From a guys perspective it makes me feel guilty for wanting something I know can never have, but I also feel frustrated when I am told I can look but can't touch any sensitive parts of my wife's body as it makes her feel sick, uncomfortable or even sore. She tells me she can't even touch her own breasts without it making her feel sick. I'm relieved to know that we are not alone in having such difficulties. Perhaps such things are a lot more common than you would think.
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Best advice is that you don't beat yourself up about it. Find something else to do that you both enjoy. If there's genuine love between you then it's who you are with that matters not the exact details of what you are doing.
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I have the same issue! I used to LOVE having my nipples touched. It used to turn me on so much. I got into a relationship with my current boyfriend almost 3 years ago. We always had sex he would touch me everywhere and i didnt mind. But about 6 months ago or so i started to feel weird when he would touch them...violated almost. Sometimes i can let him and it feels good .and when i touch them myself theres no discomfort. But when he just grabs them out of nowhere (because he loves boobs lol) or even when my shirt rubs up against them i feel SO uncomfortable. Like i wanna just cross my arms over my chest really tightly and hide under a blanket. I used to not mind when he would lick them during sex...but now i cant stand it! It makes me irritated and makes me want to stop having sex with him at the moment. It makes me feel gross.sadly he has been very physically
and mentally abusive to me in the past. We've managed to work things out i have some resentment toward him but still love him very much and im still very attracted to him. Im not sure if the abuse plays a role in why i feel so violated. This just literally came out of nowhere and its very frustrating and is starting to mess with my sex life. Every time before we are about to have sex i have to think of a way to keep him from touching them and it takes the enjoyment out of it and takes my mind out of the moment. I dont know what to do or who to talk to but atleast i know im not alone.
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So upset that it hasn't been answered still. I would really like to fix my problem before I have children
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I absolutely HATE my nipples being touchedplayed with. I've never heard the molestation thing before but I was molested ten years ago so I wonder if that has something to do with it.. But I also had a kid three months ago and I breast fed and I hated it, it hurt and was uncomfortable and ever since then I want to scream when my fiance touches my nipples.
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I'm sorry to tell you this but I don't think you can just fix it, I thing it is a psychological problem. I have talked to my doctors about this multiple times, different doctors too, and they have no explanation and they give me no advice on how to fix it or make it go back to normal. They just say tough luck.
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I have the same problem. I use to wear bras to sleep when I was in highschool to prevent it.Unfortunately this "sick, uncomfortable" feeling (feeling overwhelmed, abused) has transfered to my feelings regarding sex overall. My partner used to touch them alot even though I told him not too. We used the calendar contraception method, which was a mistake because you can only have sex when your body doesn't want it. (the pill gave me depression and circulation side-effects) I am looking for solutions and answers. My mother has hypothyroidis, I might have a bit of that. But one thing that came into mind is that at my last blood test, everything was normal...exept that my prolactin level was at the highest of the "normal" ratio. My doctor took note of it to make sure to look at it for the next test, saying that we must be make sure it doesnt raise more.I just read that high levels of prolactin can cause a loss of libido and sensibility in the breast. This might be something to look into.
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My boyfriend will literally just sit there with his hand up my shirt and play with them while we watch a movie or something. I literally just sit there thinking "What are you even doing?"
I barely even feel it. Thing is, I like when I do it to myself.
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I breastfed two children and I stopped liking my nipples played with after that. I loved breastfeeding! I even loved men sucking on them at that time. Now it's irritating or dull. They don't have a lot of feeling when rubbed, then husband squeezes more and hurts. I'm having life stressors and on a kick of some anxiety and depression, so this might be buzz killing too.
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Thank you for being honest! i wish someone could come up with an answer. do you ever touch yourself and enjoy your own caress? if so, teach your husband.... to us that LOVE breast, it is like having a beautiful piece of candy just to find out that it tastes like garlic. i'm sure your husband is just trying to find a way to get you interested again and is experimenting. just help him and talk to him....... if it does feel good let him know. equally, let him know that it hurts. i am no Dr. but the anxiety and depression is best broken by the unexpected, crazy fun!! go skinning dipping, run naked through a park and hold those you LOVE........ very close!! don't worry about things that haven't happened!!! keep the faith and keep pushing forward!!
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I feel like that too.. After if i touch my nipple or something i get this stupid feeling in my stomach it makes me want to cry or stab someone in the face with a knife... It's horrible i hate it.
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I'm guessing its hormonal. Nipple stimulation leads to elevated levels of the hormone prolactin and possibly other hormones. Its likely that some people develop a dysregulated hormonal balance that leads to negative feelings and sensations in response to hormone release. I couldn't find a direct link to prolactin in nausea, but repressors of prolactin (dopamine agonists) do cause this sensation.
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