im 13 and i love doing the same thing but don't go to far with this, i have squirted a little before and it was good but i also hurt myself once :( all you need to do is get very relaxed, on a day when no one is home or you are done with everything you need to worry about and then relax and play around for a bit.
try but not to hard
Hey I know you were not talking to me, but I thought I could help. Most women cannot bring themselves to orgasm without the clit being played with so it is normal for you not to like penetration, but anyway here is my answer.
Stroke your breasts, belly and thighs. Feel your skin raise into goosebumps as you become aroused by your own touch. Don't leave an inch of skin unexplored: search out and touch all the places on your body you don't consider to be "sexual," such as the backs of your knees, your underarms, the crevice between your vulva and inner thighs. You'll soon find out what turns you on.
When you're completely comfortable with your body, move your hands between your legs. If this is difficult or uncomfortable for you, start slow. Get out a hand mirror and a flashlight and look at yourself. Many women have never done this before and have no idea what they look like. In order to feel completely comfortable masturbating, you need to understand your anatomy. Pull your labia apart and examine your clitoris and vaginal opening. Try stroking your clitoris and watch what happens. As you become aroused, blood will flow to your clitoris, enlarging it and turning it a deep shade of red--much like a man's erect penis. The sensitive skin below your clitoris, surrounding your vaginal opening, may become puckered, like the goosebumps on your arms and legs. Don't worry! It's a perfectly natural response to arousal.
As you become more comfortable and aroused, set aside the mirror and flashlight and try to completely relax. Continue to stroke your clitoris, mons pubis and vaginal opening. Concentrate on the areas that feel the best. Once you are fully aroused, you'll most likely become wet with vaginal lubrication. Try inserting a finger or two and see how that feels. Some women enjoy penetration when masturbating, some don't. Neither way is better. That's one of the joys of self-love--you can engage in only the stimulation that you enjoy, nothing more and nothing less. You're in it for yourself alone. Try different types of stimulation and see what feels best. Or try a few of the following "advanced" moves:
With your thumb and forefinger on either side of your clitoris, gently roll it between your fingers. Begin with a slow, gentle roll and then gradually accelerate the movement until you find the speed that works for you.
Place two fingers directly on your clitoris and move them in a circular motion. Try varying speed and intensity.
"Draw" a circle around your clitoris with your middle finger. Women who find direct clitoral pressure too intense will enjoy this move.
Try tracing the alphabet on your clitoris with your index finger. This technique may not bring you to orgasm, but it might clue you in to some sensations otherwise undiscovered.
Use one hand to separate and hold apart your labia, fully exposing your clitoris. Dip the index finger from your other hand in some lubricant--from your body or from a bottle--and gently tap your clitoris. Vary speed and intensity and be patient: as you tap harder and longer, a wonderful sensation will build until you feel like you're going to explode.
When you're aroused and lubricated, gently thrust one or two fingers in and out of your vagina. Many women who believe they can only achieve orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation are surprised to find that penetration can also bring them to a rousing climax.
While stimulating your clitoris with one hand, try thrusting a few fingers into your vagina with your other hand. The combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be very exciting.
Try any of the above techniques while lying on your belly. Some women prefer the slight difference in stimulation and the gentle "humping" motion they can make while enjoying this position.
Try stimulating your G-Spot: lie on your back with your knees raised and insert your middle finger into your vagina in an inverted "come hither" motion. About two inches into your vagina, on the wall closest to your stomach, you'll feel a spongy, slightly raised area. That's your G-Spot, also known as your urethral sponge. Because the sensitive portion of this area is actually on the other side of several layers of skin, it will respond best to pressure, not stroking. Try pressing your G-Spot with varying intensities. If you don't like it, just stop doing it. G-Spot stimulation isn't for everyone. However, if you do like it, try simultaneously stroking your clitoris with your other hand. Rumor has it that orgasms produced by G-Spot stimulation can be very intense.
One rule to remember--regardless of the technique you prefer--is to be nice to yourself. Masturbation is for you; you are the only person you need to worry about pleasing. Do what feels good for you. Don't worry about having an orgasm. With the multitude of nerve endings in your vulva, you will enjoy the stimulation regardless of whether or not you come. Revel in the sensations you produce in your body.
Firstly empty your bladder before doing this.
Get yourself aroused as you normally would. Masturbate for a while, and then begin:
The clitoris probably holds the key to female ejaculation for most women. If the clitoris is not stimulated a woman is less likely to become highly aroused. If she is not highly aroused, her paraurethral glands will not fill with fluid. If her paraurethral glands are not swollen she may not have a G spot. If her clitoris is not stimulated she is less likely to reach orgasm, preventing the rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles that expel and release the ejaculate. So quite simply, before you can go exploring for the G spot, you must master clitoral stimulation beforehand.
