Do you ever get over sexual abuse?

i am only 15 and have been sexually abused for the past ten years..only this year when he did it again i gave up i just wanted to die ,i slept around and did stupid things because i felt and still feel worthless i have no respect for myself and just generally dont want to be here, the only way i could find peace would be in killing my abuser and then myself i dont want to live in this world watching him walk around with his head held high,i would rather die

i can totally relate to your experience. i was around 9 or 10 when it happened to me. please tell someone you trust. i never had anyone to trust so i have grown up and suffered for 48 years with telling noone, not even my husband of 28 years. i can remember being a child and a grown man rubbing himself on me and touching me and then giving me cigarettes. when i would get up in the morning i would notice that there was something on the back of my underware and being only 9 or 10 didnt know what to do but leave them behind and walk home after spending the night with a friend.

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I'm afraid I am a victim of this. I was sexually abused since the age of 6, I am now 13. For me I'll never get over it completly, I am a little better but I am very messed up in my mind. There will always be reminders for me, I get nightmares a lot. I'm afraid of the dark, of cities, of too large or too small spaces, and of people around me. I kept my abuse a secret for 7 years it only just recently came out May 2011. It has been extremly hard and stressful for me but I am thankful to all my family and friends for supporting and helping me all the way. I hope this naswers your question. PM me if you want anything else. God Bless xx

I am 29 years old and I was rapped by my father from the ages of 5 to 11. I told my mother at the age of 24 and it was one of the HARDEST things I have ever had to do in my life. Finally she understood why I looked and talked to her with such hatred - How could my mother not know what was happening in her own house? 

hi my name is jo and i was sexually abused when i was 13 i am 23 now he was 16 at the time and my boyfriend i stayed with him for two months after that as i was too afraid to break it off he only managed it that once but attempts were made and he got cross if nothing was gonna happen. that is half the story it is too complicated too explain anyway my point is. i believe it possible to pretend like everything ok the only problem that makes me so angry is that i can't have a sexual relationship unless i make myself go numb it has affected all my relationships i wouldn't mind but i do feel those urges i can't help it but everytime i start to enjoy it if you get my meaning i switch and burst into tears or have a panic attack and the guy i am with freaks out and i feel guilty thats why i...sorry rambling i am just having realisations as i write this so basically i have been having help for about 8/9 years and it is still fresh as it happened not so much the memories but how i felt it attacks me Subconciously and conciously so no i do not believe you can be totally overany kind sexual abuse. it has messed me up so bad i have tried drink,drugs mainly just weed but still, self harm and suicide it never

but saying that everyone is different so you may find a way that works CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can help to change the way you think about things and help with your self esteem art therapy creative wirting and poetry to get your feelings out of your head and get them on paper sport therapy to thrash out those frustratrions i am on a waiting list for EMDR you will have to look it up not entirely sure about it but personally i have run out of options it supposed to be very affective if you have tried it let me know how it has helped you and if not y not as a am terrified of reliving everything i feel like it will make me break me so any thoughts please get in touch thank you

i was sexually abused by my babysitters husband when i was four years old, it went on for three years i never told my parents because i did'nt understand what he was doing to me i just knew that it hurt and that i did not like it. i was afraid to make friends because i thought that they would try to do things to me, i was afraid to leave the house, i would cry when my parents left me at any of their friends houses. i'm 19 now and i keep reminding myself that it happened a long time ago but i still have those memories and every time i get one of those sick flash backs i end up crying i cant go one god damn week without remembering what that bastard did to me i'v tried looking for ways to help me forget but i just keep finding c**p about forgiving myself and my abuser but i don't know how someone could just let it go because god knows i've tried to but i can't i try to make myself feel better by looking up  stories about really bad rapes and child sex slaves to tell myself well at least that did't happen to me but it doesn't help. from my experience you just have to put on a plastic smile and deal with it day by day pretending that life is good, trying to not let yourself feel like the bastard is still controlling you. if you are a really strong person and you can talk about it to someone and tell them what happened in every scary detail it would probably help but i haven't had the stomach to do that yet so i'm not so sure. 

Well let's see. I don't know if this is going to post or not. And the answer is that probably not. You won't get over it completely. But you've gotta deal with it. I was abused as a kid, by a lot of people and sexual abuse is one of those things that if it happens early and you don't get help or if its not known, it can stay with you. I think that the people that come here to post positive things like that you can have a normal good life etc have the right attitude in mind. That's one side. But you also have to deal with the reality of something like sex abuse. There's a chance that it'll probably change you. It can alter your life. I know that my life would be something else, had I been been left alone and never abused. And I suffer the consequences of sex abuse, every day. Not just sometimes. Its a day to day thing for me. Unless you try to just ignore it completely and burden yourself with other things. But its something that can really stick; at least that's been my experience. I think the more important thing is to educate people on what can go wrong in people when they're abused. Sexually abused especially. Its one of the worst things that can happen to someone, especially someone that's not an adult yet. So take that more if nothing from this; don't ever abuse a kid. No abuse but especially not sexual abuse

