yeah, this just happened to me last night. It was my first time having sex with my new girlfriend, but not my first time having sex. It had been a long day at work and it was only a last minute decision to have her over my house. I dont think i was really in the mood. Now, I feel pretty confident about my size so that wasnt the problem, and i definitely knew what to do. She was looking sooooo hot. But every time i put a condom on, my erection went away just like that. I kept kissing her and feeling all over her and stuff, but i couldnt get it to come back on. It was so goddamn embarrassing. I wasted like two condoms. I even tried getting a helping-hand from her, but she didnt do much good. I was able to get by saying i just needed a little more time before i was ready to take that next step in our relationship, and then i just got her with my fingers so she could get something that night. I guess i was just nervous. Im not sure why though, other nights id felt so confident... I dont know why i didnt last night. Im going to try again tomorrow night, hopefully things will work out better. 8-|
First of all let me say that I consider myself a VERY turned on guy and I get turned on very easily.
But last night I had sex for the first time with this very hot girl she gave me some oral first I gathered all my strength and tried my best and I got little hard then she tried to sit on top ... etc etc .. but still no real erection. I couldn't please her.
The weird thing is that I didn't enjoy a thing even though in my mind I always thought doing all these things will make me cum right away! But I didn't enjoy at all, why? cause I was EXTREMELY shy and nervous and focused on her and what she thinks of me and what should or shouldn't I do,etc,etc.. it ruined the whole experience for me.
My advice for all of you out there, Don't think too much about the whole thing ,, just do it! ,, if its your first time and at some point you allow yourself to start having these thoughts (omg its happening!, what should I do!, etc) .. then your going down. (get it? going 'down' ? lol .... oh shut up! it is funny! )
But last night I had sex for the first time with this very hot girl she gave me some oral first I gathered all my strength and tried my best and I got little hard then she tried to sit on top ... etc etc .. but still no real erection. I couldn't please her.
The weird thing is that I didn't enjoy a thing even though in my mind I always thought doing all these things will make me cum right away! But I didn't enjoy at all, why? cause I was EXTREMELY shy and nervous and focused on her and what she thinks of me and what should or shouldn't I do,etc,etc.. it ruined the whole experience for me.
My advice for all of you out there, Don't think too much about the whole thing ,, just do it! ,, if its your first time and at some point you allow yourself to start having these thoughts (omg its happening!, what should I do!, etc) .. then your going down. (get it? going 'down' ? lol .... oh shut up! it is funny! )
hey guys i know how you feel..
foreplay is all yours, youre fooling around making out, touching, youre ready to rock her world but then the second you go to do the deed you lose it.
for some reason this happens to me when its my first time with a girl, its exactly what everyone else is saying, youre just nervous. youre concerned about what she will think and how good you'll preform.
like others said, try having a drink. have a beer or two to loosen you up,
or try to relax and have the state of mind where youre not worried about what she thinks, but she is worried about what you think. sometimes it works for me, sometimes it doesnt. its all about the mind. if u cant figure out a way to fix it go to a herbal supplement store and get a bottle of "turned on goat weed" one capsule for me will get me started, so i can naturally go on and on, and on, and on. :-)
for those of you taking our advice lets us know what works/doesnt work for you so others can benefit!
foreplay is all yours, youre fooling around making out, touching, youre ready to rock her world but then the second you go to do the deed you lose it.
for some reason this happens to me when its my first time with a girl, its exactly what everyone else is saying, youre just nervous. youre concerned about what she will think and how good you'll preform.
like others said, try having a drink. have a beer or two to loosen you up,
or try to relax and have the state of mind where youre not worried about what she thinks, but she is worried about what you think. sometimes it works for me, sometimes it doesnt. its all about the mind. if u cant figure out a way to fix it go to a herbal supplement store and get a bottle of "turned on goat weed" one capsule for me will get me started, so i can naturally go on and on, and on, and on. :-)
for those of you taking our advice lets us know what works/doesnt work for you so others can benefit!
I'm so glad im not the only guy with this problem.. just a few hours ago i was about too loose my V with my girlfriend whos also a virgin, she started sucking me and i just could not get fully erect and i was trying to hard, then we went into 69 i thought maybe that would help but it didn't, i was trying to get but i would bend because i wasn't hard enough..this is relieving writing this down, i definitely think it was because i was overly pumped about loosing it that i had way too many thoughts going through my head.. oh theres always round 2 tomorrow, lets see what happens.
Well, this really sucks... My girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly month and two weeks and we felt the most comfortable (sexually and personally) with each other than anyone else we've been with... So its just been my birthday and i know she really wanted to make this special (and so did i hence i kept my v rather than getting drunk and stabbing some random bird). So there we were... i had everything set i was up she was turned on and wet... i thought it was time to put the condom on... Put it on... got into position... few seconds later... ahhhh sh*t! This happened soo many times. I was so embarrased and what was worse i actually had to ask myself if i was gay! lol
But rest assured this does happen and we tried again the day after and it was alot better! And i finally lost it to the girl i love! :-D
It does all come down to nerves and trying to think too hard on keeping a boner... i spose that the more nervous you get the more your heart goes and therefore taking the blood out of your penis... :/ Another thing ive found is that when its a girls first time they assume its going to absolutely kill, for some this is the case! But others not soo much. When a girl knows this she will normally hold you back if shes not sure "your going to fit " Which subconsciously f**ks you up and with the lack of action then your penis stops thinking its sexy time!
Good luck guys. Its hard and frustrating i know, but stick with it... if the girl doesn't understand/sympathise then she's probably not the one you want to lose it too!
