know if I will ever find a way to live with it, but I keep trying.

You are incredibly brave and I admire you. You are NOT committing a sin of any sort. I have a deep and faithful connection to my God, and he loves you and never blames you for your reactions to a terrible thing being done to you that you had no control over, didn't want, and survived through your strength, faith, love for your family and your courage. You are beloved and valued in His eyes, all the time. His love for you is so deep that his heart is bleeding for you. Mine is too. I know that someone as brave and hardworking as you must be to have the life you do, with a loving fiance, your Mum, all the people in your day to day life who love you, like you, respect you and wish the best for you, that you can and will make this a part of your life only, and it won't dominate your life. It's not an easy path, you have been changed against your will, and it takes dedication, willingness to feel pain now in order to feel so much less later, effort, time and commitment. You are so worth it, the people around you want it for you and are willing to do their part, and you will absolutely succeed in feeling better, surviving and thriving, living how you want to, and never feeling like you're sinning again, as you won't have to even waste a moment wishing he would die. You deserve prayer for yourself, perhaps you could ask for peace and comfort, then listen to His advice. He'll send you the perfect person to do it. Trust your heart anad take a leap of faith. Look for that person, try it, if it doesn't feel right, look for another and just keep going until you find the one He sent you. It's worth it in the long run, I know it from my own experience. I'm 43, Do it before you're 30 and don't lose any more of your life to a viscious criminal who took so much from you already. You are beautiful, beloved, worthwhile and precious. I undertand how you are protecting your Mum. You're great for it. She'd feel so loved if she knew what you are doing for her. I'm a Mum, I expect you will be one day, too. My own experience is that if my children were hurting, I'd prefer to know and to protect them rather than them protecting me. I don't know you or your family, so I can't speak for your Mum. I only tell you what I know from my life...your Mum knows, deep down, that something is hurting you. She may even know what it is. Your father may be hurting her and she needs to know what happened and is happening to you so that she can feel empowered, or escape or whatever she is missiing. Take care of yourself first, you were the attacked, abused, powerless and entrapped one, you were a child. You come first. Your Mum, even though she's obviously very important, to you and also in general, has to come second for a while, until you are healed. You've earned it, you deserve it and you have a right to it. Good luck, and my prayers are for you tonight. I know He's listening because he listens to my sexually assaulted heart too.

As a woman who has been abused twice by two different male family members that I trusted,its hard to say that I have gotten over it.I have gone through the therapy,I know that it wasn't my fault,I understand and comprehend all of the things I am supposed to,but I have been experiencing nightmares and signs of depression (thats what lead me to this site).I still can't trust anyone close to me regardless of their gender or age,but I especially can't trust males who are in my family.I know people who have gotten over it (or say and appear to have) but I haven't.Its like a stain on my soul.I can't see it..you can't see it..but its there..it will always be there.

No, you never get over it. Being 53 years old now, I know that the fact that my mother sent me into the situation that allowed this to occur is a huge part of my problems.  It's pretty hard to get over your own mother allowing this to happen. That said, society is changing thank goodness, and hopefully in the US anyway, child molestation will become more and more an abhorrent thing and they will actually do something about it when it is reported. Of course, in my case it was never reported. All that was said was "oh, he was drunk, it will never happen again" well, it did happen again.. and of course.. he was never charged or prosecuted.. and  he was my grandfather.