Hi guys, since everyone here is posting their stories and it's helping me feel a lot better I'll post mine and try to help make other guys feel more confident. A couple of hours ago I asked my girlfriend if she wanted to have sex with me. We've been seeing each other for over three months and we're both virgins. We both agreed we wanted to lose our virginity together though :). So I ask her and instead of saying no like she did the other times I asked she said ok. All of a sudden I'm shaking a little and I'm dead nervous. I tell her I have to go to the bathroom (lol) so I do and I drink some water and try to find some confidence. I have great experiences with this girl. She's made me cum a few times before and she's pretty much amazing. She's on the pill and I have a condom so everythings safe. You'd think I have nothing to worry about. So then I climb back into bed with her and we start kissing and you know general foreplay. She undresses me before I get the chance to take off any of her clothes so I'm thinking wow she must really want this.. I'm rocking a huge boner. I get those even when she gives me a hug. So I undress her and meanwhile she's playing with my stuff a little and we keep on foreplaying so I ask her if I should put on the condom, she says yes so I take it out of the package and as soon as it touches my penis, BAM! Like the strings holding it up were cut it just drops dead and it won't stand up anymore no matter what we try. If she stroked it it would stand up but then immediately fall back down. I was shaking, that's how nervous I was but come on! I was really embarassed and when I finally thought I could keep my boner she didn't want to do it anymore. So I was really hating on myself. It really sucks my stupid body has to act this way. I mean it's a cruel world isn't it that you can get a boner from staring at a garbage truck from a classroom while listening to a teacher drone on about some useless piece of knowledge and then when you need your body to perform it betrays you.
I'll have a couple beers before I try next time. This post has really helped me regain some of my confidence 'cause I seriously felt like sh*t when I got home. thanks guys!
Hello!
I was about to have my first sex with my girlfriend last week... but something strange happened!
I was really hard on the foreplay but when I was about to put the condom on I got some technical issues with it, couldn't get it properly on.
So I struggled there for a while, and suddently just poof... it went down. And I got really mad and frustrated, also embarrased.
She said its no problem and we'll take it another time.
I am afraid actually, I really hope it just was nervousity, because I was feeling really nervous.
We will try it soon again and I hope for the best!
Thanks for the helpfull information!
,
SashaW
I was about to have my first sex with my girlfriend last week... but something strange happened!
I was really hard on the foreplay but when I was about to put the condom on I got some technical issues with it, couldn't get it properly on.
So I struggled there for a while, and suddently just poof... it went down. And I got really mad and frustrated, also embarrased.
She said its no problem and we'll take it another time.
I am afraid actually, I really hope it just was nervousity, because I was feeling really nervous.
We will try it soon again and I hope for the best!
Thanks for the helpfull information!
,
SashaW
I wish i had read this a few days ago, it would have saved me a lot of nerves :-) I've just got back from a vacation with my new gf. Usually i get hard pretty easily, but when we were alone in bed for the first time, kissing, caressing,... i started to feel strange, like it's not happening to me, and when she complained that i weren't doing anything but kissing, i got so nervous, and my penis shrunk like never before. We didn't have much time, so i just went down and gave her an oral, which she enjoyed i think :-) butt still i thought that i have some serious problem, and i was a bit scared of our next time in the bed together. During the next few days, my erections would just come and go, even during sex. My penis was so insensitive, i just couldn't cum... But as the time passed i was able to calm myself, i figured out what i like, so the last time we had sex it was pretty good, not great, but it will be i'm sure :-D
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me and my girl tried for the second time tonight. the first time i got a little hard but no dice. tonight i was getting up and....yeah. both time we were in my car though and im kinda nervous that i wont be good. shes been with one other guy so were about the same. shes being very supportive i must admit. we both want to. it is good to know that other guys are going through the same thing too and theres not something wrong with me.
It was first with this girl i loved for three years i have wanted her so bad for all those three years and noting my penis could not stay hard it was worst felling i ever had i love this girl more than she said it was ok but deep i feel really bad and angry at my self i never had a problem getting hard or staying but when am about the lose my virginity to the girl i wanted for so long not some random girl that i love and my penis fail me it just make feel like i can't look her in the face every again.
About a month ago I had my first time, and I couldn't get up... Me and a girl from my class tried, and it f*cked up(Not in a good way)... She had been waiting for it all day, and I had been "awake" earlier that day, but when we took our clothes off, "mini-me" kinda fell asleep... well, not entirely asleep, he was kinda on the edge of fallin' asleep... So we tried to do it anyway, but it failed... :(
Wow exact same thing happened to me today. Glad i came across this site. So everything was going well we were lying in her bed then started making out and fingering her and stuff then taking off our clothes. Then we were feeling up each other naked and I was rock hard ready to go, then all of a sudden I could feel it my erection had disappeared. I tried everything to get it back up, she even helped but nothing worked. Like everyone was saying a lot was going through my mind and also it felt a bit rushed because I had to leave for school soon. But yeah good to know that this is pretty common. Getting my confidence back and ill f*****g hard next time around just gotta keep things off my mind.
same problem wid me....bt i guess nt bcoz of nervousness(coz it wasn't my first time, had screwed 2 girls bfore, she ws my 3rd....)....bt due 2 d fact dat she was an ugly prostitute, n i got turned off.....no erection at all.....wasted a bloody condom n 500 bucks...lolz
I'm 17 years old and i recently tried to have sex with my girl for the first time and i couldn't keep my penis hard and i pretty much failed miserably... It hurt my pride and confidence. She thought it was her fault and i had to convince her that it was on me.. I'm hoping that next time i can be successful.. all you can do is keep your head up and move on to the next one. If she really likes you and cares about you she'll be patient.
hey im six teen and this happened to me. i was with a girl i met at a party shes 19 and everything was good i was rock hard. then when i went and got a condom from my buddy. i got my pants off put the condom on and i did get it in but i started to lose it about a minute in. its suck i feel like total sh*t about it. exspecaily some people know about what happened and im super embearrsist FUUUUUCCCCCKKKK this sucks asless you guys dont have to worrie about your girl telling anyone. it between u and her
im 16 man samething happened to me my buddy gave me a condom and i guess it was too small and when i got it on i was good for like 2 minute and dead. but i was with a randon college chick so now like a ton of people know cause she told somepeople man im f*****g pissed
smoke some weed first makes u super turned on
Same thing happened to me yesterday, i had a lot of beer, and we went back to bed, i just couldnt get a good erection, she tried oral on me, and i would have some erection and the moment i would put on a condom, its gone, and this morning tried with the same result, wasted 2 condoms, and not to mention how embarrasing this whole thing is, it just ruined the whole date, god ! I am just 26, how can this be happening to me. I have way too many things running in my mind, i just dont seem to like anything, kinda resigned from everythin, but whtever said, i couldnt get it up, is really embarrasing
dude the same thing happened to me today! I was with this girl that ive gotten head from before and she has had sex before but i did not. She was giving me head for a while and i was pretty hard and then i tried to put on a condom and my penis and i put it in and i started going soft. She tried everything to make me hard again, she would give me head and handjobs and i would only stay hard for a little bit. i was so dissapointed with myself and i guess i was just to nervous and thinking too much. im supposed to have sex with her tommorrow so hopefully i can makeup from today.
Fk it happened to me and i was so fkn depressed. but according to u guys its kine normal so ill go and watch porn.