But rest assured this does happen and we tried again the day after and it was alot better! And i finally lost it to the girl i love! :-D
It does all come down to nerves and trying to think too hard on keeping a boner... i spose that the more nervous you get the more your heart goes and therefore taking the blood out of your penis... :/ Another thing ive found is that when its a girls first time they assume its going to absolutely kill, for some this is the case! But others not soo much. When a girl knows this she will normally hold you back if shes not sure "your going to fit " Which subconsciously f**ks you up and with the lack of action then your penis stops thinking its sexy time!
Good luck guys. Its hard and frustrating i know, but stick with it... if the girl doesn't understand/sympathise then she's probably not the one you want to lose it too!
Well, this really sucks... My girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly month and two weeks and we felt the most comfortable (sexually and personally) with each other than anyone else we've been with... So its just been my birthday and i know she really wanted to make this special (and so did i hence i kept my v rather than getting drunk and stabbing some random bird). So there we were... i had everything set i was up she was turned on and wet... i thought it was time to put the condom on... Put it on... got into position... few seconds later... ahhhh sh*t! This happened soo many times. I was so embarrased and what was worse i actually had to ask myself if i was gay! lol
But rest assured this does happen and we tried again the day after and it was alot better! And i finally lost it to the girl i love! :-D
It does all come down to nerves and trying to think too hard on keeping a boner... i spose that the more nervous you get the more your heart goes and therefore taking the blood out of your penis... :/ Another thing ive found is that when its a girls first time they assume its going to absolutely kill, for some this is the case! But others not soo much. When a girl knows this she will normally hold you back if shes not sure "your going to fit " Which subconsciously f**ks you up and with the lack of action then your penis stops thinking its sexy time!
Good luck guys. Its hard and frustrating i know, but stick with it... if the girl doesn't understand/sympathise then she's probably not the one you want to lose it too!
But rest assured this does happen and we tried again the day after and it was alot better! And i finally lost it to the girl i love! :-D
It does all come down to nerves and trying to think too hard on keeping a boner... i spose that the more nervous you get the more your heart goes and therefore taking the blood out of your penis... :/ Another thing ive found is that when its a girls first time they assume its going to absolutely kill, for some this is the case! But others not soo much. When a girl knows this she will normally hold you back if shes not sure "your going to fit " Which subconsciously f**ks you up and with the lack of action then your penis stops thinking its sexy time!
Good luck guys. Its hard and frustrating i know, but stick with it... if the girl doesn't understand/sympathise then she's probably not the one you want to lose it too!
How many of you guys smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, and sometimes use street drugs. It is not your fear or nerves talking. Multiple times masturbation is not what is causing your lack of hardness. When you do masturbate next time, right before you have orgasm tighten your buttocks and tightly hold the tip of your penis until the feeling stops, stroke to that point again and again for at least 3 times after each masturbation session, fourth time you can release your juices. What you are doing is training and strengten your penile blood vessels. Next time you will be hard as steel, and not have an orgasm so quick after insertion, but a powerful feeling of doing it right for a change. Most females will fake their orgasms, you can tell when she cums after practice guys. Her getting wet and tighten inside is not an orgasm, that is her way of lubricating her vagina. Her little penis hood is her clitoris that makes her turned on when stimulated. Females masturbate more than males because they get turned on more often than you. Having an orgasm is not sex guys, - learn to do what I suggested, you'll end the blues and lost erections. Those who do drugs and smoke most often can not obtain a solid erection. Stop being depressed, it is your own fault for hanging around those who smoke, stay stoned, and drink often.
Yeah this happened to me when i tried to put the condom on. I was really nervous, and after that happened I was even more nervous AND embarrased. I was soo frustrated that I ran to the store and bought a natural male enhancement pill.....WHICH WAS FU**ING AWESOME! felt like a porn star hahahaha. Anyway it gave me loads of confidence. 8)
I've done everything with my gf except for sex, we tried it today and i thought i would cum too fast so i had her give me a bj before hand, then when it was time i couldnt get hard. she got it hard by sucking me and when i put it in i lost it. it's a huge relief to know im not the only guy with this problem. but i think im gonna try that natural male enhancement
Same here... I just got done to try having sex w/ my gf. It went hard, we play a bit and then when I went to put my condom on it wasn't as hard... Then we were f*****g and my penis was getting softer and softer... I just felt it when we started, then it was sh*t... What should I do nxt time? Am I gonna continue w/ my boner or what??!! >;)
im so glad to hear that im not the only one. it happened to me last night, i was going to have sex for the first time with my gf and i was so nervous but when we were about to start i lost my erection. it was so embarrassing-.- but ill guess that next time, ill try to calm down a bit and maybe have a beer or something before we start...
Thank god this has happened to other people. I've never had anything done to me from a girl but done things for them on many occasions, and last week, my girlfriend was staying over with me after a night out and she tried to give me head twice and I got nothing, then I go down on her and have a raging hard on. . . . WHAT THE F*^%. Reading this has lifted a HUGE weight off of my mind knowing that it's a common occorunace and I think now knowing this, I'll be able to remain calm come the next time around.
I had the same problem, my penis was going erect but it weren't going fully erect. Especially when it came to the part where I had to put the condom on. I couldn't do it on the first time because of my penis, but I had a rest for roughly about 10-20 minutes, yeah I was completely embarrassed but when I was cooling down me and my girlfriend were talking and she was making me feel really comfortable. Talking about your problem will help you, it will build up your confidence. We managed to do it the second time round, so good luck guys. :-)
I had my gf over the other day and we were gonna have sex for the first time, im also a virgin so I was very nervous. I Couldn't get a full erection, not even when she gave me head :-(. Hopefully it will go smoother next time
Holy sh*t. I cant believe i found this site either haha. What a reliefe! my gf just left. I had the condom on, and I lost it! she also tried giving me head a couple times. I got hard but nothing happened! im just syked out i know it. Whatever. Now i know i have nothing to worry bout.