Do you ever get over sexual abuse?

having been through this, i still feel worthless, have incredibly low self esteem and put myself down a lot. when telling on the person that did this to me (which was a family member), i expected more out of the grown ups taking care of it. My mother yelled at my uncle and months later, everyone went back to their normal life while i was left feeling insignificant enough for them to call the cops on what he did. his wife didnt even believe me (she insisted that i let him touch me, and at the time my aunt and mother had gotten together to live in one house, and she believed my mom and i plotted it out so we would stay with the house).

I will be 55 years old soon and I am still dealing with this. It was my father and I had just turned 13 years old. I left when I was almost 15 so it went on for 2 years. At 20 years old, I knew I was tired carrying this daily weight. I knew it was the root to many of my bad decisions. I've often fought against IT and It's kicked my ass but  most times I gave a good battle. 

I am still fighting....

How do I let go...

I have worked so hard to be free and I am so close....

I am in therapy....

I have have high anxiety.

I have a wonderful partner who truly loves me and I love him. We are best friends.

I have sexual disfunction

I have a good relationship with my children.

Have they forgiven me?   ( I think they truly want to.)    Have I forgiven myself? 

My job is decent and I am still growng and moving forward.

I am a fitful sleeper and sometimes I have racing thoughts rather than sleep.

There is something I don't see, I am so close to understanding what it is  I need to understand to be free....

It is time.

 

And you.....

 

DON'T GIVE UP! 

 

THE STRUGGLE IS WORTH IT.

 

My name is Randy Persaud. I am 13 years old and I am being sexually abused by my cousin. He threatens to kill me if I tell anyone so I turned to you guys. Please help me!!! Please, the pain is too much. I fell like committing suicide. Please help me out of this please!!!!!

You dont ever get over it. The people that hurt me are now dead. So I can't do anythign abotuit. Can you charge someone for sexual abuse if they are dead? Im not saying go and kill them. But when it happens to you, youre already dead. You can live your normal life but I think about it every week. I was such a depressed little girl. I wanted to kill myself every day. I am an overprotective mother. I wish my parents were over protective. The worst part is, the f**ks were in my family.  Im sure they are burning in hell. 

The struggle is worth it? Nothing is worth it. Yes dont give up and fight for your life. But nothing is ever worth it- no one deserves a second chance after they have done something to a child.

Recovery is hard like anything. If you want it you will seek it, there are no garauntees that it will work.

I see myself as a survivor. There have been many stories here that are very much simular to my own.

Find what works for you.

Forgiveness, May be the hardest but it's working for me. I forgve myself for having this happen to me as many times as it has, I was helpless. If you've been helpless understand it happened so you could be brave.

Find the positives for every negative.

Find your own happiness and enjoy it fully.

when I was around 5 years old (I'm now 14) I was molested from a neighbor who was also a family friend and I still haven't told anyone. I know I should tell my parents but since this person is still our neighbor and a family friend I don't know what to do. Almost every day the memories of it come flooding back into my mind. I've tried to get over it myself but that's clearly not happening, and I seriously need help on what to do so please comment and tell me what to do.On some days I'm fine but on others I dont feel like I should be allowed to live. I don't know what to do or how to handle this so someone please help!!!!

That really made me feel a little better thankyou

I was abused when I was 12 and I'm 24 now most days I can forget about but sometimes I will haunt me because of how sick ppl can be . It was two of my cousins at two different times. Sometimes it makes me wonder if they planned it. I get scared to tell people because I feel like somehow they will blame it on me . ESP because after it happened I didn't tell anyone and I continued being nice to them. I look back at it and I realize it's cause I didn't wanna get them in trouble; I didn't want my mom and aunt to fight . I didn't want my family looking at me different. And now I have twin daughters and I feel so over protective of them. I would never want them to hurt the way I do. But I also don't want to shelter to and make them nervous around people . I just want to be free of those memories... So sickening ...

i was sexually assualted two years ago from my best friend and i have nightmares and im afriad and self concious i never got over it at all i wish i could it feels like i always see his face i feel he is always beside me ready to do it again just he will kill me this time so i wouldnt be able to tell anyone

This is the first time Ive ever let this out but ive been holing it in for over 20 years.  When I was about 8 or 9 i was molested by my uncle.  I remember I was upstairs in my grandparents house playing with LEGOS.  He came up sat next to me then leaned over on top of me and took my pants down.  I only remember this one time but i dont know if there were any others.  It has controlled my life and stunted my growth as a person.  Ive always been so afraid of rejection from girls i cant even bring my self to try and when I do and get rejected its devastating...far more than it should be.  I also fall in love really fast I feel like im so desperate for love.. i know it im aware of it but i feel helpless to control it.  Its ruining my life..im very depressed and women can see right through me they can tell im not a happy person.  It KILLS me! I know im smart, funny, handsome,  but my confidence is sh*t...i dont get it.  Someone HELP...words of wisdom please...