How to stimulate your G spot
The best way to stimulate your G spot is with your fingers. They are firm but flexible. They have feeling and give you feedback. However, using your fingers can cause a problem. They just are not very long. Plus, if one hand is stimulating your clitoris, it limits access to your vagina with your other hand. So in addition to fingers, a dildo and/or vibrator are usually required for finding and stimulating the G spot.
How to choose a dildo
The dildos that do have a good success rate are those that are curved near the tip, called G spot stimulators, and penis shaped dildos with a prominent ridge at the junction of the glans and shaft. Some women find hard plastic dildos work best, others, soft flexible ones. Others prefer slim dildos that they can be directed at a specific area within their vagina, others prefer their vagina to be filled and stretched to the maximum. If you are going to buy a dildo to use for G spot stimulation, be prepared to buy and try many. Any woman who is seriously considering using dildos needs to be aware that she will most likely have a collection of favorites, versus one special one.
I need to pee ?!
When you are about to ejaculate, you will get the feeling to need to pee (this is normal, as both fluids come from the same place). This is because both urination and ejaculation require a woman to be able to let go and relax her bladder sphincter and her pelvic muscles. If you keep your bladder sphincter closed and tighten your pelvic muscles, you cannot urinate or ejaculate. Women who want to ejaculate are advised to push out when the urge to urinate or ejaculate comes over them at the point of orgasm. Doing this gives your body permission to ejaculate.
Learning to ejaculate
The urge to ejaculate may not occur without there being stimulation of your paraurethral glands. This is likely to require the use of a dildo if you are alone. As you massage your clitoris, using your fingers or a dildo stimulate your urethra by massaging the top of your vagina; using only light pressure at first. Massage the full length of your urethra, from the opening of your vagina back into your vagina a couple inches. Keep up the clitoral massage. Try different pressures and strokes. Massaging the urethral opening may feel pleasant as well. Stimulating your urethra may cause you to feel the need to urinate, as is desired. Do not fight the urge; go with the flow, literally. Relax and breathe deeply.
If you find a spot that is highly sensitive, you may want to concentrate solely on it, but you may find it is too sensitive to stimulate directly. If your G spot is highly sensitive, you may find you are only able to tolerate its stimulation when you are very close to orgasm, when your pain threshold has increased. Keep massaging your clitoris and urethra. Continue to the point of orgasm. A slow build up, with lots of teasing, may help produce the greatest urge and strongest orgasm. When orgasm occurs, relax your bladder and press out as if urinating. If you ejaculate you will likely feel a new and strong sensation, if not, you will still experience a strong orgasm, so nothing is lost.
Dear Casey
Not knowing how to squirt need not be embarrassing. Many older women don't know, let alone a 16-year old.
EmmaKing has given some good tips, however remember that any penetration could break your hymen, and you might not want that.
Each girl responds differently, so don't worry ... that won't help. Just enjoy the stimulation you get and 'go with the flow'.
How far have you got? do you orgasm without squirting?
Sometimes you can feel more free chatting about this in a private conversation where you can get more personal attention without embarrassment.
Hope this helps as a start
im 13 to and i LOVE fingering and rubbing myself to and i have squirted maybe like 18 times....but what ive been doing is i got the "wave" fase washer and it vibrates and it feels amazing even though the vibrate isnt that strong and it made me squirt (ovi i dont use it on my face anymore)...but what else feels great is if u have i jet tub i usally just find the strongest jet and i elevate so i can hump the jet...it is the best feeling ever oh and wen i rub myself i usally watch porn at the same time...hope this helped
Watching porn is counter-productive. Porn is addictive and dangerous. That is why it is age-restricted.
Its very easy .. u needd 2 find ure g spot just put ure left pointing finger in ure vagina until u feel a rough surface ....its ure gspot then u need to rub in gently with ure right pointing finger on the clit u can easily quirt...hope this is useful bye
You actually dont need a dildo do u have a permanent jumbo marker that is more than enough
Now 22, I started masturbating at 12 years old. I used to run cross country and thus drank a lot of water. When I would play with myself I would use one of my big sister's toys, she had a bunch and the best for me was a thick waterproof toy. I would rub my clit and the toy would be going inside of me. Depending on the position I could almost always squirt. Maybe it was because I was always full of water, maybe its because I am just born that way. So my hints are drink a lot of water and get into the right position. If you still are struggling, try another position. What works for me is when I have my heels behind my head with my shoulders in front of my knees giving me free reign to my p***y.
Also for those in your life telling you that you are too young to be masturbating or asking these questions: ignore them. As a woman it is important to be confident sexually, to know what you want and how to get it. As you get older there will be a lot of creeps that will objectify you and treat you like property. Knowing what you want isn't a bad thing, knowing how to get what you want is better and knowing when to walk away from something that isn't good is the key to happiness and good sex. I say play with yourself as much as you want, I was 12 when I learned I could squirt. My boyfriend loves this about me, and I love him for loving me the way I am.
im a young girl myself...and the thing that makes me cum the most is get it the tub and let the water hit ur clit...u wil cum almost instantly!