don't like nipples to be touched

I have had this feeling since I can't remember. Approximately 3 weeks ago I started with antidepressives (sertralin) and have just these last couple of days noticed that I can sleep without a bra, I can have something accidently brushing my nipples and it doesn't get me crazy. I don't ever wanna stop wiymth these pills now that my breasts are "normal". Anyone got the explanation of how SSRIs can help with this "angry nipple syndrome"?

I am so glad I found this site really I am perhaps someone can shed some light for me.

I have never had a problem with my nipples being touched up until a few weeks ago.  I have no idea why all of a sudden a rage will take over me , rage , irritation to the point im almost in tears.  It feels horrible.  Its driving a wedge between me and my SO who loves to touch them and cant understand why I push him away and get angry now.

We did have a baby 14 months ago and I struggled to breastfeed due to lack of supply so from 2 months onwards he was bottle fed.  I dont know if this is a linked factor or not?  I am thinking though if it were I would have felt this way about nipple touching from the onset of birth? Please help

I also have a problem with my nipples. When i was a teenager, touching by nipples always made me feel ver uneasy. That sudden "sad, depressing emptyness" feeling everyone's talking about. But it wasn't disgust or anger.

Now, i can touch my nipples and i don't get that feeling. I'm nt bothered by clothes touching or anything brushing against at all. I don't know what changed. But when i grew up, i have also realised that i absolutely hate to have my nipples licked or sucked. I HATE it. It's not that sad feeling. It's rage. It just feels so wrong and i want to beat the s*t out of my boyfriend when he does it. I'm ok with them being touched, i like it. But licking and sucking is just the worst feeling.

Anyone else who's ok with touching but not lickign/sucking?

I was also molested when i was a kid but i don't know if that's relevant.

I have this as well!!!

It's a really antagonising feeling and makes me tense everywhere (especially down below). I'm not even sure why I suffer from it... a childhood molestation has crossed my mind, and I pray to god that it's not for that reason... It's good to know I am not the only one who suffers from this. 

i have this feeling aswell what everyone is talking about but with my partner i used to love it and some time after i started associating breasts with babies and it would make me feel sick to feel them suckking my breast.. I started to become quite uncomfortable with sex aswell because i felt a pressure to please my partner with my breast but at the same time i would feel very uncomfortable and like my partenr was not paying attention to me..surely they would also like to pleasure me and should notice what i like and what makes me uncomfortable. if it has been a long time for you since last being intimate its good that you can wait, i would advise that maybe you start doing romantic things together and things you once did whilst dating before your children, go on dates ect reconnect on a romantic level but NO PRESSURE for intimacy and if you do get intimate i would advise you to avoid the breast completely. with my partner i could see in their face that they were trying really hard to hold bk from my chest and this would put me off because it would make me think of their needs yet again, and with intimacy its nice to have someone pay complete attention to you wihtout you worrying that theyre gonna do something you dont like of that your stopping them from doing something they want to. so do loads of things together but make sure taht u do not pressure her in anyway do not expect sex and let her initiate it if that time comes sort urself out privately so that your wife doesnt feel pressured again. your patients and understanding will probs reassure her that your still around and dont expect nothing from her because she probably feels like she has alot more expectations from children ect. and if you do get to a point where you are talking about intimacy ect after dating again and taking things at her pace maybe find out something shes always wanted to try in the bedroom, do some research in films or ask her to show you a film and make urself familiar with it and with that style and when you next get intimate, initiated by her do what she wanted and pay complete attention to her and dont think about ur needs im sure after some time if she is comfortable that you are willing to do that then she will return the favour...after a little time dnt expect. yhh idk if this answeres ur question or will help, jsut that me n my partner recently split because my sex drive was low, i wish they wouldve been patient with me n done this i feel it owuld have helped. i didnt want to cuddle and kiss because it would prbbably lead to other things where i felt i was doing it mostly for them, and not for me, i love them alot but they were insecure about waiting and thats why we finished unfortunately. if your wife says she didnt want kids, and now has kids to look after she probably feels like shes giving alot from herself to them and you, so yhh give it a go lemme know how it goes!! just do things at her pace and really act as if your indifferent to weather you get intimate or not and when u do dont get over excited n kill it for her, make sure your getting intimate FOR HER well i hope u catch me drift here and i hope you try it n it works for u!!

I do not like my nipples or breasts touched, either.  If my husband touches them, it instantly ticks me off.  He can not understand it.  We have been married for almost twenty years and no matter how much I tell him not to mess with them and that it is a turn off, he does it anyway.  I have very sensitive breasts and they both have fluid filled cysts in them, which in turn make them very sore before my monthly cycle.  I would much rather have a back rub. That is more of a turn on for me.  Anyone agree?

I've had this problem since I was 9. Anytime something accidentally brushed against them, or I touched them, just this feeling of absolute rage would come over me. It became tolerable when I became sexually active but never fully left. Over the years it's been getting a lot worse, especially recently. The biggest problem now is my husband. I have told him a million times to just leave them alone unless I ask for him to play with them, which once in a blue moon I actually want, but in the heat of the moment he'll still grab a feel or a lick and I'll push him away, and usually the moment is completely killed. It's to the point where we hardly have sex anymore because I don't trust him not to touch them. The most recent incident I was getting ready to head out and we were joking around with each other and I made fun of him, and his response was to flick one of my nipples. I moved to punch him, caught myself in mid swing and smashed my fist into a wall instead. It took over an hour for the feeling to leave which was the worst. Normally the nauseating rage I feel from it fades in a few minutes, but over an hour later I still couldn't even look at or speak to him. And let me be clear, we NEVER beat, let alone hit, each other. Hell, we've never had a real fight in the 4 years we've been together. So needless to say it scared him and me. I'm worried about how much worse this is going to get. I'm especially afraid of it destroying my marriage.