I think it is possible to get over sexual abuse, its probably one of the most traumatizing things to ever go through to say the least.

I dont exactly recall what age I was, I was a young child most likely between the ages of 5-6 I remember running around playing barbies with my little sister, My parents worked alot so they needed someone to watch us, my sister holly was still in diapers I believe age 3 running around and playing, and so they got my cousin to baby sit me and he was no older than 15 and I remember on multiple occasions what had happened to every detail its quite sickening. It was about 4 times it had happened and He would do things to me in the bath tub, In my own bed, in my grandparents house on the couch with a blanket over us and they had no clue just completely oblivious sorry still angers me. My point is, I feel like Im still living with it, I grew up and it didnt bug me as much I am now 18 years old and have gotten into my first relationship well my first real one, and I have had plenty of ups and downs too, I have suffered physical abuse from age 17 till now being in a relationship, I drink alot, I smoke Im a little too rebellious and I engage in risky behaviour. I Just feel like im in a hole and i cant get out and its driving me insane I think im going to consider going to see a therapist, I believe its never too late to get the help you need, I did however tell both my parents and now we dont associate with that side of the family, and My aunt who is my cousins mom doesnt believe me, my grandparents dont, just my immediate family, which you know what? is good enough for me they did stick beside me but my point is im still living with it just wondering if anyone else has any ideas on what might be helpful in my situation? I mean alot of the things are pretty obvious on what I can do, but i think i really need to learn some coping mechanisms. 

I don't know if you ever do get over it. It happened to me and now I can't have a proper sex life or trust anyone I get with. The only thing I try to do is not to let it get to me, but I still have problems trusting people when it gets to things like this. No body I get with really understands. I can't talk to my family about it because it will upset them. I felt ashamed. You always fear that no one will believe you. Its difficult to talk to a counsellor about it because its such a sensitive issue. Its shocking to hear but nearly every woman I have spoken to has been through the same thing at some point in their lives, I just never thought it would happen to me. You never do. It hasn't given me depression I don't think. It hasn't started me on drugs or alcohol and I don't self harm. Neither do I want to kill myself. I just block it out most of the time and try not to think about it. It upsets me when I do. They say it happens to around 1 in 5 people but thats all they know about. From what I've seen and experienced its happened to most people.

I'm not sure you ever really get over it. I am a very happily married woman to a man who treats me like a queen yet when Janis brother starts touching and kissing me I feel small and like I shouldn't stop him. I feel it would be rude to stop him. I've even sent him pics on his phone because when he'd ask I would think I don't want him to think I don't like him or that he's not attractive. I constantly w worry about his feeling but don't know why. I don't like him that way. I even avoid him when I can. My husband is amazing and supportive. I truly don't deserve him.  I think I need help. 

I was abused at age 4 to 10 from my dad he used to tell me if I told mummy would suffer cause we were poor . I went to school and broke down my teacher was worried . she called mom to ,mummy pretended to care ,when we reached home she told me to bathe daddy came in the bathroom and beat me badly with the broom .mummy didn't care. they decided to put me in a home since I knew I had a court case I ran away into the city
where I was raped by 15 men grown i.i was only 10 . i am only 17 and it still hurts mummy made my entire family neglect ,i was forced to move out with a grown man , everyone things im a hoe ,im not im just {a sad little girl }still
i often cry when i don't have food or money because i knew i could've had a great education ,im almost always hungry , i smile so no one knows , i lost trust ,i lost innocence , i losed love for myself {why i was so sweet and honest most important {i only kept it a secret to protect my family ,my brother and mummi and the newborn babygirl }yet mummy doesn't love me she passes me straight and pretends not to know me .it hurts what do i do