I am a 45 years old I was abused first by my cousin at the age of 4. I never told anyone about it. I was molested again at the age of 9 by my father and that continued until the age of 13. By this time I blamed myself because every time I tried to tell anyone about it I was just a liar. I slept around alot ,infact I had my first child at 15. I finally put my life together and put everything on the back burner. Then My father tried to molest my daughter and all hell broke loose!! At this point I told my mother she never believed me now was she going to believe her granddaughter? Of course she said no and told me I had put it in her head. After all that I cut my parents from my children's life and mine,
I did get my daughter counseling and always let her know she did nothing wrong. And again put everything on the back burner and moved on.
Now here I am 18years later and it has come back to haunt me. My daughter, in fact all my kids are adults. My daughter now wants to get to know her grandparents. We have talked about what happened and what can happen.
The real problem now is nightmares for me have started again. the thought of sex is a complete turn off, my marriage is falling apart. So again the monster is winning

when i was 16 i was raped by my friends brother and im not going to go into the details but ever since then i havent been the same when i was 18 i was raped by my boyfriend i was in a abrusive relationship and i didnt know how to get out of it i was being raped 3 times a day for 5 months and he would hit me and say he was going to kill me he once burned me so i had a mark he also once pulled a knief on me once and since i knew he could b

ya well i was abrused to alot but u cant just say its ok its not i lost my job my friends my boyfriend my schooling i lost everything because of the stuff that happened because i was already suffering from depression then i was raped and his hands were around my neck so ya its good to be positive but my life is gone i lost everything and it doesnt matter i look at my abrused he didnt lose anything i was a virgin before i was raped

I hate to tell I dont know everyones story but I know mine and I know the ones around me who have been affected by sexual abuse you will never over come the damage that is done Nomatter how much happened how it happend who did it. I was six when it started and 11 when it stopped I did not speak to anyone about it Nobody had a clue not my mother who allowed this man in my house nor my father who was suppose to be my superman Nobody One night I layed in bed at the age of 15 and just felt that death would be thee most peacful thing I could give myself and I broke down and spoke to my family about it My father reacted like it was nothing and my step mother just held me and that was the end of it till I was 16 and my abuser came after me At that time I had been in a downward spiral and ended up in foster care well At this point I didnt expect to have anyone give a damn so After he was done I ran home and stayed hiding in my room and it was my foster mom who knew deep inside she isnt just being a brat something is not okay so I wrote her a letter within mins she was ready to put this man where he belonged in jail without questioning my words after all the lies I had made and the problems I have caused in everyones life she believed me and was reading and willing to defend me to the end so she did we went to court and mind you this is five yrs after he had actually touched me in that way and as I was about to walk in the room he looked me in the eye and not only did I feel useless but I felt controlled everything in me crumbled the deepest of darkest holes I fell in at that very moment and I shut down and wished the building would just crumble on top of me It wasnt till I was 18 and found out I had my own little girl on her way that I took control of my life and what my daughter would need from me and the protection she would need and still I lived for her not me I have not lived for me since I was five Not many understand How I have made it this far well I couldnt tell you My children are the only reason I live each day I love them with all of my heart and thier father who after ten yrs still has yet to see the real person I am I hide my breakdowns and I cover the damage that has been done After ten yrs he has yet to see me naked I try to laugh it off but its not fare to me nor him or my children I have moments like today where everythin in my life now are beautiful and breathtaking but one dream one thought one object that has anything to do with my abuser puts me in a dark spot I wake up and feel an overwhelming pain in my chest and my mind shows all the pain in my eyes my heart is smashed my kids smiles become distant and my kids fathers kiss becomes a thing I have to do cooking dinner and playing with the kids has become zombi like and I daze into the pain that hurts I fight with it thou I smile at my children and the sad part about it is they know most days everything is mommy mommy and today they have seemed to find things they can do by themselves so the answer to your question NO We will never be us again we will always carry the pain with us nomatter what you do I have tried it all I have tried suicide I have drank done drugs filled my life with men and friends the best relife I have got from my own mind and the pain of my past is my children and how I need to protect them and get my story out for others to know yes we have to deal with it but The moments that the past is gone is worth it just get a nice warm blanket and a hot cup of coco and just cry it out and be honest to yourself and move on when your okay again thats all I got

He only gets control if you allow him Honey You have lived with your pain long enough Nomatter what you will continue but you do not need to allow him to control your life I understand where you come from with your children I wouldnt know what to do just sit down with your daughter and bare your soul to her about the pain and fears you have about her meeting them and as for your marriage honey I know that too but know this Your husband loves you and You choose him thats how I make it there are days where the thought of sex makes me ill but Then I sit back and look at him and say I choose him he is mine he loves me for me he is gental loving and he is mine dnt think of it as sex think of it as the peaceful relief of life and feel the meaning behind the kiss and not what hes actually doing think of it as beauty of love not the dirty factor of what is actually going on betweent he body parts I know it sounds kind of corny but that is what I do

I have a complicated story, I had a huge crush on my brother's friend Kyle, he had a girlfriend so I stayed quiet, my huge adoration for him being shoved into the back of my mind. About the same time, an old friend, Travis showed interest in me so I decided to flirt back, this was over the winter after my turning 14. I asked him out and he said yes, and being young and naive allowed this older guy to stake his claim as my 'boyfriend'. Kyle died from the complications of being sick, and the last words I had ever said in person were "I hate you." On the day of his funeral, right in front of my little brother, Travis put his hands where they shouldn't have been. Trying not to freak out my 5 year old little brother from screams of protest, I tried moving away and he kept fighting back, still touching where I didn't want to be touched. And while in the funeral home for Kyle he told me that I was never his 'girlfriend'. So really, I felt like a cheap lousy w****. 

i thought it might help to write it out, i am 18. however my mothers boyfriend got me tipsey then tryed to give me oral sex. i stopped him. i dont know if its hte alcohol but i feel horrible, hopefully i can wake up tomorrow and feel in a bettr mood. 

The answer to your question I am afraid to say is No! I hope that you have not been on the receiving end of abuse and that you are just curious...however if you have, without sounding cruel, you will just have to make it a part of you and then learn how to cope with that... otherwise you will not survive.... you will be a victim forever. You can do it,I know that it is hard as I suffer from Major Depression because of it now, although I am trying to move on. I am not a victim, I am a survivor however it doesnt mean that the scars are not there, they may not be present to anyone else, but you will know and its how you choose to move forward with them.