Me too but the reason why I don't like my nipples touched is because my daddy used to touched them . Especially when my breasts got bigger.

I also feel nauseous, sad and irritated when my boyfriend touches my nipples.

Before we got together i couldn't imagine wanting anyone to touch my breasts.When we first started going out i really wanted it (for the first time in my life)We took it realllllyyyy slow. and at first it felt amazing..and i almost came whenever he played with them!now...i sort of tolerate it. I've showed him how to do it in a way that doesn't hurt as much...but the nipples often make me feel sick and sad.

I've had a past boyfriend that i ended the relationship of after not being psychically attracted to for almost a year. and i know i still have baggage from that (i saw sexual stuff as something i should grit my teeth and tolerate..)At first i was super excited that i didn't feel that way about sexual stuff with my new boyfriend.now i don't feel as good anymore.

I want something to fix it! i want a remedy!it sucks that there are so many of us with such similar problems but there is no fix. Maybe it is something spiritual/ emotional...maybe its a psychical hormone released at those time. either way. i'm sick of it!

wow, i'm in total shock i found this topic posted online.  it's great to know i'm not alone.  it is even making me feel like fingers down a chalkboard to read abt it.  it STINKS and i hate being like this.  it doesn't appear any Dr's or Psychologists have any answers or advice here so that's disapointing.  don't really want to bring this up to any of my personal Dr's b/c like you all said it sounds crazy and since this is the only thing i can find abt it online, i guess we are one in a few that suffer w/ this. 

Hey, I suffer with the same thing. I've never had children or breastfed, but I kind of linked it to this disorder http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysphoric_milk_ejection_reflex

perhaps link, without the breastmilk obviously.

This condition caused me a lot of grief when my children were born, as interfered with and spoilt my breastfeeding experience (or lack thereof!)

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So glad I found this! I am 38 and have two kids. I breastfed my first for 5 months with no problem and my second baby 4 years later I only b-fed for about one week. After the birth of my first however (age 19) was the first time I experienced this negative feeling to having my nipples touched although I don't recall feeling it during feedings. I only felt like this when my husband touched them. My feelings were a deep self loathing shame. I felt dark inside. I felt filthy and gross. If it happened during the act of sex I would shut down completely feeling as if I was doing something wrong. I kept feeling like my husband wanted my body to belong to him but my son needed my body to belong to him instead and yet I just wanted my body to belong to me alone and I couldn't have things the way I wanted. And so I felt extreme violation. This feeling dissipated to a lesser feeling if shame over time and then reared its ugly head four years later when my daughter was born. I just could not b-feed her. Again it dissipated over time but to this day I still do not enjoy over stimulation. I don't mind very hard rough tough like biting or hard sucking or hard punching. The pain seems to cancel the shame feelings but light tender touch makes me ill. I want to shut down and crawl into a fetal position and sexual arousal ends. I have read EVERY SINGLE entry by all of you and I am relieved and fascinated to see that I am not alone. I will say that I was molested as a child however my situation was different. I was not touched by on my nipples so I see no connection and my molestation did not negatively affect me. So therefore I cannot connect this feeling of shame to that childhood experience. I have read many suggestions of this D-MER which I find interesting and it sounds legit. I have been on and off anti-depressants over the years. I am about to start them over again. I think however I will take a more involved approach with my depression treatment after reading this and request something that I think will address this problem as well. I want to thank all of you who have posted your experiences as its helped me to understand. Rant begins now: And to the few insensitive men in here who complained about how you cannot help yourselves and its just natural to not be able to control your urges and how we are being selfish...I hope your never get pleasurable sex again!

I have had this problem since my breasts grew. I am 44 now and I have ever hated the existence of nipples. Most people here say that they feel uncomfortable, weird, ashamed or dirty after the touch, but I feel only a physical feeling that goes between severe tenderness to real pain. My nipples are like button sized and you would think they would be "solid/invulnerable" but when touched they give the feeling of something like a scratch you have on your body where one or two layers of your skin has been removed and the remaining part makes you feel like you are almost touching the open wound, so the harder the touch is the more the uncomfortable feeling turns into pain. I think this may be the result of something like some "undeveloped" tissue or organ ... I don't know.... I really would like to know why this happens and whether it is treatable.

Like many others have stated, I'm glad to know I'm not alone, but I'm still depressed that I can't find an answer.

I hate having my breasts/nipples touched. It makes my skin crawl, it's crawling right now just thinking about it. I always have to wear a bra, I feel uncomfortable just chaning bras sometimes. I don't think I've always been this way. I have small boobs, so I've never been one to really show them off, but there had to be a time in my life where I didn't mind. I know I didn't as a teen. The repressed sexual abuse is something I always think about. Sometimes I have nightmares about it, but I get along really well with my family so I don't know that it's the case.

Like others have mentioned, I do have a thryoid problem and I'm on levothyroxin, but I've searched and searched and I can't find any studies on the connection between the two.

I didn't breastfeed my children because the thought of it just made me feel sick, but I feel bad for my husband because I know he'd like to touch my breasts without me flipping out. I'm just looking for help.